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A healthy sexual life is closely linked to your daily activities, the activities you engage in, and the foods you consume. We are all familiar with the proverb, “You are what you eat!” Yes, it is accurate! Your lifestyle and sexual life are determined by the food you eat.
A good diet is necessary for a healthy sexual life, and vice versa.
Do you want to have a healthier sexual life in general, boost your libido, and intensify your sexual excitement?

If so, you should begin integrating these meals into your routine to improve your quality of life in bed.
You’ll soon have the greatest sexual life you deserve.

Cook your way into a new era marked by a sharp rise in sexually healthy relationships. Here are a few listings of naturally occurring foods that are particularly health-promoting from Africa.

1. Pawpaw (Papaya)
“Sweet like sugar; yellow like Fanta! Everybody likes Pawpaw!”. Papaya is estrogenic, meaning it mimics the female hormone estrogen. Low levels of estrogen can hurt your libido as a woman.

2. Green leaves (Spinach and others)
This leafy green, along with some other green vegetables, is a potent source of magnesium, zinc, and manganese, which help dilate blood vessels and the production of sperm and sex hormones.

3. Eggs
A staple for all households and a good source of protein. Eggs, which are rich in vitamins B6 and B5, for balanced hormone levels. Too many eggs might exert the opposite effect in terms of blood flow to the sex organs, so moderation is crucial.

4. Avocado
Who doesn’t love avocados? They make it into almost every “food for better sex” smoothie, thanks to the natural fatty acids and potassium that help increase libido and erection.

5. Bananas
Yet another tropical fruit! The iconic fruit of sexual fantasy! Which lady will not fancy a banana? Since they’re rich in potassium and B vitamins like riboflavin, bananas are a good way to keep up your man’s testosterone production.

6. Freshwater fish (catfish)
Did I hear you say you don’t like fish? Fresh fish and pepper soup is a staple in Africa! Omega-3 fatty acids! Since catfish and other fatty fish are full of them, start loading up on the sex-boosting benefits of this fish.

7. Beans
A zinc powerhouse and a good source of protein that will help keep your man’s sperm healthy, according to new research, and helps in anabolic body-building.

8. Watermelon
You can get quite a bit of sexual satisfaction from watermelon, thanks to a phytonutrient called citrulline that is said to promote smooth muscle relaxation.

9. Oysters and other saltwater seafood
Yes, they’re said to be an aphrodisiac, but oysters are also great thanks to their high doses of zinc and omega-3 fatty acids, which improve sperm count in sub-fertile men, improve erection, and give good libido

10 Strawberries
Red! The symbol of love! Every dessert with a final touch of strawberries is yummy! Thanks to the high contents of B vitamin folate and vitamin C, they can boost your libido!

11. Yogurt
Looking to go on the “better sex diet”? Have your man go for the yogurt instead, which is high in zinc as well! It may also help to improve vaginal flora.

12. Broccoli
Rich in multivitamins and vital for DNA strength, there’s plenty of folate in broccoli (and cauliflower), which helps in metabolism and increases libido.

13. Milk (dairy product)
Did you say he doesn’t love milk? Well, time to start! It’s a natural way to boost red blood cells in the bloodstream, an important cell for oxygen distribution. Also, it is rich in protein, potassium, calcium, and sodium and helps boost sex drive and orgasm.

14. Eggplant (garden egg)
It’s so delicious to eat, and eggplant is said to increase both men’s and women’s sexual stamina. It eliminates frigidity and elevates sexual performance in men and women because of its positive effects on the sexual desire centers in the brain. Hey, why not try?

15. Chicken (poultry)
Another one of our favorite zinc powerhouses, dark meat chicken (along with beef and pork), is good for your man’s sperm health. Rich sources of coenzyme Q10, D-aspartic acid, and L-arginine. However, moderation is crucial.

16 Cherries
Full of anthocyanin, which protects your artery walls and helps prevent fatty plaques, he should be having more cherries and berries in his diet.

17. Cashews and its nut
Who doesn’t love this delicious fruit? As one of our favorite zinc powerhouses, it’s time to eat up! I promise your sperm will be active and healthy!

18. Mango
This is a delicious fruit. Who doesn’t eat mango in Africa? Try fresh mango fruit juice! So nice! Mango is rich in multivitamins that help increase blood flow to the sex organs and increase sexual excitement! Not bad!

19. Chilli Peppers
I like it hot! Do you? Pepper is the source of Western African hotness and stamina. However, Central and Southern Africa seem not to like pepper. If you like it hot, then it’s time to rejoice! The spice in chili peppers contains capsaicin, which dilates blood vessels and promotes blood circulation.

20. Dark Chocolate
Finally, this list would not be complete without Acholate. A man’s companion during a romantic moment! Love and chocolate. Dark chocolate contains a compound called phenylethylamine and magnesium that releases the same endorphins that are triggered during sex and make the attraction between you grow.

Start tonight!

Content courtesy of Lishe Love & NFH Digital Team

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Writing your hubby a love note could seem quaint or even tedious. But reading sentiments that have been written down on paper still provides a unique experience. Receiving a handwritten letter brings exceptional joy and has an enduring effect. Despite the fact that you can compose letters on your smart devices, handwritten notes continue to top the list when it comes to making someone feel even more loved and cherished.
Your relationship will be dull and lifeless without romance and affection.

Writing a passionate love letter to your husband is the best approach to reigniting the passion and restoring closeness.

1. Dear husband,
The day we married is one of the best days of my life, as on that day I found my best friend for life. It is true, I was skeptical in the beginning, but you made me feel so loved and comfortable, that I cannot imagine a life without you. Now, I genuinely feel I am the luckiest girl on earth, for I have a man who is loyal to me.

I want to confess that, every night after you drift away to sleep, I stay awake just to watch you sleep. You may think I am crazy, but I cannot help it, I am obsessed with you. I only want one thing in life now, to be your only love forever.

Your loving wife.

2. Dear husband,
I know we are no ordinary couple, we had many ups and downs, and our relationship has seen some of the worst storms. But we survived all that and here we are together. No matter how much we fight, my heart still flutters upon seeing you. I still dream about our romantic dates and late-night conversations.

You may not know, even when I am busy at work, I sneak peeks at your picture and smile. I read our old conversations and want to relive all those sweet moments. After every fight, even though I stay adamant on the outside, deep inside I crave your touch and cannot wait to end the fight.

With lots of love,

Your wife.

3. Darling husband,
These few words are not enough to tell you how much I love you, but still sending you my true feelings through this letter. The day I met you, I thought you are also just like any other guy, but you proved me wrong, you made me believe in the phrase “There are no perfect men, but one man is perfect for you.” After meeting you, I never felt the need to look at another man, as you made me feel complete and safe. I am glad that it did not work out with any other guy as it did with you.

Always your loving wife name.

4. Dear hubby,
I know I am not the most beautiful woman in the world, nor do I possess all the qualities of a good wife, but you never made me feel any less of myself. You loved me for who I am and never tried to change me. This motivated me to work on myself to bring out the best in me. Even after all these years, I still feel jealous when a passerby lady glances at you — that is how much I want you to be mine.

I still remember the day I saw you, you were wearing a neatly tucked white shirt, jeans, and a smile which I can never forget in my life. I was a nervous wreck, as you were so confident and good-looking. But you made me comfortable, and all my insecurities vanished. Thank you for that and more. I love you so much.

With lots of love name.

5. Dear husband,
I was hopelessly romantic, waiting for prince charming to sweep me off my feet. The world said I was living in fantasy until you came along. Now the same world talks about how lucky I am. I can never forget the day we met, it was love at first sight for me, (even though I did not confess first), I was smitten and head-over-heels for you. I couldn’t stop rambling about how handsome you were, to my friends. And today I cannot believe I am your wife, and the best part is waking up in the middle of the night only to find you beside me. I love you to the moon and back darling.

Your silly wife.

6. Dear husband,
Although I do not tell this often, I do love you more than anyone can ever love you. If I had a flower every time I missed you, I would be walking in a garden. This distance between us is unbearable, and I miss you more as each day passes by. You are on my mind every second. Whether I am sleeping, eating or working, you are my constant thought. Now my life revolves around two things, counting days to meet you and reminiscing the memories until I meet you again. I hope this physical distance would soon disappear and we can spend the rest of our life together forever.

Miss you, hubby.

7. Dear husband,
First of all, I would like to wish you a very happy birthday. On this special day, I would like to remind you how much you mean to me, through this letter. I know you do not like a public display of emotions, but I hope you would allow me to do it on this special day.

You are the perfect husband for me; I can never imagine anyone else in your place. You are loving, caring, and forgiving. I know I am the absolute opposite of all these, and that is why I am lucky to have you in my life. You are the same today as you were on the day I first met you. Thank you for being the only constant in this ever-changing world. You are a positive person, who can see the light at the end of the tunnel no matter how hopeless the situation might be (this is one of the qualities I am trying to acquire).
On this day, I wish all your dreams come true, and may you live a happy and healthy life.

Your loving family.

8. Darling husband,
Many happy returns of the day!

Today is the day when God has created a special person just for me, and I thank him every day for that. You transformed my life into a paradise, and I cannot thank you enough for it. You are a loving husband and an incredible father to our kids. I am sure they are going to turn out to be amazing just like their dad. I am glad to spend my life with you, and I wish to spend many such amazing years ahead.On this day, I would like to tell you how much you inspire me. Your patience and your positive attitude were the only things that could make me go on in difficult times. Have a beautiful birthday, darling.

Your wife name.

9. Happy birthday my dear husband!
On this special day, let me take the opportunity to tell you how much I love you. You probably would not believe it, but I wait for this day every year so that I can celebrate it with you. All year long you pamper and love me, but today it is my turn, so just sit back and relax. I always believed that I was among the unlucky, but you came and made me the luckiest of all. Life with you is never boring, each day there is something new to discover, something new to love you even more. I hope I will be able to make you happy and always wish to see a smile on your face.

Your loving wife name.

10. My dear husband,
Have a wonderful birthday!

On this birthday I would like to give you a special gift by pouring out all my feelings in words and writing you this letter.

Dearest, I have no words to describe how much I love you. I wish I were a poet to express my feelings beautifully through words. All I can say is you mean the world to me. My day starts with you and ends with you. Life is never fair, there will always be many ups and downs, but what makes it worth is to have a reliable and trustworthy guy like you. On this special day, I would also like to thank your mother for raising you into a perfect gentleman. And I wish our kids will grow up being like you.

One of the best qualities you possess is that you are sensitive to others’ pain. I still remember how you had given your favorite t-shirt to a shivering homeless man. Living with you, I learned that real happiness lies in selflessness. Thank you for opening up a whole new world for me. I pray to God to give you the strength to continue being the amazing person you are.

With loads of love,

Your wife.

11. Dear husband’s name,
From being my childhood friend to being my teenage crush to being my husband, we have been with each other through thick and thin. People often ask me if I ever get bored of you, I would ask them, “‘how can I get bored of my own shadow?” You are my partner in crime, my guide during difficult times, and my all-time favorite person.

Thank you for bearing with me all these years, I know I can be difficult sometimes. And you had so many reasons for giving up on us. But always you chose to stay and make things work. This year is going to be pretty special for both of us, as we are going to become parents soon. And I know you would make an excellent father as well.

Happy birthday to you!

Yours forever name

12. Dear husband,
Very happy birthday to you!

I know you will have a smile after seeing this letter, as this is the first time I am putting down my feelings in words. Thank you for being such a great husband. You never made me feel alone; you always made sure I was happy. No one has given me so much happiness. I am proud that our marriage is strong, all thanks to you and your dedication to our relationship.

I hope your birthday is filled with joy. Happy birthday dear!

Your loving wife name

13. Dear husband,
A happy wedding anniversary!

Today marks the completion of our first year together as husband and wife. I cannot believe it’s been a year since we got married. I guess we lost track of time as we were too busy being happy. Before getting married, I heard my friends say how difficult the first year of marriage could be. But I am surprised that our first year was the most wonderful year of my life. And it was all because of you.

Even though we had our fair share of fights, we never let them get in the way of our love. I wish we stay the same happy-go-lucky couple forever.

Your loving wife name

14. Darling husband,
Today is our 25th anniversary. I feel it was just yesterday when you were in that black and white tux, nervously waiting for me at the end of the aisle. And I was walking cautiously both not to trip over and to maintain my bridal posture. I am surprised how so many years passed so quickly. Maybe because you still love me in the same way as you did from day one.

These 25 years were magical; they helped us grow and love each other more and more. We started our family and raised our kids into good citizens. When I look back, the only thing I can see is how you held my hand at every step. Here is to 25 more years.

Happy 25th anniversary dear.

Yours name

15. My dear husband,
Happy anniversary to us!

Another year went by as husband and wife. I agree the past year was not all merry for us. We have seen some of the worst times, and thank god we survived all of it and are united as a family. I must give the credit for this to you, as you have been the true example of the word ‘head of the family’. You held everything together and directed us toward the right path. I cannot imagine facing the situation without you.

All thanks to god and you, the dark times are over, and all that lies ahead is happiness. This anniversary is very special, because now, finally we have put the past behind us and moved on as one strong and happy family.

Your loving wife
name

16. Dear husband,
Today is the day when we said “I do” and promised to be together forever. I am glad that we could keep our promises. I never thought two strangers could fall in love and become so inseparable, but here we are. I barely knew you, when we got married, and I had my share of doubts about us. After all these years, I can proudly say I made the right choice in life.

You welcomed me into your family with an open mind, adjusted, and sacrificed many things for the sake of my happiness. I think all I can do to repay you is by being the loving wife you always wanted me to be. I still remember the burnt dish I served you for the first time, and how you ate it without complaining. What did I do to deserve such a caring and understanding husband? I wish we had met earlier so that I could be your wife for some more time.

Happy anniversary my man.

Your wife
name

17. My dear,
The day that seemed so distant is finally here. I have butterflies fluttering in my stomach; I cannot keep calm. My friends say these could be pre-wedding jitters. But I feel I am just too happy and cannot wait to be your wife. Call me crazy, but I have already rehearsed our wedding for the 1,000th time now.

Darling, we are going to start an incredible journey together, which is not always easy, but it will be worth it, as long as we are there for each other. I hope you are as ready as I am to live in a house and call it home, have beautiful children, and call it our family. This day is a special day for most girls like me, who have found their soulmate. So let us do this right and start the adventure together.

Your would-be wife
name

18. My darling,
In just a few hours I will be your wife! I want to scream and tell the whole world how happy I am. I hope tomorrow will be perfect as I imagined in my head. Everything was just magical, we met each other accidentally, became friends, and finally, you asked me to marry you. I am thankful to God that we have found each other; there are billions of people in this world, and God has chosen you and me to be together. It is such a beautiful coincidence.

I hope you also cannot wait to start this fabulous journey with me. I know it is a little overwhelming, but that is how life is. I promise to be with you through thick and thin and support you as your wife.

Your future wife
name

19. My hero,
You proved that a man need not be handsome, rich, or witty to keep a girl happy. All he needs to do is be faithful, and love her as no one has ever loved her before.

My life was a mess; I had no direction. You came in and brought stability, and showed me the right path. Thanks to you, now I have a successful career as well as a thriving personal life.

I always wondered how a single person can turn my whole life around. But you proved me wrong. You are such a positive person and can carry those vibes wherever you go. I am proud to be called your wife. Thank you my knight in shining armor for supporting me.

Your proud wife
name

20. Dear name,
You are reserved, I am outgoing. You like sunrise, while I enjoy sunsets. They say opposites attract; I feel it is not entirely true. Initially, we might get attracted to each other because of our uniqueness, but what made us survive as a couple is our choice to love each other every single day.

Thank you for loving me unconditionally. I hope we spend many more fantastic years together embracing each other’s typical tastes and proudly being called the odd couple out.

Your weird wife
name

21. My Superman,
I want to write this letter to tell you how proud I am to be called your wife. Whenever people say I am lucky to have you as my husband, I agree with them without a second thought because you deserve all this. You are a phenomenal partner, who loves me and takes care of me. You never made me feel bad about myself, you always forgave all my mistakes and gave me a second chance to make things right.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you have done for me. You made my life nothing short of a fairy tale. And very few girls will be as lucky as I am.

Your loving wife

name

22. My dear husband,

You are the first thing I think of when I wake up.

Love of my life, you are the first thing I think of when I wake up. I want to spend the rest of my life with you beside me. You are the love of my life. You’re the person that can lift my spirits when I’m sad or brighten my day with a hug.
I think of you when I wake up, fall asleep, and every second in between. You are even in my dreams. You have made me the happiest woman alive because I am your wife. And I will always make you feel loved and appreciated.

23. My Dearling,

I want you to know how much I cherish you.

Honey, I want you to know how much I cherish you. I take a moment during work every day to feel gratitude for you and all you do for me. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with happiness at what we have together. You show so much love and care for me. Let me be there when you need me.

I want to support you through your day and restore you at night. Darling, wherever you are, near or far, you are in my heart. And may the kisses, laughter, and love we share last forever.

24. My Lovely Hubby

You fill my dreams with passion and serenity.

My love, you fill my dreams with passion and serenity. You’re a part of everything I do, and that will never change. Our days are hectic, and sometimes we don’t get the chance to talk like we used to. As you drift off to sleep, please know how much I appreciate you and all you do.

I am so lucky to be in love with this amazingly kind and confident man, my best friend. I believe in you and will always support your dreams. Let me help during the rough times and share the joy of your successes. And I know you will always stand by me. Together, we will always be a force, you and me.
I love you forever and always.

25. Dear Love

You are constantly on my mind.

My love, you are constantly on my mind. It is such a sweet torture remembering, with exquisite detail, our passionate kisses and moonlight walk on the beach before you left for your trip.

I still smile at your silly jokes. When I close my eyes, I replay our night of passion, and the thought leaves me breathless. And although we are apart, our hearts are always one. Hurry home, my love. I can’t wait to see you.

26. My Hero

The day I met you, I found out that dreams do come true.

My sunshine, the day I met you was the day I found out that dreams do come true. Every morning I wake up, see you next to me, and say a silent prayer of gratitude. We always say I love you, but they aren’t just words. I want you to know how much those words mean to me.

My love for you is steady and strong. Never have I felt as safe or content. You know my inner self and take time to listen, even when you are hurting. You share my pain and joy, and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone other than you. You are always with me.

27. Dear Father of my Kids

You are the reason for my happiness.

My darling husband, you are the reason for my happiness, and I cherish each new day with you. I look at this wonderful family and life we have created and give thanks.

Your kindness, compassion, and strength give me hope for our life together. Sweetheart, you are the love of my life, and I can not imagine my life’s journey with anyone but you.

28. Dear

I‘ll never forget the day we met.

Dearest love, I‘ll never forget the day we met. It was the day I started believing in all those silly things like fairy tales and love at first sight. I was completely and totally smitten. And now, as your wife, my love and admiration for you grow each day.
I cherish the little moments, especially during the middle of the night, as you sleep quietly beside me, and I can snuggle up close to you. Yes, it sounds cheesy, but I love you to the moon and back. You will always have my heart.

29. My World

You are my best friend and the most extraordinary person.

Babe, would it surprise you to know that you are my best friend and the most extraordinary person I have ever met? I‘m flooded with gratitude when I think about how lucky I am that we found each other.

You are perfect for me. Each day you surprise me more. Some days you are playful or thoughtful, while others, you are strong and supportive. But you are always loving, always compassionate. I’m so grateful we are together – you have my heart, always and forever.

30. My Lovely Husband,

You inspire me to live life to the fullest.

Hubby of mine, you inspire me to live life to the fullest. Your support and belief in me encouraged me to be bold and go after my dreams. But nothing I do would mean anything without you by my side.
Because of you, I am becoming a better person. And I look forward to a lifetime of adventure and love. I am so lucky to have you in my life.

31. Dear Babe,

I am head-over-heels in love and cannot imagine life without you.

Hey Babe, Can you believe it? I am head-over-heels in love and cannot imagine a life without you. I love you completely. I ache for your touch, and the sound of your sexy voice makes me shiver.
Your smile gives me confidence, and just seeing you (even in a picture) fuels my heart. You and I are a force to be reckoned with. Please never doubt that I love and cherish you. Even if we had several lifetimes together, my feelings for you would never change.

32. Dear Darling,

I still remember the first time I saw you.

My darling, do you know I still remember the first time I saw you? You had a lazy smile that made my heart melt. You were confident and stunning, and I was totally blown away.

But your natural charm put me at ease, and instantly, you stole my heart. I knew my life had changed forever. Thank you for being the most amazing man. And thank you for loving me. I am yours, always and forever.

33. My King,

We are perfectly matched, and you are stuck with me.
My darling, we are perfectly matched, and you are stuck with me. You are so precious to me that it’s hard to express. The words I love you are insufficient to capture what you mean to me.

When I met you, my life changed for the better. I know it sounds silly, but I finally came home when I met you. I trust and believe in you unconditionally. Regardless of the roads, we’ll travel, I know our life will be extraordinary because we’re together. I support your dreams as you support mine.

I am grateful each day that you love me. And, in case you forgot, I love you, I love you, I love you.

Oh, and by the way, I love you.

34. Dear Baby Boy

Remember our first date when we talked for hours?

Hey babe, remember our first date when we talked for hours? I made a wish that the day would never end. Guess what? I got my wish. Every day I am with you, I am only with you. I look at our joy-filled life together with such gratitude.
You are kind and strong and tender and compassionate. You are the most amazing man and father, and while you may not hear it often enough, you are appreciated and loved without question.

35. My Handsome Man,

Thank you for all you give to our family and me.

Hello, my love. I don’t know if I have said this enough but thank you. Thank you for all you give to our family and me. Thank you for your hard work and sacrifices.
Mostly, thank you for just being you! It may sound silly, but I love being around you because I love the person I am when I’m with you.

You love me for me, and that has made all the difference. Your strength and kindness give me the confidence to be a better person. I love you.

36. Dear My Bestfriend & Hero,

Did you know you are my best friend?

My dearest husband, did you know you are my best friend? What started as a serendipitous friendship has evolved into so much more for me. You are a protector, a fantastic provider, and a passionate lover. You make me laugh and make me cry (but with joy!).
You take the time to listen and allow me to see your softer side. You and I are perfect together – we balance each other in just the right way. I am grateful for you and can’t imagine life without you.

I loved you from the moment we met, and I will love you until my last breath.

37. Dear Sweetheart,

As Elle Woods said at the end of Legally Blonde, “We did it!” We made it. We’re here.

Although no one said that it would be easy, I don’t ever remember them telling us how hard it would be, either. And it’s been hard. We haven’t had the fairy tale romance I dreamt of as a kid, nor have we had the Hollywood love affair I fantasized about as an adolescent. But you know what? I’m grateful for that.

Your Soulmate

38. To My Incredible Husband,

You and I have had a real marriage. It hasn’t been perfect, it hasn’t been easy, and, honestly, it hasn’t always been pleasant. But, still, I’m grateful. Because life isn’t perfect, it isn’t easy, and it isn’t always pleasant. And you and I? We’ve built a life together.

Through mortgages, layoffs, births, vacations, deaths, retirement plans, health scares, and literally every other high and low (and up and down) that one can go through…you’ve been there with me. You’ve been my rock. You’ve been my anchor. You’ve been my person. Just as our vows said, you’ve been there for me in good times and in bad. In sickness and in health. You haven’t left my side. And I pray you never do.

Your Forever Love

39. My Husband,

Marriage is hard because life is hard, but that doesn’t make either any less beautiful. So here’s my pledge to you: I’m going to stop concentrating on the hard, and I’m going to start concentrating on the beautiful.

I’m not going to worry so much about the pile of bills on the counter, the washing machine that’s leaking, or even the kids’ college tuition that we should’ve started saving for years ago. (Like, before we had kids years ago.) And instead, I’m going to concentrate on the here and the now and the things we’ve accomplished. I’m going to concentrate on remembering to slow down and take time to quite literally smell the roses — preferably the same roses you planted in the garden when we were newlyweds. Instead, I’m going to remember that life is short and that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Chores can wait. Life won’t.

Your Dedicated Wife

40. To the One I Love,

No one said marriage would be easy. But I’m thankful that it’s been hard. I’m thankful because it means this is for real. That we’re for real. And that we’re going to make it through no matter what. And when you know that, you realize that everything else — the worries and the struggles and the bills — can take a backseat on this beautiful ride we’re on together, because it’s going to last for so many more years and there’s a sunset I plan on riding off into with you at the very end.

Your Loyal Wife

41. Dear Husband,

It’s been a crazy journey – sometimes I’d even call it a roller coaster ride. We’ve had beautiful times as well as challenging ones, but we’ve stood by one another through it all, and I’m grateful for that. You’ve encouraged me and inspired me, and it’s been a joy to be your partner.

Today, I just want to remind you of a few of the many things that I love about you and inspire you to continue being the incredible person that you are. I love your strength, your dedication, and your fierce loyalty. You never give up; even when you’re faced with difficulties you pull through. You’ve made me laugh even during stressful times and pulled me out of the darkness when I needed it most. You’ve been a friend and mentor, bringing solid advice and wisdom to those around you.

Neither one of us are stranger to making mistakes, but you’ve allowed it to help you grow and make you stronger, more compassionate, and a better person. You can speak your mind with confidence but show humility and gentleness whenever the situation calls for it. If I could turn back time, I would still choose you every time.

Your Biggest Fan

42. My Darling,

The list of things I love about you would take decades to write. From your amazing smile to your sweet and funny sense of humor, you never cease to make my heart pound. When I look across the room at you… I have to take a breath. My heart still skips a beat just like the moment I met you.

You may not realize how often I think about you, but you are constantly on my mind and in my heart, even when we’re apart or get busy with life. I can’t wait to feel your lips on mine and to feel your arms around me. Even though life isn’t always perfect, we belong together – and I’m as thankful to have you as my husband now as I was the day we were married.

The strength of our love brings tears of joy to my eyes; you show up time and time again to love me no matter what life throws at us. Your genuine nature and beautiful heart light up my life, and seeing the crinkle at the corner of your eyes when you smile and the grin on your handsome face still fills my heart with love and excitement. I just want to be with you. No matter what happens in this life, you are the one I belong to, that I would do anything for, and that I will always want.

With Love,

Your Wife

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Sex Guru knows that deflowering a virgin isn’t an easy thing. Of course, this can only happen after consent from both parties before any sexual activity.

A virgin is a person that doesn’t have any sexual experience. Deflowering a virgin means giving a woman her first sexual experience. If you make it enjoyable for her, then you’ll have her begging for more. However, if you leave her wondering whether orgasms only belong in fiction then, you might never see her again.

So, your Sex Guru has put together tips on deflowering a virgin:

CONSENT

It always starts and ends with consent. Since it’s her first time make sure, she understands that sex is on the table. Let them decide if they want to share their first time with you or not. If she says yes, then find out about her boundaries. Let her lead. So, she feels safe with you.

SET THE MOOD

Set the mood right just for her. Some ladies want rose petals and wine, while others ladies want vodka shots and chocolates. So get a few of her favourite things, so she’s excited. Make sure there’s music in the background so that she can loosen up, naturally. You can do a shared activity that has touching but in a non-sexual way like, cooking together or dancing together. Then, when the moment’s right, kiss her slowly and pull her in close.

FOREPLAY

You can’t set the perfect mood without foreplay. Foreplay makes her sexually aroused emotionally and physically, plus it builds intimacy. It’s also a chance for her to get comfortable with your naked body if she’s never seen it before. Take a shower together and let her discover your body at her own pace. It’ll amaze and arouse her.

Later, you can massage her body slowly with baby oil. Make sure that you touch her all over till her body starts bending towards and she starts moaning slowly. Those slow moans where she bits into her pillow and body writhes in ecstasy. Take your time on your her.

The more you loosen her up than, the less painful it’ll be on her.

PROTECTION

Make sure that you have protection on hand. You don’t want to ruin the tempo by having to rush out to buy condoms. As a usual check, the expiry date and have more than one.

PLAYFUL

Don’t make it too serious on her and let her have fun because she’ll never have another first time. Take it slow on her and pay attention to her body and breathing. Stop if it’s too painful on her. Speed it up if that’s what she wants. Let her control the pace.

Alternatively, let her sit on top so that she has total control over depth and pace. It will make it easier for her to discover if she likes deep, slow strokes or shallow, fast strokes to get her there. Understand that she might not orgasm but let her enjoy the journey.

If she’s adventurous, show her how you like to be touched, then watch her masturbate and take notes.

AFTERCARE

After the session, cuddle her, let her feel safe as she shares her thoughts with you. Remind her that you still care about her.

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The lockdown is becoming more intense as the days pass by. However, to fight against the Rona. All of us need to stay home, wash hands and practice social distancing. So, it’s not easy having hot sex during the lockdown.

So, since your Sex Guru is saving the world, one orgasm at a time.

A list has been put together on how to keep your sex life varied, fun and hot.

SOLO PLAY

Solo Play is all about getting sexual pleasure without a partner. Especially if you’re single or if your partner is in lockdown somewhere else. All you have to do is set the mood and fulfil your fantasies. It lets you take whatever pace you feel like try it in different places and different intensity levels. If you’ve been having a difficult time orgasming with a partner. This is the perfect way to experiment and find out what works for your body. Put on your favourite music tunes, lit up a vanilla candle and read up on some Literotica. Do whatever relaxes you and lets you concentrate on your pleasure.

SKYPE

If, you and your partner don’t stay in the same place and. It is risky planning a psychical meetup because of the pandemic. Choose a convenient time for both of you. Use Skype to your advantage. Both of you can have virtual sex online by talking dirty, masturbating and maintaining eye contact. There are wi-fi controlled sex toys that are perfect for long-distance sexual encounters. Alternatively, you can wear sexy outfits and describe to each other your sexual fantasies for when you meet up again.

ROMANTIC DATES

If you’re indoors, all day with your partner then doesn’t let them get bored. You can plan for fun, inhouse dates with each other. Like you can have fun cooking together in the kitchen, half-naked and feeding each other. Alternatively, you can snuggle up and do an activity that both of you enjoy, with no distractions. So put your electronic devices on flight mode. You can even help each other in the shower or massage each other and take time to understand your body. Use this time to build intimacy with each other and strengthen your emotional connection. This energy will help you build up to deeper and intense orgasms.

SEX TOYS

Feel free to experiment and have fun with sex toys. So try out your first one and becoming more sexually secure about your body. However, if you aren’t a novice, then you can always add a new toy. Have fun with your partner. Use the toys together, or let them watch you use them. It is also a fun way for you to learn new things about each other. You can release sexual tension whenever your partner doesn’t have the energy to satisfy you. They also let you focus on specific erogenous zones so you can feel pleasure instantly.

SEX BUCKET LIST

A sex bucket list is all those secret, sensual desires that you think about whenever you’re lying alone in bed. Things that you want to try out before your time runs out on this earth. You and your partner can both create a list of things that you’ve always wanted to try out.

Here are a few ideas:

Pretending that you’re masturbating alone till you achieve an orgasm
Figuring out how to make her squirt
Eating food from a naked body, so licking, nibbling and sucking in the process.
Playing with a sex toy as a couple
Role-playing your favourite sex scenes

WILDCARD

A wildcard is something unpredictable that keeps people on their toes. So if you’re the super-serious, corporate business lady, then let your partner walk in, while you’re doing house chores in a sexy outfit. It can be a simple see-through outfit with nothing underneath. So you can let his imagination run wild.

Alternatively, if your partner always leads, then you can tie him up. Gyrate on his body. Rub an ice cube on his body and lick him from head to toe. Take your time and have fun putting different sensations on his body.

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Sex toys are by no means new. In fact, they’ve been around for thousands of years. However, thanks to recent advances in sex tech, we are now living in the golden age of erotic toys.

While you may think intimate products (like vibrators and male masturbators) are strictly for solo use, they have the power to revolutionize your sex life. We stock a smorgasbord of couple’s toys, designed to raise your romp and test your bed springs.

Adult toys even have the power to make you a better lover – take our range of strokers, for instance. With regular training, these bedroom beauties can improve your stamina and let you explore different sensations. A G-spot vibe could also unlock new ways to play with your partner and a set of Ben Wa balls could strengthen your pelvic muscles and give you some powerful love muscles.

Even if you know your way around the bedroom like the back of your hand, a cheeky buzz here or a touch of pressure there can push your sessions from good to ‘Wow!’

Here is a list of Top 10 Adult Sex Toys Shop in Kenya

1. Wowgasmic

Looking to Buy an Adult Toy? It doesn’t matter if you’re straight, gay, lesbian, bi, or anything in between Wowgasmic are on a mission to get you off with the very best sex toys, After all, sexuality is a big beautiful rainbow and we want to cater for every color.

Wowgasmic provides a wide range of adult toys to suit every taste, gender, and experience level. Whether you and your pleasure center are lifelong friends or just mere acquaintances, you’ll find something to tickle your fancy on our virtual shelves.

To make sure you get your hands on the very best, Wowgasmic stock the most popular pleasure products from some of the most exciting brands in the world, If you’re rocking a vulva, take a look at Wowgasmic ever-expanding vibrator and dildo selection. Whether you’re looking for a clitoral vibrator to take you to new heights or are on the hunt for a rabbit vibrator to make you see stars, you’ll find it here.

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If you’re the proud owner of a penis, fill your boots with Wowgasmic assortment of Fleshlights, massagers, and sex dolls. Whatever your taste, male sex toys are a great way to upgrade solo sessions or add another dimension to a couple’s play.

If you’re looking to spice up things with your partner, consider adding some sex toys for couples into the mix. Try a wearable vibrator for next-level penetration or a strap-on kit to really elevate your bedroom antics.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254788666333 +254707202303
Instagram: @wowgasmic
Twitter: @wowgasmic
Facebook: Wowgasmic
Website: wowgasmic.co.ke

2. Secrets Kenya

Secrets Kenya is an online adult sex shop in Kenya. they stock the best sex and adult toys in Nairobi Kenya. Secrets Kenya sells sex toys that have been designed for sexual enhancement, including women & men toys, vibrators, dildos, straps on, penis enlargement, among other sex enhancers. You can browse our sexcessories and sexual paraphernalia for couples that will make your date nights even more enjoyable and orgasmic.

Shop for the latest sex toys in Kenya from the online sex toy retail store with easy online shopping with discreet packaging for all your consumer needs. Buy sex toys today from Kenya’s leading online sex shop.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254734081550 or +254724278550
E-mail: nairobibeauty1@gmail.com
Website: secretskenya.co.ke

3. Doctor Crocodildo

Doctor crocodildo Kenya is great sex toys and accessories sold in Kenya and across East Africa, they are an online service that delivers high-quality sex toys and accessories with great service delivered discreetly in Kenya and East Africa.
This is where you’ll find all the goodies to make life in the bedroom more pleasurable, It’s a non-judgemental zone, so kick back, relax and have fun.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254718383871 or +254731255235
E-mail: info@doctorcrocodildo.com
Website: doctorcrocodildo.com

4. G-spot Kenya

G spot Kenya exists to make you feel confident & comfortable in your most intimate moments. We are here so that you can take control of your orgasms, at G spot Kenya we are Reinventing Sex wellness and Orgasms for the Modern Kenyan and East African Woman. Because having an orgasm is not only healthy but puts a smile and a glow on your face.

We stand for sexual liberation, experimental and mind-blowing satisfaction. We encourage sexual awakening as we are the trusted authority in the market in Kenya. We push boundaries and buttons to give you exactly what you want. We will continue to provide Kenya with the latest Sextoy innovations. We don’t compromise on Quality! We are the Pioneers of Quality Pleasure in East Africa. Be sexually empowered!

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254 771 063 331
E-mail: bevmunga@gmail.com or bev@gspotkenya.com
Instagram: @bevmunga
Twitter: @SextoysKenya
Facebook: The Gspot Experience by Bev Munga
Website: gspotkenya.com

5. Raha Toys

This is home to the best and cheapest bedroom toys in the country. Good news considering they are the widest selection of products which fall under numerous different categories and sub-categories

What about Raha Toys’ return policy you ask? It says “if you become dissatisfied with an item for any reason whatsoever during the first 30 days of ownership, then you can return the item to us for a replacement, an alternate selection, or a full refund. If an item does not perform because of a manufacturer’s defect, then return it to us. We’ll replace it without charge”.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254 708 332 646 or +254 722 165 790
E-mail: rahatoys@eml.cc
Website: rahatoys.com

6. Pleasure World

Sex toys are devices that help you encourage and give you satisfaction during sex. Pleasure world is a famous online adult toys shop in Nairobi, Kenya.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254700793020
E-mail: pleassure.worldkenya@gmail.com
Instagram: @pleasure_world_kenya
Facebook: Pleasure World Kenya
Website: pleasureworld.co.ke

7. 69 Vibrations Kenya

The most affordable sex toy shop in Kenya, So you have been looking around wondering what toy to get yourself. Maybe for the first time or you need to upgrade, but the prices have been exorbitant, worry not wanker, this is the site for you, at 69 Vibrations Kenya we have stocked one of the largest varieties of sex toys in Kenya and our prices will not break your budget.

Pick two, pick three, heck even pick five, your wallet will still be smiling, 69 Vibrations Kenya we are a purely online shop and do deliveries at a fee to CBD and out of CBD. No same-day delivery. All orders are delivered the next day.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254701053013 or +254737381170
Instagram: @69vibrations
Facebook: 69 Vibrations Kenya
Website: 69vibrationskenya.com

8. Sex Toys Kenya

They offer discrete shipment to any location in Kenya, including Nairobi and its Outskirts, including Kilimani, Eastleigh, Westlands, Parklands, Eastlands, and Embakasi, among others, and they have a fantastic range of sex toys for both men and women.

Sex Toys Kenya not only has a wide variety of sex toys, but they also have a blog that examines all facets of sexuality.
They offer articles on a variety of topics, including how to choose the best sex toy for you and how to have better sex. Their website also includes a section on sex education. Sex Toys Kenya is a fantastic resource, so check it out if you’re searching for a new sex toy or just want to learn more about sexuality.

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254724278550/+254734081550
E-mail: info@sextoyskenya.co.ke
Instagram: @sextoyskenya
Twitter: @sextoyskenya
Facebook: Sex Toys Kenya
Website: sextoyskenya.co.ke

9. Pleasures Galore

Pleasures galore support the maintenance of good sexual health & promote sexual growth, they create opportunities for sexual exploration by providing a fun, educational, and comfortable shopping experience featuring an extensive selection of personal, romantic, and pleasurable products.

WhatsApp: +254796496543
E-mail: toys@pleasuresgalore.co.ke
Instagram: @pleasuresgalore49
Twitter: @PleasuresGalore
Facebook: Pleasures Galore 254
Website: pleasuresgalore.co.ke

10. Euphoric

Contact Details

WhatsApp: +254703 174363
E-mail: orders@euphoric.pro
Instagram: @euphoric
Facebook: Euphoric
Website: euphoric.co.ke

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The female orgasm is hard to find, but, the woman that finds it never forgets her first orgasm. However, this journey isn’t simple, and it’s tied to the art of masturbation.

Masturbation is anxiety and stress-reliever than any woman can use after a long day of work. Also, not all women can orgasm naturally through traditional vaginal sex so, they have to get creative to reach the seventh heaven. Wink, wink, it also releases built-up sexual tension, especially during a lockdown when your fix is miles away.

Masturbation helps keep the vagina healthy because of the extra blood flow. That’s why it gets hot down there when you’re in the mood.

So, Sex Guru is outlining a few tips that touch on the art of masturbation.

Masturbation is a taboo topic. So start by talking about it freely with close friends so that you can reduce the taboos around it. It opens the door for sharing ideas and insights amongst trusted friends. Some women feared the power of their bodies. They grew up when sexuality was vilified but are now coming into themselves.

Around 50 to 75% of women can’t orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone and need clitoral stimulation according, to Teen Vogue.

With masturbation, it lets women get in touch with their bodies intimately and know what works for them. During intimate encounters, women can tap into this knowledge and have satisfying sex lives. It can reduce problems that come up because of frustrated sexual lives.

Since orgasms aren’t easy to reach them, shift your mind into thinking about how each climax this helps strengthen your pelvic muscles just like Kegels exercises. So you’re able to do the workout without investing in Kegel balls.

Be creative. You can masturbate with toys and fingers while you’re lying down in bed or even with a showerhead while you’re standing in the shower. Always practise proper hygiene before you start. Try different positions while you’re masturbating.

Make yourself comfortable. You can use music to calm down. Lock the door. Close the curtains. Take your time as you try to figure out what works for you. Feel free to use a mirror if you’re not exactly sure about all your bits.

Like did you know that the clitoris has ‘legs’ called Vestibular Bulbs and will become hard while sexually aroused similar to a penis? It’s super sensitive. It swells up like a penis when it’s excited.

Try sitting on your bed with your back straight up. Place a mirror in front of you so you can see your entire vulva. Clear your mind so that you can focus on only pleasing yourself. Rub around your outer labia and clitoris to see which places feel good and to get yourself in the mood. Then, split apart the outer labia with two fingers in a V-shape facing downwards so that you get better access to your clitoris.

With the clitoris exposed, you can try different variations to pull an orgasm out of your body. You can use another finger to rub up and down the clitoris. If you move slowly, then it’ll take time to build up your orgasm but, if you move, with rapid motions, then you’ll climax faster and feel your body shudder under you.

Still, with the same speeds, you can rub in circular motions around the clitoris and focusing on sweet spots. Alternatively, some women rub against items like towels and pillows.

Show love to other erogenous zones. Some women can climax through nipple play because the nipple has many nerve endings. On your nipples, you try different touches but with varying intensity to see what works for you. During menstruation, they tend to be more sensitive than usual.

You can try sex toys to stimulate your nipples or simple items that have different temperatures like ice vs warm massage oil. Think about your body and which sex toys can excite different parts. It includes vibrators that offer both vaginal and clitoral stimulation or anal toys. On the other hand, you can use more than one toy by inserting one into the vagina whilst letting the other one stimulate your clitoris.

Use lubes if your vagina doesn’t produce enough natural lubrication.

Delay your orgasm when it feels close and experiments with your body. It’ll increase the intensity of your orgasm.

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The Rona is still with us. It’s ruined all your plans and that person that you’ve been eyeing like a milkshake.

Sex is a natural act and need because it’s listed, under Maslow’s Hierarch of Needs. Sex is as a physiological need along with things like food, drink, sleep, warmth and shelter.

So what do you do, when, you’re stuck indoors all door, and, you have an itch that needs to be scratched? You buy yourself a toy or two.

Here are a few adult sex toy shops in Kenya, that you can reach out to;

Wowgasmic

Wowgasmic has handled over 9000 happy customers since 2011. They’re still going strong with a wide range of products that include lubricants, rabbit vibrators, bondage gear, and anal toys. Their items include details on how to utilize your toy, who it’s meant for, and what comes in the box. So it’s perfect for newbies exploring their sexuality or more experienced people looking to spice up their sex life.

Doctor Crocodildo

They’re dedicated, to offering high-quality and good-value products and services to Kenyans. They don’t believe that sex is a conversation that should only happen behind closed doors. Items sold by Crocodildo include vibrators, toys, lubricants, games, and erotic stories. They also share newsletters and can offer same-day delivery if you order your item early.

Secrets Kenya

Secrets Kenya is all about providing a wide range of adult toys to enhance pleasure, whether, you’re alone in a relationship. On the site, it stays that you can order your items 24/7. If you place your order early in the day, then, you can get it delivered on the same day.

G Spot Kenya

The Vibrating Lawyer founded G-Spot Kenya said when she first opened her shop online, the stock ran out within three days. They’re all about empowering the Kenyan woman and helping her get in touch with her sexual side. They have toys that suit novices or people that have a lot of experience with adult toys.

69 Vibrations Kenya

69 Vibrations Kenya has a wide range of products and, they promise not to break your wallet. Super affordable, you can get a few toys to keep you warm during the winter. Items are delivered the next day in the CBD.

Euphoric

Euphoric all about providing adult items that you can use alone or with a trusted partner. They promise different toys that clients can fall in love with, explore and discover their inner fantasies. Euphoric is always discrete whenever you purchase anything from their platform. They also offer personalized assistance in case you aren’t sure about what item suits your needs.

Pleasure World

Pleasure world believes that good sex makes the world go round. So, if your partner isn’t hitting your sweet spots then you’re better off getting a toy that will. Of course, they have a wide range of toys for both men and women at affordable prices. They want people to be open-minded about sex, understanding their bodies better and their partners’ too. All orders above Ksh 4,000 are shipped for free.

Top 10 Adult Sex Toys Shops In Nairobi Kenya

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Disclaimer: Sex Guru is not a sex therapist or a sexologist. Please seek professional help, if needed.

We’ve put together a list of sexual health resources worth checking out.

It’s natural to be curious about sex because we’re all having it or thinking about it. However, finding information about it isn’t always easy.

The Spread

Karen Lucas has a FB page called The Spread Podcast plus a YouTube page, where she talks about differently sexuality matters and answers questions from Kenyans. Additionally, there’s also a festival where they discuss topics like sex and disabilities, or religion and bedroom matters plus other healthy, sexual conversations worth following.

Shan Boody

A sexologist that explores all topics that you’ve ever wondered about but no-one has ever had the courage to ask. She covers topics like fingering, oral sex and how to be sexy on a date. Of course, she also interacts with other people about sexual matters so that her content has diverse perspectives.

Sexual Essentials

Samia is a sexual educator that runs an interactive page on Instagram. It’ll also include videos that are guaranteed to improve your sexual life plus new positions that you can try out with your partners. She also includes masterclasses in her content.

Sexology International

Sexology International is a site that focuses on different elements of sexuality through articles from different sexology experts. They’re all about helping out people on a sensual journey to get the most out of relationships, sex and life. It’s all about promoting a sex-positive lifestyle that encourages healthy pleasure and experimentation.

Sex Positive Families

Sex Positive Families makes it easier for families to have awkward sexual conversations that include topics like sex, consent, puberty and relationships. It also includes resources that make it easier for parents and guardians to make sure that their kids are well-informed so that they can make better sexual decisions especially since the media has a lot of hypersexualisation.

Kama Sutra

Kama Sutra is an ancient, Indian text that deals with sexuality, eroticism and emotional fulfilment. It’s best known for unusual sexual positions and most publications with a sex category usually get inspiration from it. So you can either Google different Kama Sutra positions or you can buy a book, that you can always use for having fun and experimenting with your partner.

Tag NFH if you have any sexual resources that you feel, should be added to this list.

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So let’s attack this from both sides and get to the bottom of what men and women say versus what they really mean.

“I’m fine.”

What women mean: Men, I realize that hearing your woman say she is “fine” makes you think she probably is fine because if you were saying the same, you’d mean exactly what you were saying. But, in woman speak, more often than not this usually isn’t the case.

The key here to find out if that “I’m fine” is legit is the follow-up question. If you want to get it right, make sure you ask if she is sure and if there is hesitation in her response to you let her know if and when she is ready to get something off her chest, you are there to listen and support. By doing so, you will get major brownie points on this one.

What men mean: It’s pretty simple for a guy. If he is saying he is fine, he probably does, in fact, mean he’s fine. If there is something else to it, he will likely express it directly to you.

“I need to talk to you.”

What women mean: According to insight from my male relationship experts, this is the dreaded six-word sentence most guys don’t want to hear. They immediately think they are in trouble and it puts them on the defense fairly quickly. But guys, there is a way to calm that pitter-patter that you feel in your heart when you hear these words.

I think most men know that when a woman prompts a discussion with the “I need to talk to you,” it is probably about something that’s been heavy on her mind. And if you have this realization, consider yourself to be smarter than most. A woman dedicating time to speak to you about matters of her heart has thought this topic through ad nausea and wanted to have some closure on the subject of discussion.

Be prepared, not scared, and come to listen. In other words, go into the discussion with an open mind and with the goal to calm her fears and make your woman feel secure knowing she can count on you to have serious discussions. It will help your relationship grow if you learn to understand her needs and also keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.

What men mean: If your guy wants to have a conversation with you and uses this sentence, he is using it as a way to generally get your input on something that is bothering him. If he values your input, he will share with you what is on his plate figuratively speaking, and how he is trying to solve the issue.

If he is coming to you to get your input or perspective, bonus points for you because he trusts your insights and these matters which are big to him he is sharing because he trusts and values your opinion.

“Where is our relationship heading?”

What women mean: It’s a nice way of letting you know your SO is looking for something deeper in your relationship. And your answer will lead her in one of possibly two directions.

If she is interested in you and prompts this discussion, she wants to know if you are serious about her or if she is wasting her time. If she is looking for something serious in a relationship and your answer is nebulous, unclear, or fuzzy, then she will probably be moving on as in pursuing other options which will lead to the commitment she is seeking.

Be honest even if you think it will hurt her because if there is one thing a woman respects, it is honesty.

What men mean: Men probably won’t say this as directly but show it more through their actions. There are subtle tests he will throw your way to check your level of interest in him and how you fit into his life. He will make himself available to you so you feel comfortable knowing that his interest is real.

He may become a little insecure when you are heading out for the night for friends because he wants to be a part of what you are doing. He may ask you in subtle ways how you feel about him. And he will invest quality time in you outside of the bedroom with more face-to-face time doing activities, figuring out your interests, and getting to know you. This continual time and investment of his time in you is his way of signaling to you that he is interested in you for the longer term and letting you know that he sees a future with you.

“Do whatever you want.”

What women mean: I know you think you’re SO is giving you the go-ahead. But here is the caveat behind her words to you and how you can know if it is indeed ok to go ahead and do what you want to do. If your SO has continuously and repeatedly told you there is a behavior you’re demonstrating or activity you are engaging in which makes them uncomfortable, but you continue to do it because you just want to or it makes you feel good even when it does the opposite for your SO, beware when you get this message.

It can mean one of two things:

It is a test of your loyalty to her and your relationship.
She no longer cares about it — which, for a woman who has feelings for you, isn’t typically a good thing.

It means she is compartmentalizing your relationship, the status it has in her life, and also could be a sign that she is moving towards eventually ending things with you. No one should be overly controlling in a relationship, but if your existing relationships or activities endanger or put a strain on your relationship, you have to determine what is most important for you to prioritize. And this, of course, applies to both parties.

What men mean: Again, men are more direct on this one. Usually, their “do whatever you want” will have something added to it such as, “and if you do I will.” And what this means in man speak is to think clearly before you move forward because it will impact our relationship and how I move forward with you.

Tread lightly and figure out what is driving his position on an action you want to take. Talking it through together will give you insight into how he sees the situation, possibly calm fears that may be unnecessary, and put you both on the same page.

Dead silence.

What women mean: Ever had an argument where you thought you shut down you’re SO and they went into a mode of dead silence? It’s not a good sign. When a woman goes silent, it is her way of getting to her man. Yes, we women can be chatty, sometimes to the point where you might be like, “okay, I need a little quiet time.” But on the heels of a heated discussion or argument, when a woman suddenly becomes extremely quiet following a disagreement, she is ticked off at you and you haven’t really resolved or won that argument.

Silence means she is more than likely fuming and also a way to punish you. If you are wrong, the best way to make this situation better is to admit it and apologize. And I get it, apologizing can be difficult for a man. I know you have this pride thing going on too. But I promise you, by taking this little step for mankind, you will get some extra points when you do your next stupid thing. She will be more forgiving because she will see you are willing to right the wrong, admit when you are wrong, and compromise.

What men mean: I need some quiet time. I’m trying to figure out some things and I need some silence to do so.

It can also signal irritation, frustration, and trying to not overreact especially if the two of you are in the midst of an argument or a disagreement. He might need this time to reset, calm down, and process what you two are discussing. Give him the downtime before proceeding forward with your discussion. It will give him time to digest what you have communicated to him and help him to be open to your recommendation and the proposed resolution.

“I’m seeing someone.”

What women mean: You’ve approached a woman you are very interested in dating. And she shuts you down with, “I have a boyfriend.”

If she says this and you find out it’s not true, it’s because she was trying to let you off easily. She doesn’t think you are her type. If you keep pursuing her, you are not getting the message. She isn’t attracted to you in that way. One small exception here is that sometimes some guys just know how to work it and will see this response as a challenge to pursue hard. And if things move forward, you have successfully changed her thinking.

But, if she continues to tell you messages repeatedly, she might, in fact, have a boyfriend. Or if she doesn’t, the best bet is she just isn’t that into you. She is not feeling you that way. Move on to the next one and save yourself the grief of this one-sided pursuit of a relationship.

What men mean: It really depends on the situation. When a man is serious about someone he is seeing, he will clearly communicate this to you and show it by his actions. It is pretty black and white and he will not give you an inkling of interest. However, if he is dating and he is on the fence and openly flirting and entertaining the idea of getting with you, then more than likely he is passing time in his current relationship(s). His relationship isn’t probably too serious and he is keeping his options open.

How you respond to this one is on you because it just depends on how you want to establish the relationship with him. If he has a long-term relationship with a woman but isn’t respecting her enough to let her know he is interested in other women, then it’s likely he will do the same to you. Tread lightly, move slowly, and set your standards of how you want to be treated early on if you move forward with this relationship.

“I like our friendship.”

What women mean: I know you don’t want to hear this, but women know if they will be intimate with a man and can figure this out within a short time period. We often quickly assess what category we will fit into within our lives. These categories often encompass a friend, potential for the future, someone for casual dating, or possibly long-term relationship material.

Yes, you are in the friend zone, and I know this can suck. And I don’t care what you do, how much time you spend with her, or how much emotional support you provide. If she feels you are for her, she will let you know by her actions, interactions, and priority you have in her life.

Now there can be exceptions to the rule where a man is so persuasive and endearing that he gets a woman to change her mind. But these exceptions tend to be rare. If she is telling you she loves your friendship, that’s it. She merely likes you as a friend. Nothing more, nothing less. Don’t overthink this one.

What men mean: Men tend to show their cards early on even in a friendship. I do think it’s possible to be friends with a man and vice-versa, but understand some initial development of a friendship can be done with an intent to get to know you better.

Here is how you know the difference between a man wanting friendship with you versus something more. If he keeps it friendly i.e. small talk, advice about business, family, etc. likely he is interested in you as a friend.

However, if the talk goes to the gray areas i.e. talk about sexual intimacy, jokes about the two of you connecting physically, him getting a little jealous and judgmental when you discuss other men or those you are interested in dating, it can mean something different. Friends want to see their friends happy and they are there to be supportive of them being in relationships that add to their happiness. If you are getting feedback opposite of this or he tries to sabotage you being with someone in which you have a love interest, then something else is on his agenda.

Knowing how a woman expresses who she is and what she needs emotionally is half the battle. Understanding a man’s perspective and how he expresses himself can shape your relationship in an entirely different way.

Now that you are armed with the knowledge of what women and men say but really mean, it will help you to solidify and strengthen your relationship with your SO or help you in your pursuit of the one who can potentially be your SO

Content courtesy of Elizabeth Overstreet & Nairobi fashion hub Relationship Team

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There have been many books written about the ways men and women communicate. While men and women share much in common, they often express it a little bit differently. Women are more verbose in nature and men tend to use fewer words leaving women guessing at their end game or intentions.

Here are 10 Common Words Used By Women

DON”T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT: This means you were supposed to do something but didn’t. It means something was expected of you but you failed. It could be something simply, she asked you take out the garage, or expected you to do so, and you didn’t. Oops! Now she had to do it herself. Being the sensitive fellow you are, you ask innocently, “What’s Wrong”? This will be met promptly with female response number 8: “Nothing!” !!!

WHATEVER: This single word has a multitude of meanings. Note carefully the stress of the voice, the inflection, the volume, and the body language that accompanies “whatever”. The best defense, again, is no offense. Step away from fist swinging range.

THANKS A LOT: This is not that same thing as “Thanks”. Do not confuse the two. This is pure sarcasm and you just stepped on a nerve or hot button. At this point, just walk away. Responding with “You’re Welcome” is inappropriate and will reignite any smoldering embers, or at least lead to a “Whatever.”

THANKS: A woman is thanking you. Do not question it. Do not begin a dialog around it. Just say you’re welcome. Leave well enough along. Do not poke the bear.

LOUD SIGH: This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”.

THAT’S OKAY: She’s already thinking of creative and provocative ways of how and when you will pay for your mistake.

GO AHEAD: (with raised eyebrows): This is a dare, one that will result in the female getting upset over “Nothing” and will end with the word “Fine”.

NOTHING: This means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with a huffy “Fine”.

FIVE MINUTES: This is half an hour. It is the equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it’s an even trade. “I’ll be ready in five minutes.”

FINE: This is the word we use at the end of any argument when we know we’re right, but we want you to be quiet. NEVER use fine to describe how a woman looks. That’s right, when we say, “How does this look on me honey?”, the wrong answer is “fine”.

Content courtesy of Nairobi fashion hub Relationship Team

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