Monday 24th of June 2024

Nairobi, Kenya

A Slay Queens’ Guide To Starting Over

It is the only way to live life and, makes it harder for enemies to predict your moves because you remain in motion. 


People love saying that you should not burn bridges because you might have to cross them later. Well, they lied. A slay queen will always have time to build new bridges no matter how many houses get scorched as she ascends into power. No-one is born to be as fabulous as you. So stay like an ever-burning flame. 

So it is a new year and, it’s time to get rid of what no longer works, clothes, friends and family members. It’s time to usher in 2021 like you mean business and claim it all for yourself. However, you can’t quit your job because HR asked you to tone down your fashion sense. They just don’t understand that Rihanna is your ultimate fashion muse. I mean flawless makeup isn’t cheap. Also, who wants to move out of Kitisuru mid-month? It’s hurting my pores just thinking about it.


So with starting over. Start with your fashion sense. Every year, some items go out of fashion. So they need to be destroyed because you can never afford to be a fashion victim. Burn them, throw them or donate them. However, always remember that some pieces are classics and will always work. If you’re having an issue separating the wheat from the chaff. You can always hire a personal fashion stylist but make them sign a non-disclosure agreement. Nobody needs to know that you’re secretly a B yet you floss that you’re a full C-cup in all your IG posts.


Speaking of IG, detox all your social media handles. If it doesn’t make sense anymore then either archive it or delete. Never forget that people are itching to cancel things and being in a cancel hashtag is never a good thing especially if you’re still on the market.


Realise that some friendships outgrow each other and others, just die with time. It is only natural. So review your friendships, one by one as you vet out, who still falls in the slayers’ code of ethics. Never toss out the frenemies though because you never know when you might to have to step on one to get a fancy invite to a social event.


If your partner is finding it hard to keep up with the times. It might be time to cut them loose and start all over again. You might end up dating way too many frogs, but your wardrobe will love the upgrade. Besides. you can never have too many handbags, stilettos or jewellery.


However, sometimes, things do not always go well. 


With family, it might be trickier to toss them aside since they are your flesh and blood. Lol. I’m just joking. Start over with whomever you want because you only have one life. Feel free to delete, subtract or multiply depending on your mood. Plus, when, it’s time for you to go six feet under, you’ll make the journey alone. So you can only trust yourself.


Forget people that tell you that starting over is the hardest part. They don’t understand that before beautiful butterflies emerge from the cocoon they begin as caterpillars. So your life is always in a state of change and no-one has earned a permanent spot.