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Tuesday 30th of May 2023

Nairobi, Kenya

Tag: Sex

Romantic Messages: Love Messages That Will Definitely Touch Her Heart and Drive Her Crazy In Love with You Immediately

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

Messages, whether transmitted verbally or through text, are one of the most basic and efficient forms of communication: This is an undeniable fact. Not only that, though.
A lover’s sweet words are divine and reviving to the receiver, like a cold stream in a dry desert.
Love is a power that exists everywhere; it is a circular process that involves both intention and action. If you must love, then you must stretch yourself to meet the needs of your beloved by adapting your communication.
She can start her day off right and know you’re thinking of her with a simple “good morning” text, for instance.

  1. What gift can I give to the girl who made me so happy and made my life worth living? I can only repay her by being her prince charming. I am the luckiest man in this game of love.
  2. I thought sunrises and sunsets were beautiful. But ever since I met you, I have rediscovered the meaning of breathtaking. A beauty so rare and so divine, you can never comprehend it.
  3.  I don’t want to think about how life would be without you. What I know for sure is that I can’t go on without you. If you ever decide to leave, please know I am coming with you. We have each other for life.
  4. Like a fish cannot live without water, I can’t live without you. You are the air I breathe. You are the reason for my existence. I will cherish every second I have with you.
  5. My life was meaningless without you, but you have given me another lease on life. Now, even sitting with you in silence, my heart is at rest. Being with you is enough for me.
  6. You have stolen my heart and made it your own, and I have become a sucker for your love. For all this, my dear, all I can say is thank you, for I can never repay you.
  7. You are the love of my life. You swept me off my feet and gave my life new meaning. Everything that is mine is now yours. You have all of me, and I need all of you.
  8. There is nothing that could put into perspective what I feel for you. You put inside me; a spring of life that is ever-flowing. You and I will last till the end of time. Life knew you were the best gift for me, and there is nothing more I could ask of you.
  9. Lady luck smiled at me, and I cannot trade what you make me feel for anything in the world. I have no use for gold and silver, as long as I have you, baby. You are more than enough for me.
  10. I loved others before I met you, and I always thought it was true love. But thanks to you, I know the taste of true love. You are my soulmate.
  11. My love, no one lights me up or gets me high on life as you do. Thank you for being so gentle, caring, and kind. What would I do without you?
  12. Never in my wildest dream did I ever see myself falling for someone so deep. Over the years, you have become an integral part of our family. To me, you are a gift that comes once in a lifetime.
  13. I hope you remember every day that you matter and that you can achieve all you set your mind to do. I say this in complete confidence because I have seen you transform my life. I love you so much.
  14. Roses are red, violets are blue, and my love for you is firm like glue. Looking back, I can only be immensely grateful for standing by my side and being the support system I never had when growing up.
  15. When I think about you, my mind is overwhelmed with happy thoughts about our future family. Our kids will have the best mom in the world, and for that, I envy you.
  16. All I will ever need is you. Just to have you by my side whether, in the scorching sun or winter, I can weather anything with you next to me.
  17. Even at 50, we will still be young and energetic at heart. I lost count of the kisses, hugs, and good times we’ve had, and all I can do is hope we make new and better memories. Thank you, love.
  18. Like the ocean ravages the shores with its waves, your love has destroyed the walls around my heart. I was walking and living in the darkness until you came around like a bright light and opened my eyes. I am proud to be called yours.
  19. I want to remind you that you are the most affectionate person I know, and you should never change for anything or anyone. I believe in you, and I hope all your dreams come to pass.
  20. You are like a song on the radio that plays on repeat and gets me smiling every time. If you were an animal, you’d be a unicorn because creatures like you don’t come by easily. Keep glowing, my love.
  21. What did I ever do to deserve someone so passionate about life, loving, and hardworking? You challenge and motivate me to become a better person, and I would like to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you so much.
  22. The first time I set my eyes on you was the beginning of a magical journey. You are the best decision I ever made, and I pray that God gives us the grace to live and abound in this love.
  23. Oh, what a wonder! To have someone bring so much joy to your life. I think about you all the time, not because you make the best pancakes, but because there is no one else for me but you. I love and cherish you.
  24. If too much love could kill. I would have been dead by now. My whole being beams with love for you. A love that I know from deep down will never die.
  25. I wish you could peep inside my heart to discover the overflow of my love for you. I would gladly confess my love to everyone. You have become all I need, all I will ever need.
  26. My sunshine, I pray that you will always shine my way. You are such an angel, a beauty to behold. I can’t believe my lucky star, and I keep pinching myself to be sure I am not dreaming. I am so glad I found you.
  27. Every time you are away from me, I can’t wait to see you again. A few minutes apart feels like forever. I want you with me always because I can never get enough of you.
  28. Where did you touch me? What spell did you cast on me? I pray that the feelings you brought last forever. I would beg you not to change anything. I want to be in love with you forever.
  29. I want to lie beside you, go for endless walks, stare into your starry eyes, snuggle next to you, and kiss you every hour of the day. I can’t wait to hear you say that you will be mine.
  30. I can’t wait to make you a part of me forever so that when I fall asleep, you are the last person I see and the first person I kiss when I wake up. I want to behold your beauty and drink from your cup of love.
  31. I never knew a love so deep existed: A love that can move mountains: A love that sees no barriers but only bliss and excitement. Please stay and make me feel this way forever.
  32. I can’t sleep, and just a few bites of my favorite meal now satiate me. Thinking of you gets me satisfied in ways I never imagined. I indescribably love you.
  33. You have made me blind, and no one compares or comes near to your beauty, my love. No matter how hard they try, this love is reserved for you only. Thank you.
  34. As I lay down on my bed, gazing at the roof, I think of you from miles away, and I can’t wait for the days you will sleep by my side forever. I want to make you mine so badly.
  35. I wish to open my heart for you to see the depth and breadth of my love for you. A love that keeps on growing so much that I fear for my sanity. But I would choose to go mad than not have you.
  36. As you sit across me, knowing we are about to part ways, I already miss what we shared over the years. It gets deeper every second because you are the best thing that happened to me. Being away from you will be torturous, but I hope we will reunite soon.
  37. If skipping a beat would kill someone, I would have died a long time ago. Every time I see you, every time I hear your voice, my heart splutters with joy.
  38. If too much love could kill. I would have been dead by now. Each time I think of you, my heart beams with love for you. A love that I know will never die. I love you, my queen.
  39. When I wake up in the morning, and before I fall asleep at night, all I think about is you. But even during the time in between, you are still on my mind.
  40. Have I told you yet? I would do anything for you, my baby. I delight in seeing you happy and peaceful, and I would go to great extremes to make that happen. You are the best thing that ever happened to me.
  41. I would go to the ends of the world for you to prove my love for you. I promise to love you with everything I have. And even when our time comes, we will rest together eternally.
  42. I assumed I could only find true love in a perfect woman. Then I met you and realized I was wrong. I love you with all your imperfections, yet you are still perfect for me.
  43. I love you more each day. My heart grows fonder every minute. I am so glad to have you. Thank you for making life bearable and worth living.
  44. Nothing could ever separate me from you, regardless of what anyone says about you. Nothing, including old age, will ever come between us. Only death will separate us, and even then, we have the hope to see each other in the eternal realm.
  45. All my life, I never believed in love at first sight, but you made it a reality for me. The first time I set my eyes on you, I knew my life would change for good. Because of you, I am living in the magic called love.
  46. They say time heals, but it didn’t heal my wounds. You are the one who made me whole again, and I will forever be indebted to you, my love. Thank you.
  47. What more could I ask but to gaze into your beautiful eyes forever? Your contagious smile melts my heart and my hands to embrace you forever.
  48. No matter what is happening in life, thinking about you gets me at ease. The fact that you love me despite all my shortcomings is divine. Just thinking of you dissipates all my worries. I love you.
  49. All I could ever need is in you. I want to have you by my side till the end of time. Thank you for the good times, and stay hopeful for the bright future ahead.
  50. I have become a fool for you. I say your name everywhere I go. People are getting tired of me talking about you all the time, but I don’t care one bit. It doesn’t matter if they all leave, as long as I have you for life.

  51. If you ask me when I want to be with you, my answer will be – now and forever.

  52. No matter what has happened. No matter what you’ve done. No matter what you will do. I will always love you.

  53. My love for you is undoubtedly the only thing that will never end. You make me feel the best I’ve ever felt, and I’ll forever treasure it.

  54. You make my dreams come true and are the best thing God has ever given me. I will always love you.

  55.  I want you in my life today, tomorrow, and forever.

  56. Your love is a drug, and I never want to recover from it.

  57. I love you- this is the least I can say. I wish I could do more to show what I really feel for you.
  58. If you ask me to make a last wish, it would be to go on like this, holding your hands in mine, till my last breath.
  59. Nothing can explain fully how fortunate I am to have you in my life. I am forever grateful to God for blessing me with an angel like you! Love you sincerely.
  60. The world is on one side, and you, my love, are on the other side. I will choose you no matter what.
  61. I want to be with you always and forever. Nothing in this world can replace you in my heart.
  62. Loving you is the only thing that makes my life worth living. The world might call me crazy, but I’m glad to be crazy about you! My sweetheart, I love you!
  63. Saying it a thousand times won’t be enough to express my feelings toward you, but I’m going to keep saying it nevertheless- I love you! I will keep loving you till the end of my days, no matter what lies ahead of us.
  64. I now understand what happiness feels like. It’s you and everything about you; your goddess face, mellow voice, kind heart, and gentle, warm hands. Honey, I really do mean it. You make me happy.
  65. You are the happiness in my sorrowful life. You are the reason I can smile. You are the most precious person in my life now and forever.

  66. I have fallen in love many times. But every time, it was with you!

  67. Everything feels empty when you are not around, but our love is what keeps me going. Miss you, babe.

  68. We might be miles apart, but our souls are right next to each other- that’s how strong our love is, darling.

  69. I never knew what real love would be like until I met you. You taught me how to love, how to show how I feel, how to care, and how to be responsible. Now I feel like I have everything I need in life. I love you, and words won’t ever be enough to thank you for all you have done for me. May this go on forever.

  70. Falling in love with you was the happiest incident of my life. You loved me, stood by my side, and turned me into the person I am today. I am just so lucky to have you, darling, and I am never letting you go.

  71. I am lucky enough to get a person like you in my life who gives me a thousand reasons to smile every day. You are so precious, my handsome.

  72. If there’s one thing in this world I’m afraid to lose, it’s you. I am so in love with you that I can’t afford to lose you!

  73. You don’t know how blessed I am to have you in my life. You have given a new meaning in my life. You are the reason for my smile and my happiness. I love you endlessly!

  74. I wrote your name in the sky, but the wind blew it away. I wrote your name in the sand, but the waves washed it away. I wrote your name in my heart, and forever it will stay.

  75. I am so lost in loving you that I don’t know the right words to express what I feel for you. No words can describe my love for you! No language can express how much I love you.

  76. Your love is everything that keeps me alive and makes me feel complete. I love you!

  77. Words are not enough to say thanks to you for being with me. You are the kindest soul who makes my life beautiful and loved.

  78. My greatest fantasies are the ones that start with you and end with you. I love you truly madly and deeply!

  79. Thank you for being my wife; thanks for giving me many reasons to live my life to the fullest. You are my perfect one.

  80. Waking up next to you every day is nothing but a pure blessing. Thank you for being my husband.

  81. If I get paid for loving you, I would be a millionaire by now!

  82. You are the only reason why I survive; I love you so so much honey!

  83. Sweetheart, I wish I could make you as happy as you make me. Love you.

  84. When someone asks me if I have something in my life worth fighting for, I think of your face right away. I would fight alone and win a war just for you. You make me want to live. I love you so much!

  85. Life without you is impossible. Life after you is unimaginable. Even after death, I want our souls to be reunited!

  86. My love for you is deeper than the ocean and wider than the sky. Nobody can measure it, but you know how much I love you.

  87. You are just so beautiful, both inside and outside. I must be so lucky that I could find you in this big world and make you mine.

  88. An hour would feel like a minute when we’re together. But when we are apart, a minute will feel like an hour!

  89. Your heart is so full of love, and I’m lucky enough to find a place there. Love you, honey.

  90. If you were a book, I would read you over and over again. That is how much I love you my prettiness.

  91. It takes great luck to have someone like you as a girlfriend. I feel blessed every day and every moment for this gift.

  92. I will love you till my last breath, no matter what life brings before us!

  93. My love for you is always growing stronger, and I’m slowly losing myself deeper into it.

  94. Your love is the source of my happiness. Please never leave me alone. I cannot imagine a single day without you.

  95. I could use a thousand words to express my love for you and how beautiful you are, but that still wouldn’t be enough. Each day, I love you more.

  96. The more I love you, the more I think it’s less. You always deserve all the love in this world.

  97. I don’t know what you have that always draws me to you. I love you so much. I can’t live a minute without you.

  98. I am really blessed to have you in my life. I love you so much, sweetheart!

  99. The most beautiful thing that ever happened to me is YOU. I love you so much, babe!

  100. You make me feel alive every moment. You are the reason behind every joy and every smile of my life. You’re the most amazing girl that I can spend the rest of my life with. Thanks for being mine. I love you so deeply!

  101. No matter how busy I am, my heart never forgets to remind me of you. I love you, baby.

  102. The more days go by, the more I fall in love with you. You are the Queen of my heart.

  103. I never thought I’d run into someone like you. I never thought that a woman is as wonderful as you would like someone like me. But it all makes me realize that real love does exist and that I am lucky to have it.

  104. You gave me a reason to live, dream, and fight. You make my days worth living. Thank you for being the only person who understands me!

  105. I don’t want the world, I don’t want the skies, I don’t want the moon, I just want you in my share. Love you a lot, my love!

  106. I can’t stop loving you because it’s the only thing I’m good at and the only reason I was sent here on earth. I love you!

  107. Your presence in my life is a lifetime blessing. You’re the gift that I never dared to ask for. The love you have given me is more than I could ever imagine.

  108. Sometimes it feels like I’m having a dream, but then I realize it’s all real and I’m one lucky fellow in this beautiful world. Thank you for being mine!

  109. I thank god every day because he answered my prayer and gave me the most gorgeous woman in the world. I can’t help myself from falling in love with you every day!

  110. You are the most beautiful woman I have ever known. I love you more than anything else in life! I feel like the luckiest woman I have you in my life. May God bless you and us together.

  111. Your smile is the reward I want to get every day. It is the only thing that keeps me breathing beautifully.

  112. You light up my world like nobody else, and I love that about you the most, sweetie. Tons of love.

  113. No matter how my day has been, all my anger and sadness seem to disappear as soon as I see you. I’m both glad and thankful to have you in my life.

  114. Thanks for rocking my world in every possible way. Love you to the moon and back, queen.

  115. By holding your hands tightly, I get the strength of conquering all my life problems. Stay with me always.

  116. You have everything in you to be loved, to be adored, and to be pampered. I’ll always give my best to make you feel special. I love you!

  117. Wish I could show you how much you mean to me. You’re the one with whom I can fall in love over and over again.

  118. The beauty in your eyes and the innocence in your face drive me crazy all the time. I want you in my life today, tomorrow, and forever.

  119. I heard from somewhere that the best way to figure out how important someone is to you is to try to picture your life without them. Well, you seem to be the most important person to me because I can’t imagine my life without you at all.

  120. As the flower needs the sunshine, I need you in my life. You make me bloom. You are the person I want to spend my life with.

  121. I know our lives have pain and trouble. But when I am with you, I forget all the bad experiences. I want to walk with you on the shore holding your hand. I want to live a fairytale life with you. I want you by my side always.

Content courtesy of Hack Strive & NFH

Relationship Messages: Relationship Quotes and Sweetest Love Couple Quotes That’ll Make Your Heart Flutter

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

Being in a passionate relationship, or even a brand-new one with a lot of promise is a magnificent experience that is unmatched.
And while those emotions are largely incomprehensible, some of the beauty is attempted to be captured in the best relationship quotes and charming couple quotes.
You’ll identify with these statements on relationships whether you two are dating or have been together for a while.

This lengthy collection of the best relationship quotes and couples quotes will undoubtedly make your heart flutter. It includes beautiful couple quotes to share with your lover as well as motivational statements for brand-new relationships.

Nobody claimed that dating is simple. If you have a strong affection for someone new, you could feel uneasy around them.
It might be difficult to find creative methods to let your partner know you are thinking of them now that your relationship is long distance. Alternatively, perhaps you’re seeking the ideal Valentine’s Day saying that sums up everything you and your lover have experienced and learned over the years (or even decades).
The best quotes about relationships will assist you in expressing your love in fresh and meaningful ways as well as helping you say the things you want to say but lack the words to.

When you meet a new love interest or need wise counsel about love, refer back to these relationship quotations.
Let poets, writers, philosophers, and performers’ comments make you feel heard, reassured, and, most importantly, less alone.

  1. “When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” ~ Paulo Coelho
  2. “We loved with a love that was more than love.” ~ Edgar Allen Poe
  3. “You can talk with someone for years, every day, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
  4. “A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself ~ to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia
  5. “Love that stammers, that stutters, is apt to be the love that loves best.”  ~Gabriela Mistral
  6. “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” ~ Pablo Neruda
  7. “We cannot really love anyone with whom we never laugh.” ~ Agnes Repplier
  8. “It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.” ~ Hermann Hesse
  9. “Be honest, brutally honest. That is what’s going to maintain relationships.” ~ Lauryn Hill
  10. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ~ Lao Tzu
  11. “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage.” ~Martin Luther
  12. “The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.” ~ Henny Youngman
  13. “I love you, and I will love you until I die, and if there’s a life after that, I’ll love you then.” ~ Cassandra Clare
  14. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou
  15. “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung
  16. “The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” ~ Ernest Hemingway
  17. “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
  18. “To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.” ~ Criss Jami
  19. “I have learned not to worry about love, but to honor it’s coming with all my heart.” ~ Alice Walker
  20. “The love expressed between women is particular and powerful because we have had to love in order to live; love has been our survival.” ~ Audre Lorde
  21. “Perhaps we are in this world to search for love, find it and lose it, again and again. With each love, we are born anew, and with each love that ends, we collect a new wound. I am covered with proud scars.” ~ Isabel Allende
  22. “Love is the absence of judgment.” ~ The 14th Dalai Lama
  23. “You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you.” ~ Bob Marley
  24. “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” ~Bob Marley
  25. “I don’t need anyone to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves.” ~ Shirley MacLaine
  26. “Love sought is good, but given unsought, is better.” ~ William Shakespeare
  27. “We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics.” ~ Joyce Meyer
  28. “Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine in yourself, so that you can hear it in others.”~ Marian Wright Edelman
  29. “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”~ Alice Walker
  30. “Once we recognize what it is we are feeling, once we recognize we can feel deeply, love deeply, can feel joy, then we will demand that all parts of our lives produce that kind of joy.”~ Audre Lorde
  31. “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
  32. “You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.” ~ Nina Simone
  33. “Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is me giving up the right to hurt you for hurting me.“ ~ Beyoncé
  34. “When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.” ~ Solange
  35. “Fall in love with someone who makes you glad to be different.” ~Sue Zhao
  36. “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” ~ Bryant H. McGill
  37. “Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.”~ Anthony J. D’Angelo
  38. “The heart has its reasons, of which reason knows nothing.”
  39. “People should fall in love with their eyes closed.” ~ Andy Warhol
  40. “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.” ~ Natalie Cole
  41. “You don’t love someone because they’re perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.” ~ Jodi Picoult
  42. “The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.” ~ Victor Hugo
  43. “The only thing we never get enough of is love, and the only thing we never give enough of is love.” ~ Henry Miller
  44. “I have decided to stick to love; hate is too great a burden to bear.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
  45. “The giving of love is an education in itself.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
  46. “Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow Internet service to see who they really are.” ~ Will Ferrell
  47. “I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” ~ Rita Rudner
  48. “Sexy is the thing I try to get them to see me as after I win them over with my personality.” ~ Miranda, Sexy and the City
  49. “I miss crawling into a man’s arm, kissing his neck, saying those three little words into his ear, ‘And another thing…’” ~ Felicia Michaels
  50. “A guy knows he’s in love when he loses interest in his car for a couple of days.” ~ Tim Allen
  51. “If you love them in the morning with their eyes full of crust; if you love them at night with their hair full of rollers, chances are, you’re in love.” ~ Miles Davis
  52. “If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?” ~ Lily Tomlin
  53. “Being a good husband is like being a stand-up comic. You need 10 years before you can call yourself a beginner.” ~ Jerry Seinfeld
  54. “Love conquers all things except poverty and toothache.” ~ Mae West
  55. “The best way to get most husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they’re too old to do it.” ~ Shirley MacLaine
  56. “Love is a lot like a backache: it doesn’t show up on X-rays, but you know it’s there.” ~ George Burns
  57. “You can’t put a price tag on love, but you can on all its accessories.” ~ Melanie Clark
  58. “I like a woman with a head on her shoulders. I hate necks.” ~ Steven Martin
  59. “Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.” ~ Jules Renard
  60. “Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.” ~ Carroll Bryant
  61. “Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.” ~ Joan Crawford
  62. “True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” ~ Erich Segal
  63. “True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.” ~ François de la Rochefoucauld
  64. “It wasn’t love at first sight. It took a full five minutes.” ~ Lucille Ball
  65. “Marriage is like vitamins: we supplement each other’s minimum daily requirements.” ~ Kathy Mohnke
  66. “All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” ~ Charles M. Schulz
  67. “I say if you love something, set it in a small cage and pester and smother it with love until it either loves you back or dies.” ~ Mindy Kaling
  68. “Love is the same as like except you feel sexier.” ~ Judith Viorst
  69. “A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that doesn’t mean she can’t have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones.” ~ Cher
  70. “If she happens to fall, I’ll be there to laugh at first and then help her up afterward.” ~ J.A. Redmerski
  71. “Love is sharing your popcorn.” ~ Charles Schultz
  72. “Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery.” ~ Erma Bombeck
  73. “An archaeologist is the best husband any woman can have; the older she gets the more interested he is in her.” ~ Agatha Christie
  74. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.” !~ Alfred Tennyson
  75. “I was born when you kissed me. I died when you left me. I lived a few weeks while you loved me.” ~ Humphrey Bogart
  76. “I love her and that’s the beginning and end of everything.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
  77. “Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.” ~ Emily Brontë
  78. “Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.” ~ Nicole Krauss
  79. “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard ~ they must be felt with the heart.” ~ Helen Keller
  80. “At a touch of love everyone becomes a poet.” ~ Plato
  81. “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.” ~ Zelda Fitzgerald
  82. “True love stories never have endings.” ~ Richard Bach
  83. “I love you the more in that I believe you had liked me for my own sake and for nothing else.” ~ John Keats
  84. “There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” ~ George Sand
  85. “A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love.” ~ Max Muller
  86. “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” ~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
  87. “Love is sharing your popcorn.” ~ Charles Schultz
  88. “I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.” ~J.R.R. Tolkien
  89. “I choose you. And I’ll choose you over and over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.” ~ Unknown
  90. “I’m much more me when I’m with you.” ~ Unknown
  91. “I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.” ~ Angelita Lim
  92. “You are my best friend, my human dairy, and my other half. You mean the world to me and I love you.” ~ Unknown
  93. “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” ~ Herman Hesse
  94. “You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  95. “I want you. All of you. Your flaws. Your mistakes. Your imperfections. I want you, and only you.” ~ John Legend
  96. “When I saw you, I was afraid to meet you. When I met you I was afraid to kiss you. When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you. Now that I love you, I am afraid to lose you.” ~ Unknown
  97. “But I love you I’m totally and completely in love with you and I don’t care if you think it’s too late. I’m telling you anyway.” ~ Natalie Portman
  98. “I love you. I am at rest with you. I have come home.” ~ Dorothy L. Sayers
  99. “Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have, always will.” ~ Elaine Davis
  100. “You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ~ Dr. Seuss
  101. “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.” ~ Ingrid Bergman
  102. “Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit.” ~ Khalil Gibran
  103. “Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  104. “Love is a friendship set to music.” ~ Joseph Campbell
  105. “My heart is, and always will be, yours.” ~ Jane Austen
  106. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
  107. “Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.” ~ James Baldwin
  108. “It was almost as if she had willed him into existence, into standing before her at the precise moment she was willing to accommodate him, arriving not a minute too early or too late.” ~ Roy L. Pickering Jr
  109. “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~ Henry Winkler
  110. “I believe that two people are connected at the heart, and it doesn’t matter what you do, or who you are, or where you live; there are no boundaries or barriers if two people are destined to be together.” ~ Julia Roberts
  111. “Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.” ~ Hugh Mackay
  112. “Never above you. Never below you. Always beside you.” ~ Walter Winchell
  113. “Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.” ~ Washington Irving
  114. “It isn’t possible to love and to part. You will wish that it was. You can transmute love, ignore it, or muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you. I know by experience that the poets are right: love is eternal.” ~ E.M. Forster
  115. “It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.” ~ Anthony Storr
  116. “If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” ~ Richard Bach
  117. “You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness.” ~Julia Roberts
  118. “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” ~ James Baldwin
  119. “The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
  120. “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying good so hard.” ~ A.A. Milne, Winnie The Pooh
  121. “Absence sharpens love, presence strengthens it.” ~ Thomas Fuller
  122. “Distance teaches us to appreciate the days that we are able to spend together and distance teaches us the definition of patience. It is a reminder that every moment together is special, and every second should be cherished.” ~ Unknown
  123. “I don’t miss you and you alone  I miss you and me together.” ~ Unknown
  124. “If love cannot stand the test of time, then it has failed the test of love.” ~ Bernard Byer
  125. “Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough.” ~ Meghan Daum
  126. “I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart.)” ~ E.E. Cummings
  127. “To fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible god.” ~ Jorge Luis Borges
  128. “In a relationship, each person should support the other; they should lift each other up.” ~ Taylor Swift
  129. “We’ve got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it.” ~ John Lennon
  130. “The times may have changed, but the people are still the same. We’re still looking for love, and that will always be our struggle as human beings.” ~ Halle Berry
  131. “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”~ Maya Angelou
  132. “I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ~ Marilyn Monroe
  133. “There is no remedy for love but to love more.” ~ Henry David Thoreau
  134. “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” ~ Bruce Lee
  135. “In the end, there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you. There just has to be someone who wants to.” ~ Robert Brault
  136. “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ~ Mother Teresa
  137. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~ Maya Angelou
  138. “Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.” ~ Albert Einstein
  139. “I look at you and see the rest of my life in front of my eyes” ~ Unknown
  140. “For you see, each day I love you more, today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” ~ Rosemonde Gérard
  141. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” ~ Harry Burns
  142. “Love is when you meet someone who tells you something new about yourself.” ~ Andrew Breton
  143. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” ~ Morrie Schwartz
  144. “I want you to know that I’m not like the women in your past. I see the real you, and I wake up every day excited to know more about you.” ~ Barrie Davenport
  145. “When I saw you, I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew it.” ~ Arrigo Boito
  146. “You make me feel like I am everywhere when I am right here, completely still with you.” ~ Crystal Woods
  147. “Love is the beginning of the journey, its end, and the journey itself.” ~ Deepak Chopra
  148. “I still haven’t figured out how to sit across from you, and not be madly in love with everything you do.” ~ William C. Hannan
  149. “It was love at first sight, at last sight, at ever and ever sight.” ~ Vladimir Nabokov
  150. “You might not have been my first love, but you were the love that made all other loves irrelevant.” ~ Rupi Kaur

Content courtesy of Woman’s Day & NFH

 

How to Keep Your Sex Drive Alive During Pregnancy

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Having no sex drive during pregnancy can be attributed to many things which can make overcoming it a challenge. We asked the experts to tackle issues that can lower your pregnancy sex drive so you can start having more fun ASAP.

Rumor has it that some women experience “the best sex ever” during pregnancy, thanks to surging hormones and increased blood flow down below. And it turns out that pregnancy sex is worth overcoming common hurdles like exhaustion, awkwardness, and anxiety.

“Couples who don’t make intimacy a priority now are only going to find more excuses when the baby comes home,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., a sex educator and co-author of Your Orgasmic Pregnancy. “The happier you are in all aspects of your relationship, including your sex life, the better parent you’ll be.”

Tackling the following bedroom issues will allow you and your mate to fully enjoy the pregnancy – and each other.

Fighting Pregnancy Sex Excuses

“I’m too tired.”

Fatigue is a classic symptom of early pregnancy and one that can quickly derail your sex life. After all, who has the desire to make bedroom eyes when you can barely keep them open? “Getting your body ready for pregnancy is a huge energy draw,” says Roger Harms, M.D., an obstetrician-gynecologist and author of Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. Late hours at work before maternity leave, sleepless nights, frenetic nesting, and carting around 30 or so extra pounds can also take their toll. Do your best to slow down and get the recommended eight hours of sleep. If you still don’t have the energy for intercourse, use this time as an opportunity to explore other activities that give you pleasure, whether that’s massaging, kissing, or oral sex, says Dr. Fulbright.

“I feel unattractive.”

For some women, it’s hard to channel your inner sex kitten with an alien belly that screams “incubator.” Though your shifting shape can take getting used to, you’re probably your own worst critic. Try to focus on your best assets.

If you’ve got great legs, show them off with skinny jeans and hide your bigger behind with a tunic. Of course, taking care of yourself on the inside, through exercise and nutrition, also boosts self-esteem. And why not try a positive attitude? “When I was pregnant, I really started to love my body and appreciate what it was able to do,” says Wendy Altschuler, a Chicago mother of two. “I was growing and supporting a life, and this made me feel confident and sexy.”

“I’m afraid sex will harm the baby.”

Carrying a little living being inside of you can make it tempting to slap on a “Handle With Care” label before lovemaking. But doctors agree that getting frisky is perfectly safe. “In a normal, healthy pregnancy, there’s no risk to having intercourse,” says Elisabeth Aron, M.D., an Ob-Gyn and author of Pregnancy Do’s and Don’ts.

The most common complications that can preclude sexual activity are placenta previa (a condition in which the placenta covers the cervix), premature rupture of the membranes, and signs of preterm labor. Otherwise, couples are typically given the green light for the entire pregnancy. That includes the first trimester when fear of losing the baby causes some couples to fret needlessly about their bedroom behavior.

“Miscarriages aren’t provoked by sex,” says Dr. Harms. Second-timers, like Kindra Kirkeby of Richmond, Virginia, have an intuitive grasp of this, making their sex life less inhibited. “It wasn’t this new thing that we needed to be careful about,” she says.

Relaxing (and improvising!) are key to successful lovemaking during pregnancy, especially in the third trimester when you have an out-to-there belly. During this stage, Dr. Fulbright recommends the side-by-side position or woman on top, which places no pressure on the abdomen.

“Sex is uncomfortable.”

Try new positions; just avoid lying flat on your back or having direct pressure on your belly. “The best positions, especially as the pregnancy progresses, are with the woman on top, either in bed or on a chair,” says Shannon Clark, M.D., an assistant professor in the department of OB-GYN at the University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston. “Lying on her side, ‘spooning’ with her partner, is also a good option.”

How to increase your sex drive during pregnancy

Buy Maternity Lingerie

Flaunt your new curves with intimates that are functional and pretty. Some of your pre-pregnancy favorites may come in maternity cuts.

Book a Babymoon

Sometimes a change of scenery is all you need, so consider a last-fling babymoon vacation.

Strike a Pose

Getting your photo taken may help you see your pregnant body in a new and more flattering light. Jennifer Loomis, a family and maternity photographer whose work is showcased in Portraits of Pregnancy: Birth of a Mother, recommends scheduling the session six to ten weeks before your due date when your belly is clearly visible but you’re not too close to delivery.

Content courtesy of Parents 

 

Masturbation 101: A Guide to Solo Sex for Women

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Don’t be shy about self-love masturbation is a great way to learn about your own body, boost your emotional and physical health, and improve your sex life. Here are a few tips to get you started.

When I was around 10, I heard the word “masturbation” and didn’t know what it meant. I went to my trusty source, our aging dictionary (no Google back then), and read something that was equally puzzling. I remember standing at the top of the stairs and screaming down to my mother, “Mom? What’s self-pollution?”

(For the record, the real definition of masturbation is touching and stroking your own sex organs for pleasure.)

Women and Masturbating: We’ve Come a Long Way, Baby

Fortunately, women have come a long way from those days of shame and guilt about masturbating to today, when the lead characters on the Netflix comedy Grace and Frankie create a thriving business selling a vibrator designed for women of a certain age. Or when teen Aimee on Sex Education (another Netflix hit) learns a variety of ways to pleasure herself, thus empowering her to tell her boyfriend exactly what she wants. Far from being furtive and dirty, having a ménage à moi actually frees these women to embrace and claim their sexuality.

Men, in general, don’t get as much negative feedback about masturbating as women do. Historically, women’s sexuality has been defined by two purposes: to reproduce and to provide pleasure for men. Plus, since women are still socialized to put everyone’s needs before their own and to be caretakers, many feel that to do something that is solely for their own pleasure is the height of selfishness hence the guilt.

“It’s complicated because we have defined women’s lives as well as sexuality

5 Reasons Why Women Masturbate

In her studies, Dr. Bowman found five reasons why women masturbate:

  1. For sexual pleasure
  2. To learn about or better understand their bodies
  3. As a release
  4. As a substitute for partner sex
  5. Due to general sexual dissatisfaction

Women were most likely to enjoy the act without guilt or shame if they felt positive about their genitals and if they reported that they masturbate for sexual pleasure and to learn about their bodies. “There is a connection between the two, but we don’t know which causes which: Does sexual empowerment cause masturbation or does masturbation cause sexual empowerment?” says Bowman.

terms of what women can do for others” explains Christin Bowman, PhD, a critical social psychologist who did her master’s and doctorate theses on women and masturbation. “Masturbation as a solitary act is really just self-pleasuring, so there can be some emotion about you doing something that is all about you and your pleasure. It’s not productive; it’s just fun for you. That women’s own sexual pleasure also matters becomes a radical notion when you consider this long, long history of our attitude toward women’s sexuality.”

4 Health Benefits of Masturbation

According to Lou Paget, a certified sex educator and the author of Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming, getting lost in the deep end can boost your health profile for the following reasons:

  1. The pleasure quotient increases the release of the “feel good” hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin, the latter of which calms and reduces stress.
  2. You increase blood flow to the genital area, which keeps tissue stronger and healthier.
  3. Orgasmic contractions strengthen the pelvic floor.
  4. It is a means of “safe sex,” without the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

Masturbation Will Improve Your Partnered Sexual Activity

Your partner isn’t a mind reader. If you don’t speak up that you like this but not that, they’ll never know and will keep on doing what they are doing. The more aware you are of what works for your body, the more you can communicate that to your partner in gentle, specific ways: “I like it better when you touch me there gently, not hard over there,” instead of “Ow, for the love of all that is holy, stop that!” The first approach shows that you are into it and willing to experiment; the second is just going to turn off your partner. Even better, you could masturbate with your partner. “Any time someone is able to gently guide someone, people will listen. Guiding each other to your respective sensitive spots can be really hot and intimate. You can use their hands on you to show the motion and pressure you like, and they can do the same with you,” says Paget.

If a woman is uncomfortable masturbating, she may have trouble with partnered sex as well. If you think you need to see a sex therapist, check out the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists to find a certified professional near you.

Masturbation 101: Tips for Beginners

If you still can’t get past the notion that masturbation is dirty and obscene if every time you go there, your mother pops into your head, screaming at you that you’re disgusting you can learn to quell the noise. Paget says, “Your body is your body. No one else should control your sexuality. Tell yourself that this is healthy for you, and your body is a thing of beauty, not shame.”

Start off slowly if you have to; you don’t have to do everything at once. If you’re shy, cover yourself with a blanket. Get comfortable just touching yourself lightly and follow a sexy fantasy. Or just squeeze your thighs together in a rhythmic motion. Give yourself a chance to explore what works for you. Here are a few tips to get you started:

  • Stimulate your clitoris using a finger or an object to gently stroke the clitoris.
  • Insert your fingers or sex toys into your vagina.
  • Accept your fantasies. They’re yours; you don’t have to tell anyone.
  • Whatever type of erotica works for you, go for it. As Paget says, your largest sexual organ is your brain, so get it involved.
  • Get some of the mother’s little helpers: a vibrator, lubricant, ben wa balls, whatever knocks your socks off. (There are discreet online and brick-and-mortar shops for women. If you don’t want to leave a computer history, change your browser setting to private.)
  • Take a shower. “It’s where most people find out what they like. They are alone, naked, and touching their body. And for women with children, it is sometimes the only place they can be alone without being interrupted,” says Paget.
  • Avoid getting urinary tract infections. Anytime you are doing anything to your genitals, wash your hands before and afterward. Clean sex toys after using them, and this is one time when you should never share your toys. Anything that goes anally never goes vaginally.

Ready to go check your undercarriage now? Go ahead, you’ll feel better if you do!

Content courtesy of Everyday Health 

 

Survey Of Female Sexual Pleasure Reveals What Women Really Want

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What do women want? You’re going to have to ask them. That’s the conclusion of the largest study to analyze the diversity of female sexual pleasure, published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. The researchers aim to break down the ways in which women find pleasure, giving couples insight into how to boost their love life.

Debby Herbenick at Indiana University and her colleagues discovered that women’s preferences in the bedroom vary dramatically, but there are a few things that most tend to enjoy. A word of warning: this is going to get graphic.

The study asked 1,055 heterosexual women in the U.S. to answer a questionnaire that covered everything from sexual attitudes down to their preferred pattern of genital stimulation. The participants ranged from 18 to 94 years old.

Their answers were revealing: More than 36% of women reported needing clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, while less than a fifth reported that intercourse alone was sufficient. An additional 36% said that clitoral stimulation wasn’t necessary, but made for a better orgasm.

The majority of women said that some orgasms feel better than others, whereas 10.8% reckoned they all feel the same.

When asked about their ideal techniques, two-thirds preferred direct clitoral stimulation. Of those that preferred indirect stimulation, the majority preferred touching “through the skin above the hood,” while a smaller number preferred touching “through both lips pushed together (like a sandwich).” Fewer than 10% of women enjoyed stimulation to their mons pubis the squishy area of tissue above the pubic bone. Around 5% preferred it when their partner avoided the clitoris altogether.

When the women were asked about what pattern of stimulation they enjoyed, most indicated that a repeated rhythmic motion was ideal. The least preferred pattern involved a partner putting extreme emphasis on one part of the motion, for instance, more pressure on the left side of the genitals.

That said, the results suggest that it’s hard to go wrong in this department 13 out of the 15 different patterns of stimulation given as options were endorsed by the majority of respondents.

Something else most women agreed on: light to medium pressure on the genitals is best. Only 1 in 10 said they preferred firm pressure during stimulation.

The results show unsurprisingly that there’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to getting hot under the covers. The women in the study showed a wide variety of preferences as a group, yet on an individual level tended to endorse a narrow range of techniques that they specifically enjoyed. Which all just underscores the value of talking about sex with your partner.

There are a few things that will get you by in the meantime. More than half the women in the study said that spending time to build arousal, having a partner who knows what they like and emotional intimacy contributed to better orgasms. And one last thing: stamina is less important than you might think. Less than one in five women indicated that “sex that lasts a long time” made orgasms feel better.

I’ll be investigating other aspects of your love life in future posts. I’ll be finding out whether the G-spot actually exists, uncovering the science of female ejaculation, discovering why orgasms are good for the brain and how soon we’ll be getting our hands on a male contraceptive pill.

Content courtesy of Forbes

The Underrated Sex Technique Every Couple Needs To Try

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Mutual masturbation is when you pleasure yourself as your partner watches or when you both masturbate together. It can be one of the most intimate and exciting types of sex you’ll ever have. But mutual masturbation is seriously underrated. It’s hardly talked about and often dismissed as awkward or uncomfortable.

That makes sense in a way mutual masturbation sees both parties in a super personal, vulnerable state. Are you really ready for that? Andrea Balboni, Certified Love, Sex & Relationship Therapist at Zoe Clews & Associates, says that mutual masturbation is well worth a try.

As you explore this new territory of mutual satisfaction, there’s a chance to learn about what you like best together and separately. She tells  ‘Because many of us have learned to masturbate on our own in private, it can feel incredibly thrilling to be witnessed and at the same time frightening as it feels supremely naughty. ‘Mutual masturbation allows you to free your inner voyeur and exhibitionist as you put on display and watch what most people will never see. ‘It feels exclusive and risky and, did I mention, naughty?

‘Full acceptance by your partner for what you’re sharing can help clear inhibitions and shame, a pleasure killer for many people.

You’ve cleaned the runway for a takeoff into orgasmic bliss.’ It’s not all about the dirty stuff. Andrea notes that mutual masturbation can help to build intimacy – and may even be the most intimate thing you can do with your partner. It can also act as a language when talking about sex is difficult. We do not mind readers, and unless there is communication, how are we to know what our partner truly loves?

‘Mutual masturbation allows for a new form of communication to emerge’, continues Andrea, ‘one full of sound as you allow to emerge any moans or sighs that want to come out naturally. ‘You let your body communicate through movement, where you like to be touched and how. Your partner can watch and learn what pressure works for you and the speed you like to go at. Not to mention the time it takes you to get fully aroused.

‘You can tell your partner how good it feels, what you like, how hot it is, how turned on you are, and when you’re about to climax. ‘And you can change things up by telling them what you want them to do to themselves.’ As your partner learns about you and your pleasure, you may even both find yourselves feeling more confident.

Mutual masturbation can lead you to be a pro in the bedroom when it comes to both your and your partner’s needs and confidence is sexy, right? Andrea adds: ‘Contrary to popular belief, no one can “give” you an orgasm.

Your pleasure is yours and you experience it within your body. ‘So while a partner can support you in realizing your pleasure potential, it’s up to you to create the right conditions for you to allow your orgasmic bliss to blossom like a wild jungle flower within you. ‘And as mutual masturbation removes performance anxiety  a passion killer like no other there is much more space for pleasure to emerge.’ So, now that we’ve explained why mutual, consensual masturbation is a great way to make your sex life stronger, let’s talk about how to get involved.

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How Mindfulness Can Help You Control Your Orgasms And Make Them Last Longer

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Masturbation can be a route to achieving mindfulness. With sex having been banned for much of the last year, the chances are that masturbation is happening more frequently among those that are single or living away from their partner. In the 2020 global self-pleasure report by Tenga, it was found that 80% of Brits masturbate as a form of self-care, while 78% say self-pleasure improves their state of mind.

This is up from 2019, suggesting the pandemic has slightly shifted our needs from masturbation rather than just be about getting off, it’s about actually feeling good. Edging is one way to masturbate that encourages a more mindful approach.

The focus isn’t on reaching a climax quickly which can be off-putting in itself – rather, the focus is to delay orgasm and enjoy an extended period of arousal. It can be a great way for someone to get to know their body better and what turns them on. A spokesperson for the sex toy brand Pulse and Cocktails says: ‘Being mindful when having some alone time is a great way to be present at the moment and to really get to know your body and get in touch with what really turns you on.

‘Self-care is extremely important, and self-pleasure is a fantastic way to blow off steam and forget about any stress or worries. ‘Plus, it has some health benefits too, including improving sleep, releases feel-good hormones, increasing productivity, reducing period pain, and even increasing your libido.’ If you’re new to edging and are unsure of what to do, these are some top tips to make the process a little easier if extended masturbation feels strange at first.

Drop the pressure to orgasm Instead of fixating on having a ground-shaking orgasm, try to spend as much time as possible getting to know your body and what you really respond to. Build yourself up to come, stop, and then rest before starting again. Be romantic for yourself Taking the time to focus on yourself is important for your mind, body, and soul. Instead of having a quickie whenever you get the chance, block out a specific time in your diary for some alone time, and put some effort into your surroundings.

De-clutter anything causing negative energy around you, and perhaps also light some candles or put some music on to get you in the mood. Give porn a miss this time When it comes to being mindful, you want to learn what you truly respond to you rather than just defaulting to porn. Your mind is a powerful tool. Use it to fantasize, think about how to get yourself going, and what truly turns you on. If you aren’t used to doing it this way, that’s okay allow yourself time to feel comfortable and let your mind wander.

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Deflowering A Virgin

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Sex Guru knows that deflowering a virgin isn’t an easy thing. Of course, this can only happen after consent from both parties before any sexual activity.

A virgin is a person that doesn’t have any sexual experience. Deflowering a virgin means giving a woman her first sexual experience. If you make it enjoyable for her, then you’ll have her begging for more. However, if you leave her wondering whether orgasms only belong in fiction then, you might never see her again.

So, your Sex Guru has put together tips on deflowering a virgin:

 

CONSENT

It always starts and ends with consent. Since it’s her first time make sure,  she understands that sex is on the table. Let them decide if they want to share their first time with you or not. If she says yes, then find out about her boundaries. Let her lead. So, she feels safe with you.

 

SET THE MOOD

Set the mood right just for her. Some ladies want rose petals and wine, while others ladies want vodka shots and chocolates. So get a few of her favourite things, so she’s excited. Make sure there’s music in the background so that she can loosen up, naturally. You can do a shared activity that has touching but in a non-sexual way like, cooking together or dancing together. Then, when the moment’s right, kiss her slowly and pull her in close.

 

FOREPLAY

You can’t set the perfect mood without foreplay. Foreplay makes her sexually aroused emotionally and physically, plus it builds intimacy. It’s also a chance for her to get comfortable with your naked body if she’s never seen it before. Take a shower together and let her discover your body at her own pace.  It’ll amaze and arouse her. 

Later, you can massage her body slowly with baby oil. Make sure that you touch her all over till her body starts bending towards and she starts moaning slowly. Those slow moans where she bits into her pillow and body writhes in ecstasy. Take your time on your her.

The more you loosen her up than, the less painful it’ll be on her.

 

PROTECTION

Make sure that you have protection on hand. You don’t want to ruin the tempo by having to rush out to buy condoms. As a usual check, the expiry date and have more than one.

 

PLAYFUL

Don’t make it too serious on her and let her have fun because she’ll never have another first time. Take it slow on her and pay attention to her body and breathing. Stop if it’s too painful on her. Speed it up if that’s what she wants. Let her control the pace. 

Alternatively, let her sit on top so that she has total control over depth and pace. It will make it easier for her to discover if she likes deep, slow strokes or shallow, fast strokes to get her there. Understand that she might not orgasm but let her enjoy the journey.

If she’s adventurous, show her how you like to be touched, then watch her masturbate and take notes.

 

AFTERCARE

After the session, cuddle her, let her feel safe as she shares her thoughts with you. Remind her that you still care about her.

Having Hot Sex During Lockdown

Posted on by Sex Guru

The lockdown is becoming more intense as the days pass by. However, to fight against the Rona. All of us need to stay home, wash hands and practice social distancing. So, it’s not easy having hot sex during the lockdown.

So, since your Sex Guru is saving the world, one orgasm at a time.

A list has been put together on how to keep your sex life varied, fun and hot.

SOLO PLAY

Solo Play is all about getting sexual pleasure without a partner. Especially if you’re single or if your partner is in lockdown somewhere else. All you have to do is set the mood and fulfil your fantasies. It lets you take whatever pace you feel like try it in different places and different intensity levels. If you’ve been having a difficult time orgasming with a partner. This is the perfect way to experiment and find out what works for your body. Put on your favourite music tunes, lit up a vanilla candle and read up on some Literotica. Do whatever relaxes you and lets you concentrate on your pleasure.

 

SKYPE

If, you and your partner don’t stay in the same place and. It is risky planning a psychical meetup because of the pandemic. Choose a convenient time for both of you. Use Skype to your advantage. Both of you can have virtual sex online by talking dirty, masturbating and maintaining eye contact. There are wi-fi controlled sex toys that are perfect for long-distance sexual encounters.  Alternatively, you can wear sexy outfits and describe to each other your sexual fantasies for when you meet up again. 

 

ROMANTIC DATES

If you’re indoors, all day with your partner then doesn’t let them get bored. You can plan for fun, inhouse dates with each other. Like you can have fun cooking together in the kitchen, half-naked and feeding each other. Alternatively, you can snuggle up and do an activity that both of you enjoy, with no distractions. So put your electronic devices on flight mode. You can even help each other in the shower or massage each other and take time to understand your body. Use this time to build intimacy with each other and strengthen your emotional connection. This energy will help you build up to deeper and intense orgasms.

 

SEX TOYS

Feel free to experiment and have fun with sex toys. So try out your first one and becoming more sexually secure about your body. However, if you aren’t a novice, then you can always add a new toy. Have fun with your partner. Use the toys together, or let them watch you use them. It is also a fun way for you to learn new things about each other. You can release sexual tension whenever your partner doesn’t have the energy to satisfy you. They also let you focus on specific erogenous zones so you can feel pleasure instantly.

 

SEX BUCKET LIST

A sex bucket list is all those secret, sensual desires that you think about whenever you’re lying alone in bed. Things that you want to try out before your time runs out on this earth. You and your partner can both create a list of things that you’ve always wanted to try out. 

Here are a few ideas:

  1. Pretending that you’re masturbating alone till you achieve an orgasm
  2. Figuring out how to make her squirt
  3. Eating food from a naked body, so licking, nibbling and sucking in the process.
  4. Playing with a sex toy as a couple
  5. Role-playing your favourite sex scenes

 

WILDCARD

A wildcard is something unpredictable that keeps people on their toes. So if you’re the super-serious, corporate business lady, then let your partner walk in, while you’re doing house chores in a sexy outfit. It can be a simple see-through outfit with nothing underneath. So you can let his imagination run wild.

Alternatively, if your partner always leads, then you can tie him up. Gyrate on his body. Rub an ice cube on his body and lick him from head to toe. Take your time and have fun putting different sensations on his body.

Why Do Men Cheat?

Posted on by Resident Sex Columnist Adviser

Cheating can be extremely detrimental and damaging to a relationship, as it can break down the trust, honesty, and respect that are at the core of any successful and long-term relationship. And while it’s important to recognize the warning signs that your man may be cheating on you, such as he acts out of character, he desperately wants his privacy, and he suddenly cares more about his looks, it’s equally important to understand the underlying reasons why men are unfaithful in the first place.

It’s no secret that men are far more likely to cheat on their partners than women are. If you need any proof of this and you probably don’t consider that the vast majority of Ashley Madison’s 37 million “active” users were overwhelmingly male. (Like, 99.99999 percent male.) And, more recently, a 2015 YouGov poll found that 21 percent of men (compared to 19 percent of women) had actually admitted to cheating in the past. But the question remains: why do men cheat?

Here are 15 reasons that may lead a man to cheat:

1. An ex walked back into the picture.

It’s the tale as old as time: the one that got away. “A lot of times when we’re in a rough spot in our current relationship,” says Shirey, “we tend to disqualify the good.”

And when an ex shows up, “we remember that spark.” So you’ve got a situation where he’s ignoring the good parts about his current relationship and ignoring the bad parts the parts that likely led to the breakup in the first place of his old relationship. That’s a recipe for disaster.

2. He’s immature

One of the main reasons why men cheat is simply a matter of immaturity. When a man is immature, this unappealing attribute can impact a relationship in many different ways. For example, men who are immature often put themselves first in most situations, don’t take into consideration their partner’s feelings, insist on being right even when they’re wrong, and are characteristically unreliable and irresponsible. To that end, being immature is also heavily related to acting impulsively, as most men who are immature tend to give in to their basic temptations and desires without a care or concern for the repercussions of their actions and the possible negative effects that their behavior can have on others.

3. His emotional needs aren’t being met

Another primary reason why men cheat pertains to their emotional needs and desires. In fact, it’s been shown that nearly 50 percent of men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally unfulfilled, unhappy, and unsatisfied in their relationship. In other words, men cheat in order to feel valued and emotionally supported, both of which they may not sense they receive from their partner.

And rather than finding ways to have their emotional needs met in their current relationship, such as by frequently communicating with their partner, openly discussing their feelings and concerns, as well as having realistic and sensible expectations of their significant other, these men often seek out another person (or people) who can provide them with the emotional satisfaction, support, and empathy that they believe they’re lacking.

Whether men are looking to feel appreciated and desired or are simply searching for a shoulder to cry on, a lack of emotional fulfillment is powerful enough to drive men to cheat. It should be noted that less than 15 percent of men rated the women they were cheating with as more beautiful and physically appealing than their current partner, which again underscores that men cheat in large part due to a strong emotional connection with someone else.

4. His physical needs aren’t being met

When looking more closely at the real reasons why men cheat, a lack of sexual fulfillment in his current relationship is also a key underlying factor behind a man’s infidelity. Specifically, a study in the International Journal of Sexual Health revealed that one of the major motivators in a man’s decision to start an affair was his desire for sexual satisfaction that was lacking or completely absent from his present relationship. With this in mind, it’s not too surprising that an additional sign that a man may be cheating is that he stops being physically intimate with his partner since his sexual needs are being met by someone new.

Along these lines, men reported that sexual curiosity was a major incentive to cheat, as it’s not only a search for physical gratification that impelled them to be unfaithful but also a strong desire for new sexual experiences that are more alluring and appealing. It’s also interesting to note that men are more likely to cheat because of unmet sexual needs than women.

5. He’s insecure

When a man is insecure, he may feel unworthy of being with his partner, he may constantly worry about his partner’s continued interest level, and he may continually need reassurance, support, and approval from his partner in a wide range of circumstances. Typically, insecure men are typically very needy, and they incessantly seek out validation in order to prove to their partners, and more importantly themselves, that they’re good enough. With this in mind, research has found that men who are insecure in their relationships are more likely to cheat, as noted in a study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

In other words, because of a man’s insecurities, lack of confidence, and underlying fears that he’s not good enough, he ends up looking for reassurance and affirmations of self-worth from others, both in and out of his relationship. In fact, an insecure man may be so worried about the state of his relationship that his fear of losing his partner can actually induce him to cheat, which in essence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a word, his lack of confidence ends up destroying the very foundation of the relationship he’s worried about losing.

6. He’s an egomaniac

On the flip side, while insecure men are likely to cheat, so too are men with an overblown sense of importance and self-worth. Specifically, egomaniacs believe that the entire world revolves around them, and not only do they think that they’re incredibly attractive, smart, successful, and talented, but they’ll be the first ones to tell you that. And when looking at egomaniacs in terms of infidelity, it’s interesting to note that their inordinately inflated sense of self in conjunction with their desire to be the focus of attention makes them likely candidates to cheat on their partner.

In one study, research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that married men who are sexual narcissists, meaning that they only care about their own physical needs and lack any real concern or interest in their partner’s wants and desires, are more likely to have affairs. In other words, narcissistic and self-aggrandizing men who believe their needs should always take precedence over the needs of others are more likely to seek satisfaction, praise, and attention outside of their relationship.

7. His father was a cheater

When looking at the real reasons why men cheat, there’s also evidence that cheating can run in the family. Specifically, cheating can actually be a learned behavior that boys pick up during childhood. In fact, it’s been shown that men are more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, as noted in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. This is due to the fact that during childhood, men look to their fathers as examples and role models of what behaviors are acceptable and what behaviors aren’t. And when they see their father cheat, this type of behavior is ingrained into their own minds and becomes normalized as a way to deal with certain circumstances and relationship issues.

To that end, the example set by their fathers is how young boys learn to deal with many different situations, and they’ll likely mimic their father’s behavior in the future because it’s all they know. It’s also interesting to note that women in this study were not more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, which highlights just how important a father’s role is in terms of shaping the future actions of his son.

8. His friends are cheaters

But the powerful role that friendship can play regarding a man’s propensity to cheat doesn’t stop there, as his friends can also highly influence his future behavior and rational decision-making. Along these lines, a study in the Journal of Consumer Research revealed a person’s friends can heavily impact his or her decision to give in to temptation, as friends are more likely to band together when they decide to act impulsively and irrationally. In other words, there’s power in numbers, and if your man surrounds himself with friends who make poor decisions, such as being unfaithful, he’s more likely to make similarly poor decisions due to their influence.

9. He’s being cheated on

An additional reason why men cheat is simply due to the fact that their partner is cheating on them. And under this kind of distressing circumstance, many men look outside of their relationship as a way to seek revenge and get back at their partner for committing this offense against them. In addition, these men also start affairs in order to regain a sense of power and control after being the victim of infidelity. It’s also been shown that men who are being cheated on engaging in their own indiscretions as a way to distract themselves from the pain, betrayal, shame, and/or anger that they may feel because of their cheating partner. And starting an affair can help them refocus their energy and divert their attention away from their partner’s hurtful actions.

However, for many men, this approach is typically not the best course of action when dealing with a cheating partner because it can actually make them feel worse about themselves and the situation in general. After all, men who start an affair in reaction to their partner’s affair often end up undercutting their self-esteem even more by engaging in behaviors that go against their personal values, ethics, and morals.

10. He’s worried about his sexual performance

While it may seem counter-intuitive, men who have anxiety about their sexual abilities are actually more likely to cheat on their partner. In fact, researchers from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, as well as the University of Guelph in Ontario found that men who had sexual performance issues had a greater likelihood of being unfaithful.

One explanation for this seemingly conflicting result is that men are less inhibited when they’re with someone who isn’t their partner, and they tend to feel less nervous, worried, and concerned about their performance with this new person. Along these lines, another explanation is that cheating provides men with the opportunity to be with someone who isn’t aware of their past sexual performance issues, and being with this new person can actually help to lower the pressure to perform and please this new person. It’s also thought that men with sexual performance problems cheat in order to help themselves overcome these sexual issues in an environment that’s free of the judgment, ridicule, and/or embarrassment they may feel when they’re with their partner.

11. He’s feeling depressed or anxious.

Everyone experiences depressed feelings and anxiety to a certain degree. The issue is whether or not those thoughts come from the relationship. “If he’s feeling lonely within his relationship, emasculated in some way, or angry with his partner,” says Laurel Steinberg, PhD, a New York-based relationship therapist and professor of psychology at Columbia University, it could certainly lead a man to cheat. However, “it’s important to note that cheating [tends to] exacerbate existing anxiety and depression.” Thus, the circle remains unbroken.

12. Evolution is to blame.

There’s that old adage, where every man wants to sleep with as many women as possible “spread his seed,” so to speak and every woman wants to find one mate “lock him down.” We’re writers, not evolutionary psychologists, and cannot possibly hope to speak about the truth of that thinking, so we’ll let Shirey take it away: “There are some theories out of evolutionary psychology.

The theory is that, because women only have a chance of reproduction once a month, they tend to be much more discriminating in choosing a partner. Whereas men can basically have a chance of reproduction every time they ejaculate.”

13. He has potential psychopathic tendencies.

As Shirey mentioned, most people don’t wake up with the malicious intent to betray or hurt their partner. Well, most. “Maybe it’s a personality disorder, or are deeply anti-social, or have narcissistic tendencies,” says Shirey. Whatever the reason, “they need to address it themselves.” Until that happens, this man will hurt any- and everyone romantically involved with him. Run.

14. He’s addicted to sex.

“In very few instances, there are people who have a legitimate sex addiction,” says Shirey. Sex triggers dopamine receptors the pleasure center of the brain. And like anything else that triggers dopamine see: cocaine, heroin it can be addictive. For some people, dopamine activates more from sex than from other things. “A lot of people try to use it as a cop-out, though,” says Shirey. Fellas, don’t do that. Remember: “very few instances.”

15. Poor judgment and willpower are at fault.

“You’re more likely to put yourself in a situation where infidelity could occur if you’re not happy in your relationship,” says Mark. Whether you’re agreeing to tequila shots at a club with your buddies or, even more dangerous, agreeing to one-on-one happy hour with that cute new associate in accounting people who are committed to and satisfied with their relationship will avoid those scenarios. ‘

If he actively and repeatedly decides to engage in risky situations, something’s up. “People know the consequences of infidelity,” says Mark. “It’s not a secret. It does tear couples apart.”

Where Do We Go from Here?

Interestingly, after working with hundreds of couples attempting to process and overcome a male (or female) partner’s cheating, it is clear to me that it’s not any specific sexual act that does the most damage to a committed relationship. It’s the ongoing pattern of secrets and lies that surrounds the cheating that causes a loving partner the most pain. The profound and repeated betrayal of relationship trust causes the most pain. And most cheated-on partners will agree that their feelings of being betrayed are just as profound when a loved one is giving himself away online as when there is alive, in-vivo affair.

Sadly, most men (and women) who choose to break a vow of monogamy to an intimate partner don’t realize the profound effects their behavior can have on that loved one. One important recent study found that the wives of men who’ve discovered a pattern of infidelity in their partners often experience acute stress symptoms similar to those found in post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Unsurprisingly, the emotional damage caused by infidelity can be difficult to overcome, even with the help of an experienced marriage or couples counselor. That said if both partners are committed to behavior change and healing, most relationships can be saved, even strengthened, after and despite an affair. For some wives and spouses, however, the repeated violation of trust is too much; they are unable to experience the necessary emotional safety required to rebuild a relationship and move on. In such cases, solid, neutral relationship therapy can help to help negotiate a break-up, offering direction for both individuals to move on with their lives.

Content courtesy of The List, Best life Online, Psychology Today & Nairobi fashion hub 

 

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