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Saturday 3rd of June 2023

Nairobi, Kenya

Tag: Relationships

Love Letter To My Wife: Romantic Love Letters for Your Beloved Wife

Posted on by Nairobi Fashion Hub

Your life becomes more beautiful and effortless when you have a partner who is understanding and kind.
Hiding your love for your wife from her will not improve your relationship, even if you love her to the moon and back. So write love letters to your wife to let her know how much you value her.

Nowadays, when everyone uses instant messaging apps, handwritten letters are hardly ever received. Therefore, surprising her with a love letter will show her how much you care about her.
We can assist you if you are considering what to write in the letter. In this piece, we provide you with some sample love letters that you may use as inspiration while writing a lovely and passionate love letter to your wife.

Your presence will make her happy. Love letters that are romantic for the wife
A marriage is anchored by the unique quality of romance. Never allow your relationship to lose its flame. Your wife deserves to know how important she is, so let out all those suppressed emotions. Place the letter that has been written in it in the area that gets the most use, like her dining room table or closet.

1. Dear wife,

I may tease you whenever you ask me “How am I looking?”, “Does this dress suit me?” But today I want to tell you what I really feel at those moments.

As soon as you came out wearing that black dress, my heart skipped a beat, and I lost words to describe how dashing you looked. But out of macho pride, I kept all that to myself. Darling, you are such a beauty that many times I secretly spotted a few guys eyeing you whenever we went out. It makes me want to punch them, but then again I feel happy because it is only I who has a place in your heart.

You are as beautiful inside as you are outside. I still remember how you help the needy and took care of the stray animals. You are indeed a beauty with brains, and I am lucky to be called your husband.

With love
Name

2. Darling wife,

Do you know what my weakness is? It is seeing you cry! Yes, It kills me whenever I see you cry. I always want to see you happy and would do anything for it. I sincerely apologize for all the mishaps and want to assure you that none of them will repeat again ever.

After every fight, I want to embrace you and wipe your tears, but then my pride shadows the love. Never think I do not care for your feelings; it is just that I do not show it. But deep down, I will always love you till my last breath.

Your forever
Name

3. Dear wife,

Did I ever tell you what a beautiful woman you are? When I say beautiful, it is not only your outward appearance but also your amazing personality and kind heart. I am glad you are my wife, and sometimes I wonder what I have done to have you in my life.

I am truly, madly, and deeply in love with you. You showered me with unconditional love and were there for me through all my ups and downs. You are a woman stronger than anyone I know. Thank you for everything you did for me. You are an angel sent from above.

Your loving husband
Name.

4. My dear wife,

Even though we don’t have anything in common, we never let the differences come between us. I am glad that we are first best friends and then life partners. Our friendship is what made our relationship so strong.

I still remember the shy and timid nerd I was before I met you. I was so nervous; it took me one year to pick up the courage to talk to you. I had my doubts and feared rejection, but once we became friends, I realized what a good human being you are. You are a loving and obedient daughter to your parents, my best friend, and a perfect wife and a caring mother for our children. God must have been really pleased with me for he has given you as my wife. I wish to spend the rest of my life loving you.

Your loving husband
Name

5. Dear wife,

I am not the most handsome man on earth, and neither am I a match for your beauty. But you never made me feel any less of myself. You loved me with all your heart and trusted me with your life. This always made me strive and be the best husband for you. And I try my best to prove a good husband to you.

I am lucky to have a loyal woman like you as my wife; I feel proud whenever I think of the fact that I am your first and last love in life. Also, you do not live off worldly things; even when I turned empty-handed on your birthday, I could find happiness in your eyes just to see me.

I wish to spend many such amazing years, loving, fighting and making up to you.
Your loving spouse.

6. My dear wife,

I still remember the first day we met. You wore a white knee-length dress and looked like a goddess. I was smitten by your smile and those eyes, God! I have never seen such beautiful eyes in my whole life. I can spend an entire day just looking at them.

That day I prayed to God to make you my wife, and today I can say God has given me more than what I wished for. Spending time with you, I discovered that you are not just beautiful but also an intelligent, kind, and strong woman. You are an all-rounder, you take care of me, and the kids as well as manage your career. You never forget our anniversary or my birthday, how are you able to pull all this off?

Through this love letter, I want to tell you that I will never let anything hurt you, and my heart breaks to see tears in your eyes. I promise to protect you till my last breath.

Your caring husband
Name.

7. Dear wife/ best friend

You are not only my wife but also my best friend. You listen to my midnight rants and put up with all my bad habits. I can tell you anything and be myself with you. Whenever I am tired of fighting my way in this world, it is your presence that gives me peace.

I feel proud when my friends envy our relationship; we do not fight about who is more and less because we both know how important we are to each other. The best part of our relationship is we both understand each other’s unspoken thoughts. I will love you forever my sweetheart.

Your husband
Name.

8. Dear Wife (Name),

No one can replace you in my life. You are the love of my life. Darling, I will never let you go. You probably would not know, but I cannot stay away from you, I go crazy if you do not talk to me. Every time we fight, I could be putting on a brave face, but deep inside I curse myself for raising my voice at you.

I love your smile; the way your eyes light up upon seeing me makes me feel like I am the king of the world. I have met many women before you, but no one was able to change my world as you did. You stole my heart, and please never return it because it is the only place it wants to be.

Your husband forever
Name.

9. Dear wife,

Today I write this letter to tell you how much I miss you. This distance between us is unbearable. When I come home to an empty house, I miss your smiling face awaiting my return. You are the constant thought on my mind. Even when I am working, I think of you and wonder what you would be doing now.

Even though we are far away, my love for you has grown stronger, and I cannot wait to come back and take you into my arms forever. Miss you and love you.

Forever your husband
Name

10. My dear wife,

I know you will be surprised upon receiving this letter. Yes, it is real.

Name because of you I no longer feel alone,
Because of you, I look forward to waking up each day, just to look at your face,
Because of you, my family is complete.

I still remember the first time we met, you were so beautiful that my heart melted. Your eyes were sparkling like stars; your hair fell perfectly on your face. I was all sweaty and nervous when you passed by me. That day I decided there is not a thing I would change in you because you are amazing just the way you are.

Your soulmate
Name.

11. Dear partner,
Today as we celebrate our 30th anniversary, I would like to go back to the day when we first met. It was such a funny incident; we started with an argument and left thinking never to see each other again. But I guess God has other plans. We accidentally sat next to each other on that 16-hour flight. We had no other choice but to talk to each other. I am glad that day happened, otherwise I would have missed a wonderful woman in life.

What started during that flight journey continued for 30 years!! I cannot believe we have been together for such a long time. Today when I look at you I still see the very same love which I felt on that day. Thank you for being my life partner all these years, and I wish for 30 more years of togetherness.

Your partner
Name

12. Dear wife,

Happy first wedding anniversary.

It is already a year since we became husband and wife. I feel like it was only yesterday when I first saw you at my friend’s house. I got advice from friends and colleagues on how to control the wife. But you never gave me any reason to do so, you always loved me and respected my every decision. I wish everyone could have an understanding wife like you.

You corrected me when I was wrong and showed me the right direction. I am never shy to admit that at times you were the man of the house.

With love
Your husband.

13. My darling wife,

I may not tell you often, but I love you so much that my day starts with thinking about you and ends with looking forward to seeing you. I strongly believe that “Behind every successful man there is a woman inspiring him.” Yes! I proudly tell my friends that without your support and encouragement I would not have been where I am now. There were so many days when I promised to take you out, but had to cancel. You had to sacrifice so much for me, and all that you did with a smile on your face.

I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you did for me. Now, it is your turn to fulfill your dreams, and I promise to support you through the rest of our lives.

Happy anniversary dear!

Your husband
Name

14. My dear wife,

A very happy birthday to you!

On this special day, I would like to let go of all the hesitations and tell you how madly I am in love with you. They say as time goes by the love between couples can fade away. But with you, it keeps getting better and better. Every day you surprise me with something that makes me fall in love with you a little more.

Thank you for bearing with me, and picking up the wet towel every single day since the day we got married. I gave you so many reasons to give up, but you always chose to stick with me through thick and thin. This birthday is very special for both of us as you have given me the most precious gift – our daughter. I wish she grows and becomes just like her mother (strong and beautiful). Have a happy birthday, dear wife.

With lots of love
Name
Your husband.

15. Dear wife,
I still remember the initial days of our marriage. I wondered what made you say yes to me, you are such a beauty and might have got quite some proposals, but I am glad you chose me as your husband.

Everyone said a woman who is as beautiful as you will have her head in the clouds, and would be difficult to manage. But deep down I knew there is more to you than what people could see. And I realized I was right the moment I started to know you.

You are beautiful inside and out; I respect you for that. You have insane work ethics and unshattered ambitions in life. And I promise to support and encourage you to go out and conquer the world.

Happy birthday, my queen!

Your husband
Name

16. Dear wife,
I may not tell you often, but my life has no meaning without you. It is only after I found you that I understood the true meaning of a soulmate. On this special day, through this letter, I want to tell you how much you mean to me.

Darling, I love you so much. Every night after you fall asleep, I just love looking at you sleeping peacefully by my side. It may sound creepy, but it gives me the utmost joy and happiness. Our life was a roller coaster ride, and I enjoyed every moment of it holding your hand. And I have the confidence that I can face any situation with you beside me. Have a happy birthday, my wonder woman.

Your hubby

17. Dear wife,
First of all, let me wish you a very happy birthday!

Another year went by in your company. My life totally changed after I met you. You inspired me to become a better person. Thanks to you, now I am able to smile more and have a positive outlook on life. I am very much looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you.

Starting a family with you is the best thing that has ever happened to me. We are blessed with two beautiful kids who are the love of our life. My days are at peace knowing that you are always there for me. I can talk and discuss anything with you without the fear of upsetting you or starting an argument. I want to make this day unforgettable for both of us; come home soon as I wait impatiently for you to open your surprise gift.

Your loving husband.

18. Dear Name,

A very happy birthday to the only functioning adult in our home! There, finally, I admitted it. Jokes apart, I sincerely feel our house was made and remained home because of you. You are an excellent wife and an extraordinary mother. All thanks to you, our kids are happy and thriving. Also, thank you for being patient and tolerating my laziness all these years.

You have no idea how happy I am to be on your side. It was love at first sight for me; I could not take my eyes off you, and also got teased for zoning out most of the time. Since then, till now, I feel the same each, and every time I look at you.

On this special day, I decided to take care of the house and the kids so that you can sit back and relax.

Have a fun-filled birthday, dear.

With love
Your husband.

19. Dear wifey,
A very happy birthday, love. May God bless you with abundant health and happiness. I am glad to have you as my wife, and you do not know how pleasant it is to wake up to your smile. I am delighted to have a woman who feels content and knows how to appreciate the little things in life.

On this special day, I promise to keep on loving you unconditionally and shower you with all the care and concern you desire. I always fall short of words to thank you for the support you have given me so far. We had hit pretty low in our lives, but you never gave up, and it is your optimism that has made us go on. I am glad that all that is over now, and our future is full of happiness, which I cannot wait to share with you.

Once again a very happy birthday, darling!

With lots of love
Name

20. Dear wife,
Many men might have a beautiful wife, and some men might have a kind-hearted wife, but having an understanding wife, now is something rare. I am glad that I got that rare thing in my life. I still wonder how you can understand my every single gesture, every unspoken word.

I know I am not an easy guy, I am short-tempered, impatient, and quick to judge, but you never let me feel any less of myself. You always loved and respected me the same, even during the times when I was least loveable. Thank you for turning my life around and changing me into who I am now. I love you with all my heart.

With lots of love

21. Dear wifey,

Before I met you, I never believed in love, and never thought I could get head over heels in love with anyone. But you proved me wrong. The day we met was just like an ordinary day. There were no thunderbolts or birds singing. We met like two mature adults, who spoke nothing about love or emotions. But as days passed, the little things you did made me believe in love. Your love melted my rock-like heart and made me a human being again.

Thank you for waiting patiently until I could sort my feelings. I promise to love you till my last breath and will do anything to keep you happy.

Your hubby
Name

Content courtesy of Mom Junction & NFH 

Relationship Messages: Relationship Quotes and Sweetest Love Couple Quotes That’ll Make Your Heart Flutter

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

Being in a passionate relationship, or even a brand-new one with a lot of promise is a magnificent experience that is unmatched.
And while those emotions are largely incomprehensible, some of the beauty is attempted to be captured in the best relationship quotes and charming couple quotes.
You’ll identify with these statements on relationships whether you two are dating or have been together for a while.

This lengthy collection of the best relationship quotes and couples quotes will undoubtedly make your heart flutter. It includes beautiful couple quotes to share with your lover as well as motivational statements for brand-new relationships.

Nobody claimed that dating is simple. If you have a strong affection for someone new, you could feel uneasy around them.
It might be difficult to find creative methods to let your partner know you are thinking of them now that your relationship is long distance. Alternatively, perhaps you’re seeking the ideal Valentine’s Day saying that sums up everything you and your lover have experienced and learned over the years (or even decades).
The best quotes about relationships will assist you in expressing your love in fresh and meaningful ways as well as helping you say the things you want to say but lack the words to.

When you meet a new love interest or need wise counsel about love, refer back to these relationship quotations.
Let poets, writers, philosophers, and performers’ comments make you feel heard, reassured, and, most importantly, less alone.

  1. “When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ~ Paulo Coelho
  2. “We loved with a love that was more than love.” ~ Edgar Allen Poe
  3. “You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
  4. “A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself ~ to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia
  5. “Love that stammers, that stutters, is apt to be the love that loves best.”  ~Gabriela Mistral
  6. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” ~ Pablo Neruda
  7. “We cannot really love anyone with whom we never laugh.” ~ Agnes Repplier
  8. “It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.” ~ Hermann Hesse
  9. “Be honest, brutally honest. That is what’s going to maintain relationships.” ~ Lauryn Hill
  10. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu
  11. “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.” ~Martin Luther
  12. “The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.” ~ Henny Youngman
  13. “I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there’s a life after that, I’ll love you then.” ~ Cassandra Clare
  14. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou
  15. “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung
  16. “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ~ Ernest Hemingway
  17. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
  18. “To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.” ~ Criss Jami
  19. “I have learned not to worry about love, but to honor it’s coming with all my heart.” ~ Alice Walker
  20. “The love expressed between women is particular and powerful because we have had to love in order to live; love has been our survival.” ~ Audre Lorde
  21. “Perhaps we are in this world to search for love, find it and lose it, again and again. With each love, we are born anew, and with each love that ends, we collect a new wound. I am covered with proud scars.” ~ Isabel Allende
  22. “Love is the absence of judgment.” ~ The 14th Dalai Lama
  23. “You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.” ~ Bob Marley
  24. “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” ~Bob Marley
  25. “I don’t need anyone to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves.” ~ Shirley MacLaine
  26. “Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better.” ~ William Shakespeare
  27. “We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics.” ~ Joyce Meyer
  28. “Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine in yourself, so that you can hear it in others.”~ Marian Wright Edelman
  29. “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”~ Alice Walker
  30. “Once we recognize what it is we are feeling, once we recognize we can feel deeply, love deeply, can feel joy, then we will demand that all parts of our lives produce that kind of joy.”~ Audre Lorde
  31. “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
  32. “You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.” ~ Nina Simone
  33. “Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is me giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me.“ ~ Beyoncé
  34. “When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.” ~ Solange
  35. “Fall in love with someone who makes you glad to be different.” ~Sue Zhao
  36. “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” ~ Bryant H. McGill
  37. “Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.”~ Anthony J. D’Angelo
  38. “The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.”
  39. “People should fall in love with their eyes closed.” ~ Andy Warhol
  40. “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.” ~ Natalie Cole
  41. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” ~ Jodi Picoult
  42. “The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” ~ Victor Hugo
  43. “The only thing we never get enough of is love, and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” ~ Henry Miller
  44. “I have decided to stick to love; hate is too great a burden to bear.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
  45. “The giving of love is an education in itself.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
  46. “Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow Internet service to see who they really are.” ~ Will Ferrell
  47. “I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” ~ Rita Rudner
  48. “Sexy is the thing I try to get them to see me as after I win them over with my personality.” ~ Miranda, Sexy and the City
  49. “I miss crawling into a man’s arm, kissing his neck, saying those three little words into his ear, ‘And another thing…’” ~ Felicia Michaels
  50. “A guy knows he’s in love when he loses interest in his car for a couple of days.” ~ Tim Allen
  51. “If you love them in the morning with their eyes full of crust; if you love them at night with their hair full of rollers, chances are, you’re in love.” ~ Miles Davis
  52. “If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?” ~ Lily Tomlin
  53. “Being a good husband is like being a stand-up comic. You need 10 years before you can call yourself a beginner.” ~ Jerry Seinfeld
  54. “Love conquers all things except poverty and toothache.” ~ Mae West
  55. “The best way to get most husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they’re too old to do it.” ~ Shirley MacLaine
  56. “Love is a lot like a backache: it doesn’t show up on X-rays, but you know it’s there.” ~ George Burns
  57. “You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.” ~ Melanie Clark
  58. “I like a woman with a head on her shoulders. I hate necks.” ~ Steven Martin
  59. “Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.” ~ Jules Renard
  60. “Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.” ~ Carroll Bryant
  61. “Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.” ~ Joan Crawford
  62. “True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” ~ Erich Segal
  63. “True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.” ~ François de la Rochefoucauld
  64. “It wasn’t love at first sight. It took a full five minutes.” ~ Lucille Ball
  65. “Marriage is like vitamins: we supplement each other’s minimum daily requirements.” ~ Kathy Mohnke
  66. “All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” ~ Charles M. Schulz
  67. “I say if you love something, set it in a small cage and pester and smother it with love until it either loves you back or dies.” ~ Mindy Kaling
  68. “Love is the same as like except you feel sexier.” ~ Judith Viorst
  69. “A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.” ~ Cher
  70. “If she happens to fall, I’ll be there to laugh at first and then help her up afterward.” ~ J.A. Redmerski
  71. “Love is sharing your popcorn.” ~ Charles Schultz
  72. “Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery.” ~ Erma Bombeck
  73. “An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have; the older she gets the more interested he is in her.” ~ Agatha Christie
  74. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.” !~ Alfred Tennyson
  75. “I was born when you kissed me. I died when you left me. I lived a few weeks while you loved me.” ~ Humphrey Bogart
  76. “I love her and that’s the beginning and end of everything.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
  77. “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” ~ Emily Brontë
  78. “Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.” ~ Nicole Krauss
  79. “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard ~ they must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller
  80. “At a touch of love everyone becomes a poet.” ~ Plato
  81. “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.” ~ Zelda Fitzgerald
  82. “True love stories never have endings.” ~ Richard Bach
  83. “I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else.” ~ John Keats
  84. “There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” ~ George Sand
  85. “A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love.” ~ Max Muller
  86. “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
  87. “Love is sharing your popcorn.” ~ Charles Schultz
  88. “I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.” ~J.R.R. Tolkien
  89. “I choose you. And I’ll choose you over and over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.” ~ Unknown
  90. “I’m much more me when I’m with you.” ~ Unknown
  91. “I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.” ~ Angelita Lim
  92. “You are my best friend, my human dairy, and my other half. You mean the world to me and I love you.” ~ Unknown
  93. “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” ~ Herman Hesse
  94. “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  95. “I want you. All of you. Your flaws. Your mistakes. Your imperfections. I want you, and only you.” ~ John Legend
  96. “When I saw you, I was afraid to meet you. When I met you I was afraid to kiss you. When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you. Now that I love you, I am afraid to lose you.” ~ Unknown
  97. “But I love you I’m totally and completely in love with you and I don’t care if you think it’s too late. I’m telling you anyway.” ~ Natalie Portman
  98. “I love you. I am at rest with you. I have come home.” ~ Dorothy L. Sayers
  99. “Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have, always will.” ~ Elaine Davis
  100. “You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ~ Dr. Seuss
  101. “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” ~ Ingrid Bergman
  102. “Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.” ~ Khalil Gibran
  103. “Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  104. “Love is a friendship set to music.” ~ Joseph Campbell
  105. “My heart is, and always will be, yours.” ~ Jane Austen
  106. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
  107. “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.” ~ James Baldwin
  108. “It was almost as if she had willed him into existence, into standing before her at the precise moment she was willing to accommodate him, arriving not a minute too early or too late.” ~ Roy L. Pickering Jr
  109. “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~ Henry Winkler
  110. “I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are, or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together.” ~ Julia Roberts
  111. “Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.” ~ Hugh Mackay
  112. “Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you.” ~ Walter Winchell
  113. “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.” ~ Washington Irving
  114. “It isn’t possible to love and to part. You will wish that it was. You can transmute love, ignore it, or muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.” ~ E.M. Forster
  115. “It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.” ~ Anthony Storr
  116. “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” ~ Richard Bach
  117. “You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness.” ~Julia Roberts
  118. “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” ~ James Baldwin
  119. “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
  120. “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good so hard.” ~ A.A. Milne, Winnie The Pooh
  121. “Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.” ~ Thomas Fuller
  122. “Distance teaches us to appreciate the days that we are able to spend together and distance teaches us the definition of patience. It is a reminder that every moment together is special, and every second should be cherished.” ~ Unknown
  123. “I don’t miss you and you alone  I miss you and me together.” ~ Unknown
  124. “If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love.” ~ Bernard Byer
  125. “Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.” ~ Meghan Daum
  126. “I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart.)” ~ E.E. Cummings
  127. “To fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible god.” ~ Jorge Luis Borges
  128. “In a relationship, each person should support the other; they should lift each other up.” ~ Taylor Swift
  129. “We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.” ~ John Lennon
  130. “The times may have changed, but the people are still the same. We’re still looking for love, and that will always be our struggle as human beings.” ~ Halle Berry
  131. “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”~ Maya Angelou
  132. “I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ~ Marilyn Monroe
  133. “There is no remedy for love but to love more.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
  134. “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” ~ Bruce Lee
  135. “In the end, there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you. There just has to be someone who wants to.” ~ Robert Brault
  136. “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~ Mother Teresa
  137. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~ Maya Angelou
  138. “Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.” ~ Albert Einstein
  139. “I look at you and see the rest of my life in front of my eyes” ~ Unknown
  140. “For you see, each day I love you more, today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” ~ Rosemonde Gérard
  141. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” ~ Harry Burns
  142. “Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself.” ~ Andrew Breton
  143. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” ~ Morrie Schwartz
  144. “I want you to know that I’m not like the women in your past. I see the real you, and I wake up every day excited to know more about you.” ~ Barrie Davenport
  145. “When I saw you, I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew it.” ~ Arrigo Boito
  146. “You make me feel like I am everywhere when I am right here, completely still with you.” ~ Crystal Woods
  147. “Love is the beginning of the journey, its end, and the journey itself.” ~ Deepak Chopra
  148. “I still haven’t figured out how to sit across from you, and not be madly in love with everything you do.” ~ William C. Hannan
  149. “It was love at first sight, at last sight, at ever and ever sight.” ~ Vladimir Nabokov
  150. “You might not have been my first love, but you were the love that made all other loves irrelevant.” ~ Rupi Kaur

Content courtesy of Woman’s Day & NFH

 

How to Keep Your Sex Drive Alive During Pregnancy

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

Having no sex drive during pregnancy can be attributed to many things which can make overcoming it a challenge. We asked the experts to tackle issues that can lower your pregnancy sex drive so you can start having more fun ASAP.

Rumor has it that some women experience “the best sex ever” during pregnancy, thanks to surging hormones and increased blood flow down below. And it turns out that pregnancy sex is worth overcoming common hurdles like exhaustion, awkwardness, and anxiety.

“Couples who don’t make intimacy a priority now are only going to find more excuses when the baby comes home,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., a sex educator and co-author of Your Orgasmic Pregnancy. “The happier you are in all aspects of your relationship, including your sex life, the better parent you’ll be.”

Tackling the following bedroom issues will allow you and your mate to fully enjoy the pregnancy – and each other.

Fighting Pregnancy Sex Excuses

“I’m too tired.”

Fatigue is a classic symptom of early pregnancy and one that can quickly derail your sex life. After all, who has the desire to make bedroom eyes when you can barely keep them open? “Getting your body ready for pregnancy is a huge energy draw,” says Roger Harms, M.D., an obstetrician-gynecologist and author of Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. Late hours at work before maternity leave, sleepless nights, frenetic nesting, and carting around 30 or so extra pounds can also take their toll. Do your best to slow down and get the recommended eight hours of sleep. If you still don’t have the energy for intercourse, use this time as an opportunity to explore other activities that give you pleasure, whether that’s massaging, kissing, or oral sex, says Dr. Fulbright.

“I feel unattractive.”

For some women, it’s hard to channel your inner sex kitten with an alien belly that screams “incubator.” Though your shifting shape can take getting used to, you’re probably your own worst critic. Try to focus on your best assets.

If you’ve got great legs, show them off with skinny jeans and hide your bigger behind with a tunic. Of course, taking care of yourself on the inside, through exercise and nutrition, also boosts self-esteem. And why not try a positive attitude? “When I was pregnant, I really started to love my body and appreciate what it was able to do,” says Wendy Altschuler, a Chicago mother of two. “I was growing and supporting a life, and this made me feel confident and sexy.”

“I’m afraid sex will harm the baby.”

Carrying a little living being inside of you can make it tempting to slap on a “Handle With Care” label before lovemaking. But doctors agree that getting frisky is perfectly safe. “In a normal, healthy pregnancy, there’s no risk to having intercourse,” says Elisabeth Aron, M.D., an Ob-Gyn and author of Pregnancy Do’s and Don’ts.

The most common complications that can preclude sexual activity are placenta previa (a condition in which the placenta covers the cervix), premature rupture of the membranes, and signs of preterm labor. Otherwise, couples are typically given the green light for the entire pregnancy. That includes the first trimester when fear of losing the baby causes some couples to fret needlessly about their bedroom behavior.

“Miscarriages aren’t provoked by sex,” says Dr. Harms. Second-timers, like Kindra Kirkeby of Richmond, Virginia, have an intuitive grasp of this, making their sex life less inhibited. “It wasn’t this new thing that we needed to be careful about,” she says.

Relaxing (and improvising!) are key to successful lovemaking during pregnancy, especially in the third trimester when you have an out-to-there belly. During this stage, Dr. Fulbright recommends the side-by-side position or woman on top, which places no pressure on the abdomen.

“Sex is uncomfortable.”

Try new positions; just avoid lying flat on your back or having direct pressure on your belly. “The best positions, especially as the pregnancy progresses, are with the woman on top, either in bed or on a chair,” says Shannon Clark, M.D., an assistant professor in the department of OB-GYN at the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston. “Lying on her side, ‘spooning’ with her partner, is also a good option.”

How to increase your sex drive during pregnancy

Buy Maternity Lingerie

Flaunt your new curves with intimates that are functional and pretty. Some of your pre-pregnancy favorites may come in maternity cuts.

Book a Babymoon

Sometimes a change of scenery is all you need, so consider a last-fling babymoon vacation.

Strike a Pose

Getting your photo taken may help you see your pregnant body in a new and more flattering light. Jennifer Loomis, a family and maternity photographer whose work is showcased in Portraits of Pregnancy: Birth of a Mother, recommends scheduling the session six to ten weeks before your due date when your belly is clearly visible but you’re not too close to delivery.

Content courtesy of Parents 

 

Multiple Orgasms and What It Means

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

For many people, orgasms are the main goal of having sex. Orgasms feel good, after all. Many sex manuals and advice columns focus on how to have better orgasms or more of them. A common goal for these guides is to help people achieve multiple orgasms: several orgasms close together. The general idea is that one orgasm is good, so more is better.

Orgasms are a little more complicated than that, however. Not everyone is capable of having several in a row; if you or your partner do not have multiple orgasms, that is not a problem. It may simply be how your brain is wired. The time it takes to reach orgasm after you’ve just had one varies between genders and even individual people. This time is known as the refractory period, and it is a well-studied brain and body phenomenon.

It’s possible to explore the body to find out whether you or your partner can have multiple orgasms.

What Is the Difference Between Multiple Orgasms and Tantric Orgasms?

Some people who practice tantric sex claim to experience orgasms that last significant lengths of time, sometimes as long as half an hour. While these claims have not been scientifically proven, there are many people who claim to have experienced these long-lasting orgasms. However long an orgasm lasts, though, it’s still just one orgasm. Multiple orgasms are something else entirely.

A common definition of multiple orgasms is that the first orgasm ends and there is an explicit, short period when the person is not having an orgasm. Then, typically due to continued or renewed stimulation, another orgasm happens soon after. There are a number of ways to try to make that happen, including but not limited to tantric sex.

Myths and Misconceptions about Multiple Orgasms

There are two main myths about multiple orgasms: that everyone with a clitoris can have them, and that no one with a penis can have them. Neither are true. Some people with clitorises have a longer-than-average refractory period or simply get too sensitive for continued sexual contact. As a result, they may not experience or desire multiple orgasms. This is completely healthy and normal.

On the other hand, some people with penises, especially people under the age of 30, have short refractory periods and can achieve orgasm multiple times in a matter of minutes. This is also healthy and normal. There is no right or wrong way to have an orgasm as long as everyone involved is able to consent.

Content courtesy of Web MD

This Is Why Men Always Come Back

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Yes, in some cases, a man returns because he regrets losing you, but it’s important to remember how and why the relationship ended in the first place. It makes no sense to allow him back into your life when you’ve spent most of the relationship uncertain as to how much you mean to him. You’re reading this for a reason, you’re here in this moment with me for a reason, and I hope you understand that you deserve so much more. I want you to be happy, that’s all.

Apparently, he’s either bored with the person he initially left you for and or the person is no longer interested in him. When men leave all of a sudden, it is usually because they’ve taken an interest in someone new. Here’s something a lot of women don’t know.

Men use a relationship as a point of ownership, and even when the relationship ends for whatever reason, that man will add your name to a list of names of women he’s been with. He will then reference that list to see who he still controls emotionally. You remove your name from that list by refusing to allow him back into your life.

He’s testing you to see if it is indeed possible to abandon you and return whenever he wants to. He’s priming you for an extended roller-coaster of emotions. If he knows that he can hurt you, disrespect you, neglect you, then leave and decide when he’ll return, then he’ll most definitely continue to do it in hopes of continually breaking you down. The more you let him back in, the harder it is for you to move on.

He notices that you appear to be doing better and may believe that you’re beginning to move on. This belief prompts him to reach out in fear. When you successfully move on, it’ll make it harder for him to return.

He sees that you are happy without him, and his ego is damaged. This will often cause him to reach out in hopes of trying to dictate your emotions to strengthen his ego.

Content courtesy of Nairobi fashion hub Online Digital Team

Why Dating Matters

Posted on by Linda Wairegi

Nowadays, we live our lives online, and dating doesn’t matter.

Anything can be sorted in a second because we live in a digital world. Alex doesn’t need to wait near a telephone for Cynthia to call him at exactly 3 pm on Friday.

John Doe spotted Jane Doe twerking on Instagram and DMed her for her other social media pages. Then, they flirted on Twitter with cute emoticons, before Skyping their love away and getting engaged on Facebook in front of his close friends and families.

So John can’t understand why Jane wants physical dates now.

His mind keeps wondering: Why hustle so hard?  Can’t she ask him instead? Why put himself out there? Will the boys make fun over him because he’s pining over his crush? What if he’s crush says no? Isn’t dating overrated? What if she only wants me for A or B? Why bother if they’ll still break up, anyway? Why do face to face conversations matter so much when I can text her instead? Don’t all words matter.

So here’s a small list looking at why dating still matters.

IT ACTS AS A FILTER

Adam sees the most beautiful women, every day, on his way to work, but he’s never spoken to her. Instead, he fantasizes that she’s probably the muse of his dreams. Adam asks her out on a date to see his emotions are running wild or if there’s something valid there. It’ll also help him separate the wheat from the chaff.

IT SETS A PACE

Lisa likes taking things nice and slow because why rush perfection. She doesn’t like people that try to speed up the whole dating process. It feels like they have something to hide. So during dating, she can set the pace.

IT SETS GROUND RULES

Stacy has pet peeves that she can’t overlook and she’d rather stay on her own. As she goes out on her second, or third date, she’s able to communicate this, freely and it gives the other person, an opportunity to decide if they still want to pursue Stacy or not.

IT HELPS DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Tom isn’t looking for a typical relationship, and he’s not afraid to say it. Instead, he’s looking for something experimental, like ‘She’s Gotta Have It.’ Diana has been meditating and praying, about dating with a purpose. She realises about Tom and instantly understands that they’re incompatible.

IT ACTS A MIRROR

Lulu knows that by going out with James, she’ll learn something new about herself. It’ll feel like she’s staring at her reflection, in a vulnerable way.

IT ACTS AS A BASIS FOR A RELATIONSHIP

Alternatively, James can build a solid foundation through each shared experience with his partners. It lets both of them understand each other, plus build trust and intimacy.

Relationship Goals That Will Make Your Love Stronger

Posted on by Linda Wairegi

Human beings are wired to want intimate relationships; to love and be loved. Whether you’re in an established long-term relationship or in the first wonderful months of new love, doing some routine relationship maintenance is just a good idea. While every relationship is unique, there are a few tried and tested practices that can often help in giving just about any relationship a boost.

Use these relationship goals tips to go next level and make your bond stronger. And even if they don’t work perfectly for you the first time, hopefully they can be a starting point from which you can be inspired and maybe use as a springboard to try some similar techniques that work for you and your partner specifically. After all, the secret to a happy relationship is often nothing more than just a little bit of effort.

Make sure to communicate
Communication is one of the top relationship goals to keep your bond strong. Everything from a simple text to say hi to the big conversations let your partner know that they are front of mind and you value their opinion.

Making sure to talk to your partner about feelings and making room for them to talk about theirs is integral to a healthy relationship and strong emotional bond.

Understand each other
Not everyone speaks the same love language. Making the effort to understand the language your partner is speaking is one of the best relationship goals to strengthen your bond. This could be through learning to read their body language, or it could be through simply talking more and being more open explaining thoughts and feelings until each of your points of view are fully understood.

If necessary, you might consider going to see a professional relationship counselor who can help you to better understand each other. When you understand not only what your partner is saying, but how they’re saying it, it waylays their fear of being open and honest.

Argue effectively
We won’t always see eye-to-eye with our partners and, sometimes, they may make us downright angry. Arguing is a normal and healthy part of any relationship. The key is to argue effectively and with compassion in mind. We need to speak our truth with kindness and love.

If you don’t think you can be calm, make sure to take a time out and revisit the topic when cooler heads can prevail yes, sometimes “going to bed angry” can be the best thing to do during a heated argument.

Make your relationship a priority
With our incredibly busy lives, it can be easy to put the needs of our relationship on the back burner. But, as with almost anything important in life, time and attention is essential in making it last. To make your bond stronger, make sure that your relationship is a priority.

You can do this by scheduling couple time, checking in with each other, and showing your appreciation for each other.

Make time for yourself
While we all went to spend as much time with our partners as we can, it’s important to make time for yourself. When you make time for your hobbies and friends, the time apart from your partner can make your bond stronger.

As Khalil Gibran wrote in The Prophet, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of Heaven dance between you.” While sometimes we may think that time apart is always a negative, it may in fact be crucial in keeping the relationship alive. Keep this relationship goals tip in mind to ensure that you find the right balance of “us time” and “you time”.

Stay intimate
Couples that are intimate at least once a week report the greatest satisfaction in their relationships. If your lives are so busy that you have to schedule physical contact, don’t let the lack of spontaneity deter you.

A healthy and satisfying intimate life beyond the regular “honeymoon phase” is one of the relationship goals you definitely need to achieve to make your bond stronger.

Find time for fun
Couples that still have fun and make each other laugh have some of the strongest bonds. Let go, be silly, try new things, revisit old things, and most importantly have fun; your relationship will be the better for it.

Even if it’s just something as simple as mini-golfing or paintballing on date night. Let your hair down together and have a little fun.

Grow together
As we move through life, we are all bound to change. Relationship goals will shift, but being in tune with your partner will keep you on the same page. Make time for weekly check-ins and talk about how each of you are feeling.

This will go a long way toward making your bond that much stronger, and get you closer to being the type of “couple goals” that people talk about.

Keep dating each other
When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s easy and normal to stop courting your partner. But when you make time to go on dates, it reminds you of when you were first dating which makes your bond stronger.

Perhaps have a weekly or monthly designated “date night” so that you are more likely to commit to doing it regularly.

Be there for one another
​​​​​​​When bad things happen, it’s important to be there for each other. By being empathetic to your partner, you let your partner know that they can be open and vulnerable with you. You will be their port in the storm and that will make your bond stronger.

At the end of the day we all want a deep and meaningful bond with our partners. We can have that if we’re willing to put in the work on our relationship. When you have real relationship goals, it encourages you and your partner to set the bar higher which will make your bond stronger, and ultimately result in a truly happy relationship.

This article originally appeared on Power of Positivity 

 

Common Phrases Used In Relationships And What They Mean

Posted on by Ann Mumbi

So let’s attack this from both sides and get to the bottom of what men and women say versus what they really mean.

“I’m fine.”

What women mean: Men, I realize that hearing your woman say she is “fine” makes you think she probably is fine because if you were saying the same, you’d mean exactly what you were saying. But, in woman speak, more often than not this usually isn’t the case.

The key here to find out if that “I’m fine” is legit is the follow-up question. If you want to get it right, make sure you ask if she is sure and if there is hesitation in her response to you let her know if and when she is ready to get something off her chest, you are there to listen and support. By doing so, you will get major brownie points on this one.

What men mean: It’s pretty simple for a guy. If he is saying he is fine, he probably does, in fact, mean he’s fine. If there is something else to it, he will likely express it directly to you.

“I need to talk to you.”

What women mean: According to insight from my male relationship experts, this is the dreaded six-word sentence most guys don’t want to hear. They immediately think they are in trouble and it puts them on the defense fairly quickly. But guys, there is a way to calm that pitter-patter that you feel in your heart when you hear these words.

 

I think most men know that when a woman prompts a discussion with the “I need to talk to you,” it is probably about something that’s been heavy on her mind. And if you have this realization, consider yourself to be smarter than most. A woman dedicating time to speak to you about matters of her heart has thought this topic through ad nausea and wanted to have some closure on the subject of discussion.

Be prepared, not scared, and come to listen. In other words, go into the discussion with an open mind and with the goal to calm her fears and make your woman feel secure knowing she can count on you to have serious discussions. It will help your relationship grow if you learn to understand her needs and also keep the lines of communication open in your relationship.

What men mean: If your guy wants to have a conversation with you and uses this sentence, he is using it as a way to generally get your input on something that is bothering him. If he values your input, he will share with you what is on his plate figuratively speaking, and how he is trying to solve the issue.

If he is coming to you to get your input or perspective, bonus points for you because he trusts your insights and these matters which are big to him he is sharing because he trusts and values your opinion.

“Where is our relationship heading?”

What women mean: It’s a nice way of letting you know your SO is looking for something deeper in your relationship. And your answer will lead her in one of possibly two directions.

If she is interested in you and prompts this discussion, she wants to know if you are serious about her or if she is wasting her time. If she is looking for something serious in a relationship and your answer is nebulous, unclear, or fuzzy, then she will probably be moving on as in pursuing other options which will lead to the commitment she is seeking.

Be honest even if you think it will hurt her because if there is one thing a woman respects, it is honesty.

What men mean: Men probably won’t say this as directly but show it more through their actions. There are subtle tests he will throw your way to check your level of interest in him and how you fit into his life. He will make himself available to you so you feel comfortable knowing that his interest is real.

He may become a little insecure when you are heading out for the night for friends because he wants to be a part of what you are doing. He may ask you in subtle ways how you feel about him. And he will invest quality time in you outside of the bedroom with more face-to-face time doing activities, figuring out your interests, and getting to know you. This continual time and investment of his time in you is his way of signaling to you that he is interested in you for the longer term and letting you know that he sees a future with you.

“Do whatever you want.”

What women mean: I know you think you’re SO is giving you the go-ahead. But here is the caveat behind her words to you and how you can know if it is indeed ok to go ahead and do what you want to do. If your SO has continuously and repeatedly told you there is a behavior you’re demonstrating or activity you are engaging in which makes them uncomfortable, but you continue to do it because you just want to or it makes you feel good even when it does the opposite for your SO, beware when you get this message.

It can mean one of two things:

  • It is a test of your loyalty to her and your relationship.
  • She no longer cares about it — which, for a woman who has feelings for you, isn’t typically a good thing.

It means she is compartmentalizing your relationship, the status it has in her life, and also could be a sign that she is moving towards eventually ending things with you. No one should be overly controlling in a relationship, but if your existing relationships or activities endanger or put a strain on your relationship, you have to determine what is most important for you to prioritize. And this, of course, applies to both parties.

What men mean: Again, men are more direct on this one. Usually, their “do whatever you want” will have something added to it such as, “and if you do I will.” And what this means in man speak is to think clearly before you move forward because it will impact our relationship and how I move forward with you.

Tread lightly and figure out what is driving his position on an action you want to take. Talking it through together will give you insight into how he sees the situation, possibly calm fears that may be unnecessary, and put you both on the same page.

Dead silence.

What women mean: Ever had an argument where you thought you shut down you’re SO and they went into a mode of dead silence? It’s not a good sign. When a woman goes silent, it is her way of getting to her man. Yes, we women can be chatty, sometimes to the point where you might be like, “okay, I need a little quiet time.” But on the heels of a heated discussion or argument, when a woman suddenly becomes extremely quiet following a disagreement, she is ticked off at you and you haven’t really resolved or won that argument.

Silence means she is more than likely fuming and also a way to punish you. If you are wrong, the best way to make this situation better is to admit it and apologize. And I get it, apologizing can be difficult for a man. I know you have this pride thing going on too. But I promise you, by taking this little step for mankind, you will get some extra points when you do your next stupid thing. She will be more forgiving because she will see you are willing to right the wrong, admit when you are wrong, and compromise.

What men mean: I need some quiet time. I’m trying to figure out some things and I need some silence to do so.

It can also signal irritation, frustration, and trying to not overreact especially if the two of you are in the midst of an argument or a disagreement. He might need this time to reset, calm down, and process what you two are discussing. Give him the downtime before proceeding forward with your discussion. It will give him time to digest what you have communicated to him and help him to be open to your recommendation and the proposed resolution.

“I’m seeing someone.”

What women mean: You’ve approached a woman you are very interested in dating. And she shuts you down with, “I have a boyfriend.”

If she says this and you find out it’s not true, it’s because she was trying to let you off easily. She doesn’t think you are her type. If you keep pursuing her, you are not getting the message. She isn’t attracted to you in that way. One small exception here is that sometimes some guys just know how to work it and will see this response as a challenge to pursue hard. And if things move forward, you have successfully changed her thinking.

But, if she continues to tell you messages repeatedly, she might, in fact, have a boyfriend. Or if she doesn’t, the best bet is she just isn’t that into you. She is not feeling you that way. Move on to the next one and save yourself the grief of this one-sided pursuit of a relationship.

What men mean: It really depends on the situation. When a man is serious about someone he is seeing, he will clearly communicate this to you and show it by his actions. It is pretty black and white and he will not give you an inkling of interest. However, if he is dating and he is on the fence and openly flirting and entertaining the idea of getting with you, then more than likely he is passing time in his current relationship(s). His relationship isn’t probably too serious and he is keeping his options open.

How you respond to this one is on you because it just depends on how you want to establish the relationship with him. If he has a long-term relationship with a woman but isn’t respecting her enough to let her know he is interested in other women, then it’s likely he will do the same to you. Tread lightly, move slowly, and set your standards of how you want to be treated early on if you move forward with this relationship.

“I like our friendship.”

What women mean: I know you don’t want to hear this, but women know if they will be intimate with a man and can figure this out within a short time period. We often quickly assess what category we will fit into within our lives. These categories often encompass a friend, potential for the future, someone for casual dating, or possibly long-term relationship material.

Yes, you are in the friend zone, and I know this can suck. And I don’t care what you do, how much time you spend with her, or how much emotional support you provide. If she feels you are for her, she will let you know by her actions, interactions, and priority you have in her life.

Now there can be exceptions to the rule where a man is so persuasive and endearing that he gets a woman to change her mind. But these exceptions tend to be rare. If she is telling you she loves your friendship, that’s it. She merely likes you as a friend. Nothing more, nothing less. Don’t overthink this one.

What men mean: Men tend to show their cards early on even in a friendship. I do think it’s possible to be friends with a man and vice-versa, but understand some initial development of a friendship can be done with an intent to get to know you better.

Here is how you know the difference between a man wanting friendship with you versus something more. If he keeps it friendly i.e. small talk, advice about business, family, etc. likely he is interested in you as a friend.

However, if the talk goes to the gray areas i.e. talk about sexual intimacy, jokes about the two of you connecting physically, him getting a little jealous and judgmental when you discuss other men or those you are interested in dating, it can mean something different. Friends want to see their friends happy and they are there to be supportive of them being in relationships that add to their happiness. If you are getting feedback opposite of this or he tries to sabotage you being with someone in which you have a love interest, then something else is on his agenda.

Knowing how a woman expresses who she is and what she needs emotionally is half the battle. Understanding a man’s perspective and how he expresses himself can shape your relationship in an entirely different way.

Now that you are armed with the knowledge of what women and men say but really mean, it will help you to solidify and strengthen your relationship with your SO or help you in your pursuit of the one who can potentially be your SO

Content courtesy of Elizabeth Overstreet & Nairobi fashion hub Relationship Team

10 Common Words Used By Women In Relationships 

Posted on by Ann Mumbi

There have been many books written about the ways men and women communicate. While men and women share much in common, they often express it a little bit differently. Women are more verbose in nature and men tend to use fewer words leaving women guessing at their end game or intentions.

Here are 10 Common Words Used By Women

 

DON”T WORRY ABOUT IT, I GOT IT:  This means you were supposed to do something but didn’t. It means something was expected of you but you failed. It could be something simply, she asked you take out the garage, or expected you to do so, and you didn’t. Oops! Now she had to do it herself. Being the sensitive fellow you are, you ask innocently, “What’s Wrong”?  This will be met promptly with female response number 8:  “Nothing!” !!!

WHATEVER:  This single word has a multitude of meanings. Note carefully the stress of the voice, the inflection, the volume, and the body language that accompanies “whatever”.  The best defense, again, is no offense. Step away from fist swinging range.

THANKS A LOT:  This is not that same thing as “Thanks”. Do not confuse the two. This is pure sarcasm and you just stepped on a nerve or hot button. At this point, just walk away. Responding with “You’re Welcome” is inappropriate and will reignite any smoldering embers, or at least lead to a “Whatever.”

THANKS:  A woman is thanking you. Do not question it. Do not begin a dialog around it.  Just say you’re welcome. Leave well enough along. Do not poke the bear.

LOUD SIGH:  This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”.

THAT’S OKAY:  She’s already thinking of creative and provocative ways of how and when you will pay for your mistake.

LOUD SIGH:  This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing”.

GO AHEAD:  (with raised eyebrows): This is a dare, one that will result in the female getting upset over “Nothing” and will end with the word “Fine”.

NOTHING:  This means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with a huffy “Fine”.

FIVE MINUTES:  This is half an hour. It is the equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it’s an even trade. “I’ll be ready in five minutes.”

FINE:  This is the word we use at the end of any argument when we know we’re right, but we want you to be quiet. NEVER use fine to describe how a woman looks. That’s right, when we say, “How does this look on me honey?”, the wrong answer is “fine”.

 Content courtesy of Nairobi fashion hub Relationship Team

 

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