Tuesday 20th of May 2025

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Tag: intimacy

Deflowering A Virgin

Posted on by Sex Guru

Sex Guru knows that deflowering a virgin isn’t an easy thing. Of course, this can only happen after consent from both parties before any sexual activity.

A virgin is a person that doesn’t have any sexual experience. Deflowering a virgin means giving a woman her first sexual experience. If you make it enjoyable for her, then you’ll have her begging for more. However, if you leave her wondering whether orgasms only belong in fiction then, you might never see her again.

So, your Sex Guru has put together tips on deflowering a virgin:

 

CONSENT

It always starts and ends with consent. Since it’s her first time make sure,  she understands that sex is on the table. Let them decide if they want to share their first time with you or not. If she says yes, then find out about her boundaries. Let her lead. So, she feels safe with you.

 

SET THE MOOD

Set the mood right just for her. Some ladies want rose petals and wine, while others ladies want vodka shots and chocolates. So get a few of her favourite things, so she’s excited. Make sure there’s music in the background so that she can loosen up, naturally. You can do a shared activity that has touching but in a non-sexual way like, cooking together or dancing together. Then, when the moment’s right, kiss her slowly and pull her in close.

 

FOREPLAY

You can’t set the perfect mood without foreplay. Foreplay makes her sexually aroused emotionally and physically, plus it builds intimacy. It’s also a chance for her to get comfortable with your naked body if she’s never seen it before. Take a shower together and let her discover your body at her own pace.  It’ll amaze and arouse her. 

Later, you can massage her body slowly with baby oil. Make sure that you touch her all over till her body starts bending towards and she starts moaning slowly. Those slow moans where she bits into her pillow and body writhes in ecstasy. Take your time on your her.

The more you loosen her up than, the less painful it’ll be on her.

 

PROTECTION

Make sure that you have protection on hand. You don’t want to ruin the tempo by having to rush out to buy condoms. As a usual check, the expiry date and have more than one.

 

PLAYFUL

Don’t make it too serious on her and let her have fun because she’ll never have another first time. Take it slow on her and pay attention to her body and breathing. Stop if it’s too painful on her. Speed it up if that’s what she wants. Let her control the pace. 

Alternatively, let her sit on top so that she has total control over depth and pace. It will make it easier for her to discover if she likes deep, slow strokes or shallow, fast strokes to get her there. Understand that she might not orgasm but let her enjoy the journey.

If she’s adventurous, show her how you like to be touched, then watch her masturbate and take notes.

 

AFTERCARE

After the session, cuddle her, let her feel safe as she shares her thoughts with you. Remind her that you still care about her.

Why Dating Matters

Posted on by Linda Wairegi

Nowadays, we live our lives online, and dating doesn’t matter.

Anything can be sorted in a second because we live in a digital world. Alex doesn’t need to wait near a telephone for Cynthia to call him at exactly 3 pm on Friday.

John Doe spotted Jane Doe twerking on Instagram and DMed her for her other social media pages. Then, they flirted on Twitter with cute emoticons, before Skyping their love away and getting engaged on Facebook in front of his close friends and families.

So John can’t understand why Jane wants physical dates now.

His mind keeps wondering: Why hustle so hard?  Can’t she ask him instead? Why put himself out there? Will the boys make fun over him because he’s pining over his crush? What if he’s crush says no? Isn’t dating overrated? What if she only wants me for A or B? Why bother if they’ll still break up, anyway? Why do face to face conversations matter so much when I can text her instead? Don’t all words matter.

So here’s a small list looking at why dating still matters.

IT ACTS AS A FILTER

Adam sees the most beautiful women, every day, on his way to work, but he’s never spoken to her. Instead, he fantasizes that she’s probably the muse of his dreams. Adam asks her out on a date to see his emotions are running wild or if there’s something valid there. It’ll also help him separate the wheat from the chaff.

IT SETS A PACE

Lisa likes taking things nice and slow because why rush perfection. She doesn’t like people that try to speed up the whole dating process. It feels like they have something to hide. So during dating, she can set the pace.

IT SETS GROUND RULES

Stacy has pet peeves that she can’t overlook and she’d rather stay on her own. As she goes out on her second, or third date, she’s able to communicate this, freely and it gives the other person, an opportunity to decide if they still want to pursue Stacy or not.

IT HELPS DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Tom isn’t looking for a typical relationship, and he’s not afraid to say it. Instead, he’s looking for something experimental, like ‘She’s Gotta Have It.’ Diana has been meditating and praying, about dating with a purpose. She realises about Tom and instantly understands that they’re incompatible.

IT ACTS A MIRROR

Lulu knows that by going out with James, she’ll learn something new about herself. It’ll feel like she’s staring at her reflection, in a vulnerable way.

IT ACTS AS A BASIS FOR A RELATIONSHIP

Alternatively, James can build a solid foundation through each shared experience with his partners. It lets both of them understand each other, plus build trust and intimacy.

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