Love Letter To My Husband: Romantic Love Letters for Your Beloved Husband

Posted on June 23, 2023June 29, 2023 by Ann Mumbi

Writing your hubby a love note could seem quaint or even tedious. But reading sentiments that have been written down on paper still provides a unique experience. Receiving a handwritten letter brings exceptional joy and has an enduring effect. Despite the fact that you can compose letters on your smart devices, handwritten notes continue to top the list when it comes to making someone feel even more loved and cherished.
Your relationship will be dull and lifeless without romance and affection.

Writing a passionate love letter to your husband is the best approach to reigniting the passion and restoring closeness.

1. Dear husband,
The day we married is one of the best days of my life, as on that day I found my best friend for life. It is true, I was skeptical in the beginning, but you made me feel so loved and comfortable, that I cannot imagine a life without you. Now, I genuinely feel I am the luckiest girl on earth, for I have a man who is loyal to me.

I want to confess that, every night after you drift away to sleep, I stay awake just to watch you sleep. You may think I am crazy, but I cannot help it, I am obsessed with you. I only want one thing in life now, to be your only love forever.

Your loving wife.

2. Dear husband,
I know we are no ordinary couple, we had many ups and downs, and our relationship has seen some of the worst storms. But we survived all that and here we are together. No matter how much we fight, my heart still flutters upon seeing you. I still dream about our romantic dates and late-night conversations.

You may not know, even when I am busy at work, I sneak peeks at your picture and smile. I read our old conversations and want to relive all those sweet moments. After every fight, even though I stay adamant on the outside, deep inside I crave your touch and cannot wait to end the fight.

With lots of love,

Your wife.

3. Darling husband,
These few words are not enough to tell you how much I love you, but still sending you my true feelings through this letter. The day I met you, I thought you are also just like any other guy, but you proved me wrong, you made me believe in the phrase “There are no perfect men, but one man is perfect for you.” After meeting you, I never felt the need to look at another man, as you made me feel complete and safe. I am glad that it did not work out with any other guy as it did with you.

Always your loving wife name.

4. Dear hubby,
I know I am not the most beautiful woman in the world, nor do I possess all the qualities of a good wife, but you never made me feel any less of myself. You loved me for who I am and never tried to change me. This motivated me to work on myself to bring out the best in me. Even after all these years, I still feel jealous when a passerby lady glances at you — that is how much I want you to be mine.

I still remember the day I saw you, you were wearing a neatly tucked white shirt, jeans, and a smile which I can never forget in my life. I was a nervous wreck, as you were so confident and good-looking. But you made me comfortable, and all my insecurities vanished. Thank you for that and more. I love you so much.

With lots of love name.

5. Dear husband,
I was hopelessly romantic, waiting for prince charming to sweep me off my feet. The world said I was living in fantasy until you came along. Now the same world talks about how lucky I am. I can never forget the day we met, it was love at first sight for me, (even though I did not confess first), I was smitten and head-over-heels for you. I couldn’t stop rambling about how handsome you were, to my friends. And today I cannot believe I am your wife, and the best part is waking up in the middle of the night only to find you beside me. I love you to the moon and back darling.

Your silly wife.

6. Dear husband,
Although I do not tell this often, I do love you more than anyone can ever love you. If I had a flower every time I missed you, I would be walking in a garden. This distance between us is unbearable, and I miss you more as each day passes by. You are on my mind every second. Whether I am sleeping, eating or working, you are my constant thought. Now my life revolves around two things, counting days to meet you and reminiscing the memories until I meet you again. I hope this physical distance would soon disappear and we can spend the rest of our life together forever.

Miss you, hubby.

7. Dear husband,
First of all, I would like to wish you a very happy birthday. On this special day, I would like to remind you how much you mean to me, through this letter. I know you do not like a public display of emotions, but I hope you would allow me to do it on this special day.

You are the perfect husband for me; I can never imagine anyone else in your place. You are loving, caring, and forgiving. I know I am the absolute opposite of all these, and that is why I am lucky to have you in my life. You are the same today as you were on the day I first met you. Thank you for being the only constant in this ever-changing world. You are a positive person, who can see the light at the end of the tunnel no matter how hopeless the situation might be (this is one of the qualities I am trying to acquire).
On this day, I wish all your dreams come true, and may you live a happy and healthy life.

Your loving family.

8. Darling husband,
Many happy returns of the day!

Today is the day when God has created a special person just for me, and I thank him every day for that. You transformed my life into a paradise, and I cannot thank you enough for it. You are a loving husband and an incredible father to our kids. I am sure they are going to turn out to be amazing just like their dad. I am glad to spend my life with you, and I wish to spend many such amazing years ahead.On this day, I would like to tell you how much you inspire me. Your patience and your positive attitude were the only things that could make me go on in difficult times. Have a beautiful birthday, darling.

Your wife name.

9. Happy birthday my dear husband!
On this special day, let me take the opportunity to tell you how much I love you. You probably would not believe it, but I wait for this day every year so that I can celebrate it with you. All year long you pamper and love me, but today it is my turn, so just sit back and relax. I always believed that I was among the unlucky, but you came and made me the luckiest of all. Life with you is never boring, each day there is something new to discover, something new to love you even more. I hope I will be able to make you happy and always wish to see a smile on your face.

Your loving wife name.

10. My dear husband,
Have a wonderful birthday!

On this birthday I would like to give you a special gift by pouring out all my feelings in words and writing you this letter.

Dearest, I have no words to describe how much I love you. I wish I were a poet to express my feelings beautifully through words. All I can say is you mean the world to me. My day starts with you and ends with you. Life is never fair, there will always be many ups and downs, but what makes it worth is to have a reliable and trustworthy guy like you. On this special day, I would also like to thank your mother for raising you into a perfect gentleman. And I wish our kids will grow up being like you.

One of the best qualities you possess is that you are sensitive to others’ pain. I still remember how you had given your favorite t-shirt to a shivering homeless man. Living with you, I learned that real happiness lies in selflessness. Thank you for opening up a whole new world for me. I pray to God to give you the strength to continue being the amazing person you are.

With loads of love,

Your wife.

11. Dear husband’s name,
From being my childhood friend to being my teenage crush to being my husband, we have been with each other through thick and thin. People often ask me if I ever get bored of you, I would ask them, “‘how can I get bored of my own shadow?” You are my partner in crime, my guide during difficult times, and my all-time favorite person.

Thank you for bearing with me all these years, I know I can be difficult sometimes. And you had so many reasons for giving up on us. But always you chose to stay and make things work. This year is going to be pretty special for both of us, as we are going to become parents soon. And I know you would make an excellent father as well.

Happy birthday to you!

Yours forever name

12. Dear husband,
Very happy birthday to you!

I know you will have a smile after seeing this letter, as this is the first time I am putting down my feelings in words. Thank you for being such a great husband. You never made me feel alone; you always made sure I was happy. No one has given me so much happiness. I am proud that our marriage is strong, all thanks to you and your dedication to our relationship.

I hope your birthday is filled with joy. Happy birthday dear!

Your loving wife name

13. Dear husband,
A happy wedding anniversary!

Today marks the completion of our first year together as husband and wife. I cannot believe it’s been a year since we got married. I guess we lost track of time as we were too busy being happy. Before getting married, I heard my friends say how difficult the first year of marriage could be. But I am surprised that our first year was the most wonderful year of my life. And it was all because of you.

Even though we had our fair share of fights, we never let them get in the way of our love. I wish we stay the same happy-go-lucky couple forever.

Your loving wife name

14. Darling husband,
Today is our 25th anniversary. I feel it was just yesterday when you were in that black and white tux, nervously waiting for me at the end of the aisle. And I was walking cautiously both not to trip over and to maintain my bridal posture. I am surprised how so many years passed so quickly. Maybe because you still love me in the same way as you did from day one.

These 25 years were magical; they helped us grow and love each other more and more. We started our family and raised our kids into good citizens. When I look back, the only thing I can see is how you held my hand at every step. Here is to 25 more years.

Happy 25th anniversary dear.

Yours name

15. My dear husband,
Happy anniversary to us!

Another year went by as husband and wife. I agree the past year was not all merry for us. We have seen some of the worst times, and thank god we survived all of it and are united as a family. I must give the credit for this to you, as you have been the true example of the word ‘head of the family’. You held everything together and directed us toward the right path. I cannot imagine facing the situation without you.

All thanks to god and you, the dark times are over, and all that lies ahead is happiness. This anniversary is very special, because now, finally we have put the past behind us and moved on as one strong and happy family.

Your loving wife
name

16. Dear husband,
Today is the day when we said “I do” and promised to be together forever. I am glad that we could keep our promises. I never thought two strangers could fall in love and become so inseparable, but here we are. I barely knew you, when we got married, and I had my share of doubts about us. After all these years, I can proudly say I made the right choice in life.

You welcomed me into your family with an open mind, adjusted, and sacrificed many things for the sake of my happiness. I think all I can do to repay you is by being the loving wife you always wanted me to be. I still remember the burnt dish I served you for the first time, and how you ate it without complaining. What did I do to deserve such a caring and understanding husband? I wish we had met earlier so that I could be your wife for some more time.

Happy anniversary my man.

Your wife
name

17. My dear,
The day that seemed so distant is finally here. I have butterflies fluttering in my stomach; I cannot keep calm. My friends say these could be pre-wedding jitters. But I feel I am just too happy and cannot wait to be your wife. Call me crazy, but I have already rehearsed our wedding for the 1,000th time now.

Darling, we are going to start an incredible journey together, which is not always easy, but it will be worth it, as long as we are there for each other. I hope you are as ready as I am to live in a house and call it home, have beautiful children, and call it our family. This day is a special day for most girls like me, who have found their soulmate. So let us do this right and start the adventure together.

Your would-be wife
name

18. My darling,
In just a few hours I will be your wife! I want to scream and tell the whole world how happy I am. I hope tomorrow will be perfect as I imagined in my head. Everything was just magical, we met each other accidentally, became friends, and finally, you asked me to marry you. I am thankful to God that we have found each other; there are billions of people in this world, and God has chosen you and me to be together. It is such a beautiful coincidence.

I hope you also cannot wait to start this fabulous journey with me. I know it is a little overwhelming, but that is how life is. I promise to be with you through thick and thin and support you as your wife.

Your future wife
name

19. My hero,
You proved that a man need not be handsome, rich, or witty to keep a girl happy. All he needs to do is be faithful, and love her as no one has ever loved her before.

My life was a mess; I had no direction. You came in and brought stability, and showed me the right path. Thanks to you, now I have a successful career as well as a thriving personal life.

I always wondered how a single person can turn my whole life around. But you proved me wrong. You are such a positive person and can carry those vibes wherever you go. I am proud to be called your wife. Thank you my knight in shining armor for supporting me.

Your proud wife
name

20. Dear name,
You are reserved, I am outgoing. You like sunrise, while I enjoy sunsets. They say opposites attract; I feel it is not entirely true. Initially, we might get attracted to each other because of our uniqueness, but what made us survive as a couple is our choice to love each other every single day.

Thank you for loving me unconditionally. I hope we spend many more fantastic years together embracing each other’s typical tastes and proudly being called the odd couple out.

Your weird wife
name

21. My Superman,
I want to write this letter to tell you how proud I am to be called your wife. Whenever people say I am lucky to have you as my husband, I agree with them without a second thought because you deserve all this. You are a phenomenal partner, who loves me and takes care of me. You never made me feel bad about myself, you always forgave all my mistakes and gave me a second chance to make things right.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all that you have done for me. You made my life nothing short of a fairy tale. And very few girls will be as lucky as I am.

Your loving wife

name

22. My dear husband,

You are the first thing I think of when I wake up.

Love of my life, you are the first thing I think of when I wake up. I want to spend the rest of my life with you beside me. You are the love of my life. You’re the person that can lift my spirits when I’m sad or brighten my day with a hug.
I think of you when I wake up, fall asleep, and every second in between. You are even in my dreams. You have made me the happiest woman alive because I am your wife. And I will always make you feel loved and appreciated.

23. My Dearling,

I want you to know how much I cherish you.

Honey, I want you to know how much I cherish you. I take a moment during work every day to feel gratitude for you and all you do for me. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with happiness at what we have together. You show so much love and care for me. Let me be there when you need me.

I want to support you through your day and restore you at night. Darling, wherever you are, near or far, you are in my heart. And may the kisses, laughter, and love we share last forever.

24. My Lovely Hubby

You fill my dreams with passion and serenity.

My love, you fill my dreams with passion and serenity. You’re a part of everything I do, and that will never change. Our days are hectic, and sometimes we don’t get the chance to talk like we used to. As you drift off to sleep, please know how much I appreciate you and all you do.

I am so lucky to be in love with this amazingly kind and confident man, my best friend. I believe in you and will always support your dreams. Let me help during the rough times and share the joy of your successes. And I know you will always stand by me. Together, we will always be a force, you and me.
I love you forever and always.

25. Dear Love

You are constantly on my mind.

My love, you are constantly on my mind. It is such a sweet torture remembering, with exquisite detail, our passionate kisses and moonlight walk on the beach before you left for your trip.

I still smile at your silly jokes. When I close my eyes, I replay our night of passion, and the thought leaves me breathless. And although we are apart, our hearts are always one. Hurry home, my love. I can’t wait to see you.

26. My Hero

The day I met you, I found out that dreams do come true.

My sunshine, the day I met you was the day I found out that dreams do come true. Every morning I wake up, see you next to me, and say a silent prayer of gratitude. We always say I love you, but they aren’t just words. I want you to know how much those words mean to me.

My love for you is steady and strong. Never have I felt as safe or content. You know my inner self and take time to listen, even when you are hurting. You share my pain and joy, and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone other than you. You are always with me.

27. Dear Father of my Kids

You are the reason for my happiness.

My darling husband, you are the reason for my happiness, and I cherish each new day with you. I look at this wonderful family and life we have created and give thanks.

Your kindness, compassion, and strength give me hope for our life together. Sweetheart, you are the love of my life, and I can not imagine my life’s journey with anyone but you.

28. Dear

I‘ll never forget the day we met.

Dearest love, I‘ll never forget the day we met. It was the day I started believing in all those silly things like fairy tales and love at first sight. I was completely and totally smitten. And now, as your wife, my love and admiration for you grow each day.
I cherish the little moments, especially during the middle of the night, as you sleep quietly beside me, and I can snuggle up close to you. Yes, it sounds cheesy, but I love you to the moon and back. You will always have my heart.

29. My World

You are my best friend and the most extraordinary person.

Babe, would it surprise you to know that you are my best friend and the most extraordinary person I have ever met? I‘m flooded with gratitude when I think about how lucky I am that we found each other.

You are perfect for me. Each day you surprise me more. Some days you are playful or thoughtful, while others, you are strong and supportive. But you are always loving, always compassionate. I’m so grateful we are together – you have my heart, always and forever.

30. My Lovely Husband,

You inspire me to live life to the fullest.

Hubby of mine, you inspire me to live life to the fullest. Your support and belief in me encouraged me to be bold and go after my dreams. But nothing I do would mean anything without you by my side.
Because of you, I am becoming a better person. And I look forward to a lifetime of adventure and love. I am so lucky to have you in my life.

31. Dear Babe,

I am head-over-heels in love and cannot imagine life without you.

Hey Babe, Can you believe it? I am head-over-heels in love and cannot imagine a life without you. I love you completely. I ache for your touch, and the sound of your sexy voice makes me shiver.
Your smile gives me confidence, and just seeing you (even in a picture) fuels my heart. You and I are a force to be reckoned with. Please never doubt that I love and cherish you. Even if we had several lifetimes together, my feelings for you would never change.

32. Dear Darling,

I still remember the first time I saw you.

My darling, do you know I still remember the first time I saw you? You had a lazy smile that made my heart melt. You were confident and stunning, and I was totally blown away.

But your natural charm put me at ease, and instantly, you stole my heart. I knew my life had changed forever. Thank you for being the most amazing man. And thank you for loving me. I am yours, always and forever.

33. My King,

We are perfectly matched, and you are stuck with me.
My darling, we are perfectly matched, and you are stuck with me. You are so precious to me that it’s hard to express. The words I love you are insufficient to capture what you mean to me.

When I met you, my life changed for the better. I know it sounds silly, but I finally came home when I met you. I trust and believe in you unconditionally. Regardless of the roads, we’ll travel, I know our life will be extraordinary because we’re together. I support your dreams as you support mine.

I am grateful each day that you love me. And, in case you forgot, I love you, I love you, I love you.

Oh, and by the way, I love you.

34. Dear Baby Boy

Remember our first date when we talked for hours?

Hey babe, remember our first date when we talked for hours? I made a wish that the day would never end. Guess what? I got my wish. Every day I am with you, I am only with you. I look at our joy-filled life together with such gratitude.
You are kind and strong and tender and compassionate. You are the most amazing man and father, and while you may not hear it often enough, you are appreciated and loved without question.

35. My Handsome Man,

Thank you for all you give to our family and me.

Hello, my love. I don’t know if I have said this enough but thank you. Thank you for all you give to our family and me. Thank you for your hard work and sacrifices.
Mostly, thank you for just being you! It may sound silly, but I love being around you because I love the person I am when I’m with you.

You love me for me, and that has made all the difference. Your strength and kindness give me the confidence to be a better person. I love you.

36. Dear My Bestfriend & Hero,

Did you know you are my best friend?

My dearest husband, did you know you are my best friend? What started as a serendipitous friendship has evolved into so much more for me. You are a protector, a fantastic provider, and a passionate lover. You make me laugh and make me cry (but with joy!).
You take the time to listen and allow me to see your softer side. You and I are perfect together – we balance each other in just the right way. I am grateful for you and can’t imagine life without you.

I loved you from the moment we met, and I will love you until my last breath.

37. Dear Sweetheart,

As Elle Woods said at the end of Legally Blonde, “We did it!” We made it. We’re here.

Although no one said that it would be easy, I don’t ever remember them telling us how hard it would be, either. And it’s been hard. We haven’t had the fairy tale romance I dreamt of as a kid, nor have we had the Hollywood love affair I fantasized about as an adolescent. But you know what? I’m grateful for that.

Your Soulmate

38. To My Incredible Husband,

You and I have had a real marriage. It hasn’t been perfect, it hasn’t been easy, and, honestly, it hasn’t always been pleasant. But, still, I’m grateful. Because life isn’t perfect, it isn’t easy, and it isn’t always pleasant. And you and I? We’ve built a life together.

Through mortgages, layoffs, births, vacations, deaths, retirement plans, health scares, and literally every other high and low (and up and down) that one can go through…you’ve been there with me. You’ve been my rock. You’ve been my anchor. You’ve been my person. Just as our vows said, you’ve been there for me in good times and in bad. In sickness and in health. You haven’t left my side. And I pray you never do.

Your Forever Love

39. My Husband,

Marriage is hard because life is hard, but that doesn’t make either any less beautiful. So here’s my pledge to you: I’m going to stop concentrating on the hard, and I’m going to start concentrating on the beautiful.

I’m not going to worry so much about the pile of bills on the counter, the washing machine that’s leaking, or even the kids’ college tuition that we should’ve started saving for years ago. (Like, before we had kids years ago.) And instead, I’m going to concentrate on the here and the now and the things we’ve accomplished. I’m going to concentrate on remembering to slow down and take time to quite literally smell the roses — preferably the same roses you planted in the garden when we were newlyweds. Instead, I’m going to remember that life is short and that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Chores can wait. Life won’t.

Your Dedicated Wife

40. To the One I Love,

No one said marriage would be easy. But I’m thankful that it’s been hard. I’m thankful because it means this is for real. That we’re for real. And that we’re going to make it through no matter what. And when you know that, you realize that everything else — the worries and the struggles and the bills — can take a backseat on this beautiful ride we’re on together, because it’s going to last for so many more years and there’s a sunset I plan on riding off into with you at the very end.

Your Loyal Wife

41. Dear Husband,

It’s been a crazy journey – sometimes I’d even call it a roller coaster ride. We’ve had beautiful times as well as challenging ones, but we’ve stood by one another through it all, and I’m grateful for that. You’ve encouraged me and inspired me, and it’s been a joy to be your partner.

Today, I just want to remind you of a few of the many things that I love about you and inspire you to continue being the incredible person that you are. I love your strength, your dedication, and your fierce loyalty. You never give up; even when you’re faced with difficulties you pull through. You’ve made me laugh even during stressful times and pulled me out of the darkness when I needed it most. You’ve been a friend and mentor, bringing solid advice and wisdom to those around you.

Neither one of us are stranger to making mistakes, but you’ve allowed it to help you grow and make you stronger, more compassionate, and a better person. You can speak your mind with confidence but show humility and gentleness whenever the situation calls for it. If I could turn back time, I would still choose you every time.

Your Biggest Fan

42. My Darling,

The list of things I love about you would take decades to write. From your amazing smile to your sweet and funny sense of humor, you never cease to make my heart pound. When I look across the room at you… I have to take a breath. My heart still skips a beat just like the moment I met you.

You may not realize how often I think about you, but you are constantly on my mind and in my heart, even when we’re apart or get busy with life. I can’t wait to feel your lips on mine and to feel your arms around me. Even though life isn’t always perfect, we belong together – and I’m as thankful to have you as my husband now as I was the day we were married.

The strength of our love brings tears of joy to my eyes; you show up time and time again to love me no matter what life throws at us. Your genuine nature and beautiful heart light up my life, and seeing the crinkle at the corner of your eyes when you smile and the grin on your handsome face still fills my heart with love and excitement. I just want to be with you. No matter what happens in this life, you are the one I belong to, that I would do anything for, and that I will always want.

With Love,

Your Wife

Content courtesy of Mom Junction , Live Blod and Bloom & NFH

Romantic Messages For Her To Fall In Love With You

Posted on June 20, 2023 by Sex Guru

You can send her romantic texts and lovely phrases via text to make her fall in love. To show your partner that she is loved and valued, you should make it a point to convey your sentiments. It is also an essential component of every successful partnership.
With the help of these adorable words, you may win her over and make her fall madly in love with you.
Love is very potent, and love letters for a girlfriend can help you express how you really feel while also melting her heart.
Cute things to say to your girlfriend will help you communicate your sentiments to your spouse and make her feel special when it’s difficult to do it verbally.

I love you to the moon and back.
I think of you daily.
I think of you and you alone.
With you by my side, I can only see bright things for the future.
You are my dream girl and treasure.
My day is beautiful because of you.
My love for you will burn with passion forevermore; it’ll never fade or lose its power.
The only thing I care for now is you.
I’m never lonely when you are around.
You’re a blessing in no disguise, my sweetheart.
When we first met, I genuinely remember my heart skipping a beat.
Honey, you are my inspiration; you make me whole and happy. I love you.
You are the missing piece in my heart and life. You are perfectly fit. I love you so much.
You bring me such joy.
I can’t wait to live life with you.
My favorite person on the globe is you.
You were the missing piece in my life’s puzzle.
I’m so glad that the universe brought us together.
I’m still wearing the smile you gave me.
I couldn’t take my eyes off of you from the very first day, and you’ve been on my mind every day since then.
The moment I say goodbye, I instantly miss you. I will never let you leave my sight. I love you.
My dear, I love you with all my breath. You are an amazing woman. I am happy to have you in my life.
To me, you are everything.
You brightened my dark days, and the happy ones now seem a little longer.
How are you able to look so stunning every day?
I’ll never be able to give you all that you deserve, but for the rest of my days, I’ll do my best to come close.
My heart, my love, and all that I am, I give to you.
The best thing that ever happened in my life was falling in love with you. You are my hope, joy, and happiness, and I love you so much.
With you beside me, my future is bright. Together, we will go places. I love you.
You are my greatest treasure and everything I value most in life.
When I’m with you, I feel like I’ve found what I was looking for.
When you smile, I feel like my life has a purpose.
Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
My heartbeats are dedicated to you, and my love knows no bounds.
Love is so sweet, but it also has its ups and downs. I am ready to face any challenge that comes my way for you.
Thank you for loving me the way I am, I will never let you down. You are my dream woman.
When you enter the room, your presence makes my soul sing.
My favorite part of every day is the time I get to spend with you.
Without you, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
I would rather be by your side than anywhere else in the world.
I will be here for you until the sun, moon, and stars are gone.
Looking into your eyes, I can see a whole new universe. You’re my soulmate, my best friend, and my home.
They say love has no boundaries; I am ready to cross over just to be with you forever. I love you.
My love for you will never end or fade. I will keep my trust in you and love you forever.
Without you, my life would be completely meaningless, like a broken pencil.
If you could see yourself through my eyes, you would know how beautiful you are.
I’ve spent my entire life hoping that someone like you existed.
Nothing makes me happier than knowing you’re happy.
I will prove to you my love for eternity.
When I look at you, I see joy, happiness, beauty, and a reflection of a better version of myself.
You are in my thoughts, and I thought you should know how beautiful you are.
I want to spend every moment of my life with you. You are my heart’s desire. I love you so much.
Our relationship is unbreakable.
If life had a pause button, I would pause every moment I spent with you.
You make me feel like I actually matter.
You are my definition of perfect.
You saved me from myself.
You hold the key to my heart.
I love everything about you: your mind, your sense of humor, your positivity, your outlook on life, your soul, your goals and desires, and, of course, your beauty.
You are the true love of my life, and I want to love you forever.
You will never leave my thoughts.
I think about you every day when I wake up. I love you more than I could ever really say.
Every second I spend apart from you is pure torture.
Thank you for never giving up on me.
I hope these words make you happy, “I love you.”
Every time I see you, every day, I fall in love with you more and more.
I never thought life would be this awesome with you around. You have made me want to be with you.
From the moment we met, my heart skipped a beat. I knew you were the one. I will always love you as long as I breathe.
You are very adorable and charming, and I adore you even more when I see a smile on your face.
I still cherish the last time we spent together and want to be with you forever.
I don’t know if I ever told you this, but your voice is my favorite sound.
I don’t say this enough, but I am so proud of you.
I want to spend forever with you.
When I’m with you, though, I can see only bright colors, feel unending joy, and be taken over by happiness.
The best thing that ever happened in my life is falling in love with you.
To the love of my life, I am glad to have you in my life. I will always cherish and love you.
I was about to say something, but after looking at you, I realized that I had forgotten.
Every time I look into your eyes, I become even more convinced that we belong together.
I want to spend the rest of my life making you proud.
You have filled the void in my heart.
It might sound silly to you, but I’m wholeheartedly grateful that we’re still friends too. I adore you as my lover, and I appreciate you even more for being someone that I can open my heart to.
The happiest place in this world is being with you. I want to be with you forever.
No one has ever come close to my heart, except you. My heart yearns for your love. I will always be there for you.
My life has never been this blessed, thanks to you. You are an angel sent. I love you, sweetheart.
If you had been holding my other hand, I could have ruled the globe with only one hand.
Darling, there is something I have not told you; those little minutes with you are so valuable to me.
You’re the reason why I believe in love.
I’m a much better person now that you’re in my life.
I am here to protect you.
You’re my daily ray of sunshine.
You are the most beautiful lady I have ever seen, you are an angel and I can’t stop admiring you.
The only place I want to be is next to you. You are my world and sunshine. I love you, beautiful.
You make my life colorful and complete. I love you dearly.
I admire everything about you, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.
As hard as I try, mere words aren’t enough to express how I feel about you.
I just wanted to remind you that I love you!
Even over text, you’re so charming.
My most treasured memories are those with you in them.
You make me smile more than I ever have before.
I know you will not believe this, I can clearly remember the day I met you, you still look stunning wonderful and so beautiful. I can’t get my eyes off you.
Last night you looked so stunning, I cannot stop thinking about you. I want us to build our future together.
When I am with you, I cannot help but look at you, and when I am not with you all I can do is think of you.
From the first time I set my eyes on you, I fell in love with you. You are my heart’s desire.
I start to really miss you because I want the rest of my life to start already when I realize that I want to spend it with you.
My morning wouldn’t be just right without telling you how much I love you. I hope your day brings you as much joy as you bring me.
You are beautiful from top to bottom.
There are no words to describe what you mean to me.
When I close my eyes, I imagine your beautiful smile. When I open them to see you, I can’t believe my eyes.
You make me feel like life is worth living.
When I close my eyes, I always your beautiful smile, when I open my eyes, I see a beautiful woman. The woman of my dreams, I love you.
I am lost in your beauty. Your smile, your body, and your eyes tell it all. I am in love with you.
I am glad to have fallen in love with you; I love you to the moon and back.
I cannot find the right words to describe my love for you. You are everything to me. I love you, honey.
I can’t wait to marry you someday.
You were on my mind today. I think about you all the time, and I worry for your security and well-being all the time. I hope all is well with you.
I could only have dreamed to have a woman as beautiful as you. Now that I have you, I will love and treasure you all the days of my life.
When I tell you I love you, I don’t say it out of habit. I say it to remind you that you’re the best thing that ever happened to me.
Every moment I see you, I feel like the first time we met, my love for you grows stronger. You are beautiful.
I never knew what real love felt like until I met you.
My love, I would walk a thousand miles just to see your beautiful face.
Your happiness and joy are my best priorities.
You are a testimony that dreams come true. I dreamed of you and I found you. I love you dearly.
When I’m with you, I feel closer to the essence of divinity. I love that I’m in love with you.
Words cannot express my love for you. You are the sunshine in my heart; you are the salt to my soul. I will love and cherish you all the days of my life. Thank you for being the love of my life.
When you are near me, you make my heart skip. I cannot resist you. I love you so much.
I can’t explain how much you mean to me. You are my world. I love you so much.
I am nothing without you in my life, you give me hope, and you give me a purpose to live. I love you.
You are the colored pencils in my coloring book.
Nothing makes me happier than seeing a smile on your face every day. You are my happiness
I cherish you and will keep loving you till the end of my life.
I asked God to give me the woman in my dreams, the moment I saw you. I knew you were the one. My dream came true
I can’t stop thinking about how beautiful you are.
You are the highlight of my everyday.
I will stop loving you the day the ocean turns into a desert.
Every step I take, I want to take it with you, every decision I make, I want to make it with you. I love you beyond the stars
I love you because you’re a wholesome person. You are kind-hearted, patient, and caring.
You are the one who has my heart. Wherever you go, I will go. I love you so much more than you can imagine.
When I see you, my heart melts away; your smile brings sweet memories, and I long to be with you.
Love is a risky affair, but it’s worth risking with you. I love you.
I would like to make you happy and put a smile on your face every day, as I love you so much.
I wish I could tell you how much I love you, but there are no words.
Every day, I fall in love with you over and over again. Since I met you, my love for you has grown stronger.
You are going to be such a great mother.
I am ready to fight for your love as it’s worth fighting for. I will always love you.
I don’t know what I did to deserve someone like you.
You are the only one I see in my dreams, in reality, you are the one I adore, cherish, and love.
You have the most beautiful eyes.
When I speak to you, you lift my spirits. I love you to the moon and back.
It took me a moment to like you and an eternity of loving.
I’m not very good with words, so here goes: I really love you, and that’ll never change. I hope you know that.
I can do anything for you, just to make you happy as you are the queen of my heart.
You honestly have no idea how adorable you are.
I have never met someone as caring and loving as you. You have given me new hope in life. I love you.
Time is meaningless unless it’s spent with you.
Finally, I found my dream girl; I will love and treasure you forever.
I have every reason to wake up every day because I have you in my life. I will always cherish you.
You are the reason my heart sings every morning; I adore you!
In your ups and downs, I will always be there by your side. I will always love and cherish you.
I’m serious when I say that you are the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I will try my best to keep your life happier; I will always be there for you. I love you dearly.
I wish you could see yourself the way that I see you.
You are the missing piece in my heart and life. You perfectly fit. I love you so much.
I am so in love with you.
You are the reason my heart sings every morning; I adore you!
My dear, I love you will all my breath. You are an amazing woman. I am happy to have you in my life.
I’m serious when I say that you are the best thing that has ever happened to me.
With you beside me, my future is bright. Together we will go places. I love you.
I wish you could see yourself the way that I see you.
I want to spend every moment of my life with you. You are my heart’s desire. I love you so much.
I am so in love with you.

Saying “I love you” in a letter to your girlfriend will let her sense your love and concern for her. Love is often difficult to describe or put into words.
It might be difficult to put emotions into words, but the greatest flirtatious good morning texts for her will help you convey to your partner just how much you value her.
Love is a powerful emotion that can be challenging to explain. Send her a nice good night message to show your love for her and watch her flush.

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How to Handle the Situation Where Your Partner Dislikes Your Best Friend

Posted on June 6, 2023May 3, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

You genuinely want to get along with a certain group of individuals in your life. There is another extremely significant relationship that is sometimes overlooked: your spouse and your best friend.
A very significant dynamic that is sometimes neglected is the relationship between your spouse and your best friend.
While there is a lot of attention on your partner getting along with your family and you getting along with your partner’s family, there is another dynamic that is equally as vital.
It’s only logical that you would want these two, who are frequently the most significant individuals in your life, to get along. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.
Finding a companion who gets along with your closest buddy might be really difficult.

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Even if you and your spouse are married or have children together, there’s a strong probability that your friend has been around far longer than your partner. This can occasionally lead to tension: Your partner can feel intimidated or just not like this person you’ve known for a very long time.
What should you do if your best friend’s partner doesn’t like you? Well, the key is to identify the root of the aversion. What you should know is as follows.

Check to Make Sure There Isn’t a Control Issue
The fact is that not everyone you love and cherish is going to feel the same way about them, and that’s alright.
You need them to be courteous and accepting, but you don’t necessarily need your partner and best friend to become close.
It may still work out just fine if they have only a passing interest in one another.
Pay attention to how your spouse reacts to your buddy and attempt to determine if it’s really simply that you don’t like them.

It’s possible that your spouse has deeper problems and is being too protective of you if they perceive your closest friend as a danger. If you have a feeling that this is the case, the relationship may have deeper, more fundamental issues.

What signs can you look for to confirm this?
If your spouse isn’t crazy about your closest friend, they’ll probably come off as uninterested or, at worst, mildly irritated or upset.
It’s particularly telling if they have a bigger reaction, such as being upset with you for spending time with them or acting intentionally rudely. If so, it reveals a lot about your spouse, and you may need to have a more in-depth discussion about your partnership, independence, and respect.

Try to see things from their perspective.
Even the best friendships are difficult. You may adore each other one minute, irritate each other the next, and then reconcile without batting an eye. Perhaps you’ve been at odds for weeks, or perhaps they’ve severely disappointed you.
When you’re attempting to comprehend your partner’s viewpoint, try to keep in mind all of these subtleties and complexities. Although you might not harbor resentment, your spouse has definitely heard you occasionally vent and express your anger or grief at your closest friend. It’s really difficult to witness someone treating the person you love badly.

It seems reasonable that they could be a little irritated or bristly with this individual because they frequently hear more of the difficult portions than the nice ones.
In light of this, even if you don’t believe your closest friend has acted improperly, it may occasionally be worthwhile to discuss the situation with them. I’ve definitely played the aloof best friend, but as my buddy said that their spouse is a little nervous or timid, I snapped out of it. Talking to your closest friend and urging them to go above and above might help if your spouse finds it tough to open up to people in general.

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Set Some Boundaries for Spending Time Together
Even if your spouse doesn’t like your closest buddy, their top goal should be to treat you well, which includes making time for your pal when it makes sense to do so.
That doesn’t mean you should want them to hang together all the time and start inviting your partners to girls’ evenings (that would be odd anyhow), but you should be able to explain to your spouse why it’s essential to you that they attempt to get along.
Actually, your spouse needs to be considerate of it.

Maybe all of your couple friends meet up once a month, maybe you want them to go on a trip with your pals, or maybe it’s simply a matter of being nice and introducing yourself when they run into one other at a party.
Find out how your partner can simplify your life without making them feel uncomfortable by talking to them about it. You ought to be able to compromise in some way.
In a perfect world, you and your best buddy would connect immediately, and you could all run off into the sunset.
Unfortunately, this is very seldom the case.

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Try to determine the root of the problem, such as if your spouse is simply being reserved or isn’t truly supportive of your relationship with your best friend, or whether they are feeling threatened by your intimacy with your best friend and there are some control problems at work.
You should be able to communicate with your spouse and find common ground as long as it’s just a simple case of not getting along.
They don’t have to be your best friend’s best friend, but they do have to treat you well, which includes being kind and hospitable when you need it.

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Romantic Messages: Love Messages That Will Definitely Touch Her Heart and Drive Her Crazy In Love with You Immediately

Posted on October 27, 2022May 3, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

Messages, whether transmitted verbally or through text, are one of the most basic and efficient forms of communication: This is an undeniable fact. Not only that, though.
A lover’s sweet words are divine and reviving to the receiver, like a cold stream in a dry desert.
Love is a power that exists everywhere; it is a circular process that involves both intention and action. If you must love, then you must stretch yourself to meet the needs of your beloved by adapting your communication.
She can start her day off right and know you’re thinking of her with a simple “good morning” text, for instance.

What gift can I give to the girl who made me so happy and made my life worth living? I can only repay her by being her prince charming. I am the luckiest man in this game of love.
I thought sunrises and sunsets were beautiful. But ever since I met you, I have rediscovered the meaning of breathtaking. A beauty so rare and so divine, you can never comprehend it.
I don’t want to think about how life would be without you. What I know for sure is that I can’t go on without you. If you ever decide to leave, please know I am coming with you. We have each other for life.
Like a fish cannot live without water, I can’t live without you. You are the air I breathe. You are the reason for my existence. I will cherish every second I have with you.
My life was meaningless without you, but you have given me another lease on life. Now, even sitting with you in silence, my heart is at rest. Being with you is enough for me.
You have stolen my heart and made it your own, and I have become a sucker for your love. For all this, my dear, all I can say is thank you, for I can never repay you.
You are the love of my life. You swept me off my feet and gave my life new meaning. Everything that is mine is now yours. You have all of me, and I need all of you.
There is nothing that could put into perspective what I feel for you. You put inside me; a spring of life that is ever-flowing. You and I will last till the end of time. Life knew you were the best gift for me, and there is nothing more I could ask of you.
Lady luck smiled at me, and I cannot trade what you make me feel for anything in the world. I have no use for gold and silver, as long as I have you, baby. You are more than enough for me.
I loved others before I met you, and I always thought it was true love. But thanks to you, I know the taste of true love. You are my soulmate.
My love, no one lights me up or gets me high on life as you do. Thank you for being so gentle, caring, and kind. What would I do without you?
Never in my wildest dream did I ever see myself falling for someone so deep. Over the years, you have become an integral part of our family. To me, you are a gift that comes once in a lifetime.
I hope you remember every day that you matter and that you can achieve all you set your mind to do. I say this in complete confidence because I have seen you transform my life. I love you so much.
Roses are red, violets are blue, and my love for you is firm like glue. Looking back, I can only be immensely grateful for standing by my side and being the support system I never had when growing up.
When I think about you, my mind is overwhelmed with happy thoughts about our future family. Our kids will have the best mom in the world, and for that, I envy you.
All I will ever need is you. Just to have you by my side whether, in the scorching sun or winter, I can weather anything with you next to me.
Even at 50, we will still be young and energetic at heart. I lost count of the kisses, hugs, and good times we’ve had, and all I can do is hope we make new and better memories. Thank you, love.
Like the ocean ravages the shores with its waves, your love has destroyed the walls around my heart. I was walking and living in the darkness until you came around like a bright light and opened my eyes. I am proud to be called yours.
I want to remind you that you are the most affectionate person I know, and you should never change for anything or anyone. I believe in you, and I hope all your dreams come to pass.
You are like a song on the radio that plays on repeat and gets me smiling every time. If you were an animal, you’d be a unicorn because creatures like you don’t come by easily. Keep glowing, my love.
What did I ever do to deserve someone so passionate about life, loving, and hardworking? You challenge and motivate me to become a better person, and I would like to spend the rest of my life with you. I love you so much.
The first time I set my eyes on you was the beginning of a magical journey. You are the best decision I ever made, and I pray that God gives us the grace to live and abound in this love.
Oh, what a wonder! To have someone bring so much joy to your life. I think about you all the time, not because you make the best pancakes, but because there is no one else for me but you. I love and cherish you.
If too much love could kill. I would have been dead by now. My whole being beams with love for you. A love that I know from deep down will never die.
I wish you could peep inside my heart to discover the overflow of my love for you. I would gladly confess my love to everyone. You have become all I need, all I will ever need.
My sunshine, I pray that you will always shine my way. You are such an angel, a beauty to behold. I can’t believe my lucky star, and I keep pinching myself to be sure I am not dreaming. I am so glad I found you.
Every time you are away from me, I can’t wait to see you again. A few minutes apart feels like forever. I want you with me always because I can never get enough of you.
Where did you touch me? What spell did you cast on me? I pray that the feelings you brought last forever. I would beg you not to change anything. I want to be in love with you forever.
I want to lie beside you, go for endless walks, stare into your starry eyes, snuggle next to you, and kiss you every hour of the day. I can’t wait to hear you say that you will be mine.
I can’t wait to make you a part of me forever so that when I fall asleep, you are the last person I see and the first person I kiss when I wake up. I want to behold your beauty and drink from your cup of love.
I never knew a love so deep existed: A love that can move mountains: A love that sees no barriers but only bliss and excitement. Please stay and make me feel this way forever.
I can’t sleep, and just a few bites of my favorite meal now satiate me. Thinking of you gets me satisfied in ways I never imagined. I indescribably love you.
You have made me blind, and no one compares or comes near to your beauty, my love. No matter how hard they try, this love is reserved for you only. Thank you.
As I lay down on my bed, gazing at the roof, I think of you from miles away, and I can’t wait for the days you will sleep by my side forever. I want to make you mine so badly.
I wish to open my heart for you to see the depth and breadth of my love for you. A love that keeps on growing so much that I fear for my sanity. But I would choose to go mad than not have you.
As you sit across me, knowing we are about to part ways, I already miss what we shared over the years. It gets deeper every second because you are the best thing that happened to me. Being away from you will be torturous, but I hope we will reunite soon.
If skipping a beat would kill someone, I would have died a long time ago. Every time I see you, every time I hear your voice, my heart splutters with joy.
If too much love could kill. I would have been dead by now. Each time I think of you, my heart beams with love for you. A love that I know will never die. I love you, my queen.
When I wake up in the morning, and before I fall asleep at night, all I think about is you. But even during the time in between, you are still on my mind.
Have I told you yet? I would do anything for you, my baby. I delight in seeing you happy and peaceful, and I would go to great extremes to make that happen. You are the best thing that ever happened to me.
I would go to the ends of the world for you to prove my love for you. I promise to love you with everything I have. And even when our time comes, we will rest together eternally.
I assumed I could only find true love in a perfect woman. Then I met you and realized I was wrong. I love you with all your imperfections, yet you are still perfect for me.
I love you more each day. My heart grows fonder every minute. I am so glad to have you. Thank you for making life bearable and worth living.
Nothing could ever separate me from you, regardless of what anyone says about you. Nothing, including old age, will ever come between us. Only death will separate us, and even then, we have the hope to see each other in the eternal realm.
All my life, I never believed in love at first sight, but you made it a reality for me. The first time I set my eyes on you, I knew my life would change for good. Because of you, I am living in the magic called love.
They say time heals, but it didn’t heal my wounds. You are the one who made me whole again, and I will forever be indebted to you, my love. Thank you.
What more could I ask but to gaze into your beautiful eyes forever? Your contagious smile melts my heart and my hands to embrace you forever.
No matter what is happening in life, thinking about you gets me at ease. The fact that you love me despite all my shortcomings is divine. Just thinking of you dissipates all my worries. I love you.
All I could ever need is in you. I want to have you by my side till the end of time. Thank you for the good times, and stay hopeful for the bright future ahead.
I have become a fool for you. I say your name everywhere I go. People are getting tired of me talking about you all the time, but I don’t care one bit. It doesn’t matter if they all leave, as long as I have you for life.
If you ask me when I want to be with you, my answer will be – now and forever.
No matter what has happened. No matter what you’ve done. No matter what you will do. I will always love you.
My love for you is undoubtedly the only thing that will never end. You make me feel the best I’ve ever felt, and I’ll forever treasure it.
You make my dreams come true and are the best thing God has ever given me. I will always love you.
I want you in my life today, tomorrow, and forever.
Your love is a drug, and I never want to recover from it.
I love you- this is the least I can say. I wish I could do more to show what I really feel for you.
If you ask me to make a last wish, it would be to go on like this, holding your hands in mine, till my last breath.
Nothing can explain fully how fortunate I am to have you in my life. I am forever grateful to God for blessing me with an angel like you! Love you sincerely.
The world is on one side, and you, my love, are on the other side. I will choose you no matter what.
I want to be with you always and forever. Nothing in this world can replace you in my heart.
Loving you is the only thing that makes my life worth living. The world might call me crazy, but I’m glad to be crazy about you! My sweetheart, I love you!
Saying it a thousand times won’t be enough to express my feelings toward you, but I’m going to keep saying it nevertheless- I love you! I will keep loving you till the end of my days, no matter what lies ahead of us.
I now understand what happiness feels like. It’s you and everything about you; your goddess face, mellow voice, kind heart, and gentle, warm hands. Honey, I really do mean it. You make me happy.
You are the happiness in my sorrowful life. You are the reason I can smile. You are the most precious person in my life now and forever.
I have fallen in love many times. But every time, it was with you!
Everything feels empty when you are not around, but our love is what keeps me going. Miss you, babe.
We might be miles apart, but our souls are right next to each other- that’s how strong our love is, darling.
I never knew what real love would be like until I met you. You taught me how to love, how to show how I feel, how to care, and how to be responsible. Now I feel like I have everything I need in life. I love you, and words won’t ever be enough to thank you for all you have done for me. May this go on forever.
Falling in love with you was the happiest incident of my life. You loved me, stood by my side, and turned me into the person I am today. I am just so lucky to have you, darling, and I am never letting you go.
I am lucky enough to get a person like you in my life who gives me a thousand reasons to smile every day. You are so precious, my handsome.
If there’s one thing in this world I’m afraid to lose, it’s you. I am so in love with you that I can’t afford to lose you!
You don’t know how blessed I am to have you in my life. You have given a new meaning in my life. You are the reason for my smile and my happiness. I love you endlessly!
I wrote your name in the sky, but the wind blew it away. I wrote your name in the sand, but the waves washed it away. I wrote your name in my heart, and forever it will stay.
I am so lost in loving you that I don’t know the right words to express what I feel for you. No words can describe my love for you! No language can express how much I love you.
Your love is everything that keeps me alive and makes me feel complete. I love you!
Words are not enough to say thanks to you for being with me. You are the kindest soul who makes my life beautiful and loved.
My greatest fantasies are the ones that start with you and end with you. I love you truly madly and deeply!
Thank you for being my wife; thanks for giving me many reasons to live my life to the fullest. You are my perfect one.
Waking up next to you every day is nothing but a pure blessing. Thank you for being my husband.
If I get paid for loving you, I would be a millionaire by now!
You are the only reason why I survive; I love you so so much honey!
Sweetheart, I wish I could make you as happy as you make me. Love you.
When someone asks me if I have something in my life worth fighting for, I think of your face right away. I would fight alone and win a war just for you. You make me want to live. I love you so much!
Life without you is impossible. Life after you is unimaginable. Even after death, I want our souls to be reunited!
My love for you is deeper than the ocean and wider than the sky. Nobody can measure it, but you know how much I love you.
You are just so beautiful, both inside and outside. I must be so lucky that I could find you in this big world and make you mine.
An hour would feel like a minute when we’re together. But when we are apart, a minute will feel like an hour!
Your heart is so full of love, and I’m lucky enough to find a place there. Love you, honey.
If you were a book, I would read you over and over again. That is how much I love you my prettiness.
It takes great luck to have someone like you as a girlfriend. I feel blessed every day and every moment for this gift.
I will love you till my last breath, no matter what life brings before us!
My love for you is always growing stronger, and I’m slowly losing myself deeper into it.
Your love is the source of my happiness. Please never leave me alone. I cannot imagine a single day without you.
I could use a thousand words to express my love for you and how beautiful you are, but that still wouldn’t be enough. Each day, I love you more.
The more I love you, the more I think it’s less. You always deserve all the love in this world.
I don’t know what you have that always draws me to you. I love you so much. I can’t live a minute without you.
I am really blessed to have you in my life. I love you so much, sweetheart!
The most beautiful thing that ever happened to me is YOU. I love you so much, babe!
You make me feel alive every moment. You are the reason behind every joy and every smile of my life. You’re the most amazing girl that I can spend the rest of my life with. Thanks for being mine. I love you so deeply!
No matter how busy I am, my heart never forgets to remind me of you. I love you, baby.
The more days go by, the more I fall in love with you. You are the Queen of my heart.
I never thought I’d run into someone like you. I never thought that a woman is as wonderful as you would like someone like me. But it all makes me realize that real love does exist and that I am lucky to have it.
You gave me a reason to live, dream, and fight. You make my days worth living. Thank you for being the only person who understands me!
I don’t want the world, I don’t want the skies, I don’t want the moon, I just want you in my share. Love you a lot, my love!
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Sometimes it feels like I’m having a dream, but then I realize it’s all real and I’m one lucky fellow in this beautiful world. Thank you for being mine!
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Your smile is the reward I want to get every day. It is the only thing that keeps me breathing beautifully.
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No matter how my day has been, all my anger and sadness seem to disappear as soon as I see you. I’m both glad and thankful to have you in my life.
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By holding your hands tightly, I get the strength of conquering all my life problems. Stay with me always.
You have everything in you to be loved, to be adored, and to be pampered. I’ll always give my best to make you feel special. I love you!
Wish I could show you how much you mean to me. You’re the one with whom I can fall in love over and over again.
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I heard from somewhere that the best way to figure out how important someone is to you is to try to picture your life without them. Well, you seem to be the most important person to me because I can’t imagine my life without you at all.
As the flower needs the sunshine, I need you in my life. You make me bloom. You are the person I want to spend my life with.
I know our lives have pain and trouble. But when I am with you, I forget all the bad experiences. I want to walk with you on the shore holding your hand. I want to live a fairytale life with you. I want you by my side always.

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Why Do Men Cheat?

Posted on January 22, 2021May 6, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

Cheating can be extremely detrimental and damaging to a relationship, as it can break down the trust, honesty, and respect that are at the core of any successful and long-term relationship. And while it’s important to recognize the warning signs that your man may be cheating on you, such as he acts out of character, he desperately wants his privacy, and he suddenly cares more about his looks, it’s equally important to understand the underlying reasons why men are unfaithful in the first place.

It’s no secret that men are far more likely to cheat on their partners than women are. If you need any proof of this and you probably don’t consider that the vast majority of Ashley Madison’s 37 million “active” users were overwhelmingly male. (Like, 99.99999 percent male.) And, more recently, a 2015 YouGov poll found that 21 percent of men (compared to 19 percent of women) had actually admitted to cheating in the past. But the question remains: why do men cheat?

Here are 15 reasons that may lead a man to cheat:

1. An ex walked back into the picture.

It’s the tale as old as time: the one that got away. “A lot of times when we’re in a rough spot in our current relationship,” says Shirey, “we tend to disqualify the good.”

And when an ex shows up, “we remember that spark.” So you’ve got a situation where he’s ignoring the good parts about his current relationship and ignoring the bad parts the parts that likely led to the breakup in the first place of his old relationship. That’s a recipe for disaster.

2. He’s immature

One of the main reasons why men cheat is simply a matter of immaturity. When a man is immature, this unappealing attribute can impact a relationship in many different ways. For example, men who are immature often put themselves first in most situations, don’t take into consideration their partner’s feelings, insist on being right even when they’re wrong, and are characteristically unreliable and irresponsible. To that end, being immature is also heavily related to acting impulsively, as most men who are immature tend to give in to their basic temptations and desires without a care or concern for the repercussions of their actions and the possible negative effects that their behavior can have on others.

3. His emotional needs aren’t being met

Another primary reason why men cheat pertains to their emotional needs and desires. In fact, it’s been shown that nearly 50 percent of men who cheat do so because they feel emotionally unfulfilled, unhappy, and unsatisfied in their relationship. In other words, men cheat in order to feel valued and emotionally supported, both of which they may not sense they receive from their partner.

And rather than finding ways to have their emotional needs met in their current relationship, such as by frequently communicating with their partner, openly discussing their feelings and concerns, as well as having realistic and sensible expectations of their significant other, these men often seek out another person (or people) who can provide them with the emotional satisfaction, support, and empathy that they believe they’re lacking.

Whether men are looking to feel appreciated and desired or are simply searching for a shoulder to cry on, a lack of emotional fulfillment is powerful enough to drive men to cheat. It should be noted that less than 15 percent of men rated the women they were cheating with as more beautiful and physically appealing than their current partner, which again underscores that men cheat in large part due to a strong emotional connection with someone else.

4. His physical needs aren’t being met

When looking more closely at the real reasons why men cheat, a lack of sexual fulfillment in his current relationship is also a key underlying factor behind a man’s infidelity. Specifically, a study in the International Journal of Sexual Health revealed that one of the major motivators in a man’s decision to start an affair was his desire for sexual satisfaction that was lacking or completely absent from his present relationship. With this in mind, it’s not too surprising that an additional sign that a man may be cheating is that he stops being physically intimate with his partner since his sexual needs are being met by someone new.

Along these lines, men reported that sexual curiosity was a major incentive to cheat, as it’s not only a search for physical gratification that impelled them to be unfaithful but also a strong desire for new sexual experiences that are more alluring and appealing. It’s also interesting to note that men are more likely to cheat because of unmet sexual needs than women.

5. He’s insecure

When a man is insecure, he may feel unworthy of being with his partner, he may constantly worry about his partner’s continued interest level, and he may continually need reassurance, support, and approval from his partner in a wide range of circumstances. Typically, insecure men are typically very needy, and they incessantly seek out validation in order to prove to their partners, and more importantly themselves, that they’re good enough. With this in mind, research has found that men who are insecure in their relationships are more likely to cheat, as noted in a study in the Journal of Family Psychology.

In other words, because of a man’s insecurities, lack of confidence, and underlying fears that he’s not good enough, he ends up looking for reassurance and affirmations of self-worth from others, both in and out of his relationship. In fact, an insecure man may be so worried about the state of his relationship that his fear of losing his partner can actually induce him to cheat, which in essence becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a word, his lack of confidence ends up destroying the very foundation of the relationship he’s worried about losing.

6. He’s an egomaniac

On the flip side, while insecure men are likely to cheat, so too are men with an overblown sense of importance and self-worth. Specifically, egomaniacs believe that the entire world revolves around them, and not only do they think that they’re incredibly attractive, smart, successful, and talented, but they’ll be the first ones to tell you that. And when looking at egomaniacs in terms of infidelity, it’s interesting to note that their inordinately inflated sense of self in conjunction with their desire to be the focus of attention makes them likely candidates to cheat on their partner.

In one study, research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that married men who are sexual narcissists, meaning that they only care about their own physical needs and lack any real concern or interest in their partner’s wants and desires, are more likely to have affairs. In other words, narcissistic and self-aggrandizing men who believe their needs should always take precedence over the needs of others are more likely to seek satisfaction, praise, and attention outside of their relationship.

7. His father was a cheater

When looking at the real reasons why men cheat, there’s also evidence that cheating can run in the family. Specifically, cheating can actually be a learned behavior that boys pick up during childhood. In fact, it’s been shown that men are more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, as noted in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. This is due to the fact that during childhood, men look to their fathers as examples and role models of what behaviors are acceptable and what behaviors aren’t. And when they see their father cheat, this type of behavior is ingrained into their own minds and becomes normalized as a way to deal with certain circumstances and relationship issues.

To that end, the example set by their fathers is how young boys learn to deal with many different situations, and they’ll likely mimic their father’s behavior in the future because it’s all they know. It’s also interesting to note that women in this study were not more likely to cheat if their fathers were cheaters, which highlights just how important a father’s role is in terms of shaping the future actions of his son.

8. His friends are cheaters

But the powerful role that friendship can play regarding a man’s propensity to cheat doesn’t stop there, as his friends can also highly influence his future behavior and rational decision-making. Along these lines, a study in the Journal of Consumer Research revealed a person’s friends can heavily impact his or her decision to give in to temptation, as friends are more likely to band together when they decide to act impulsively and irrationally. In other words, there’s power in numbers, and if your man surrounds himself with friends who make poor decisions, such as being unfaithful, he’s more likely to make similarly poor decisions due to their influence.

9. He’s being cheated on

An additional reason why men cheat is simply due to the fact that their partner is cheating on them. And under this kind of distressing circumstance, many men look outside of their relationship as a way to seek revenge and get back at their partner for committing this offense against them. In addition, these men also start affairs in order to regain a sense of power and control after being the victim of infidelity. It’s also been shown that men who are being cheated on engaging in their own indiscretions as a way to distract themselves from the pain, betrayal, shame, and/or anger that they may feel because of their cheating partner. And starting an affair can help them refocus their energy and divert their attention away from their partner’s hurtful actions.

However, for many men, this approach is typically not the best course of action when dealing with a cheating partner because it can actually make them feel worse about themselves and the situation in general. After all, men who start an affair in reaction to their partner’s affair often end up undercutting their self-esteem even more by engaging in behaviors that go against their personal values, ethics, and morals.

10. He’s worried about his sexual performance

While it may seem counter-intuitive, men who have anxiety about their sexual abilities are actually more likely to cheat on their partner. In fact, researchers from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction, as well as the University of Guelph in Ontario found that men who had sexual performance issues had a greater likelihood of being unfaithful.

One explanation for this seemingly conflicting result is that men are less inhibited when they’re with someone who isn’t their partner, and they tend to feel less nervous, worried, and concerned about their performance with this new person. Along these lines, another explanation is that cheating provides men with the opportunity to be with someone who isn’t aware of their past sexual performance issues, and being with this new person can actually help to lower the pressure to perform and please this new person. It’s also thought that men with sexual performance problems cheat in order to help themselves overcome these sexual issues in an environment that’s free of the judgment, ridicule, and/or embarrassment they may feel when they’re with their partner.

11. He’s feeling depressed or anxious.

Everyone experiences depressed feelings and anxiety to a certain degree. The issue is whether or not those thoughts come from the relationship. “If he’s feeling lonely within his relationship, emasculated in some way, or angry with his partner,” says Laurel Steinberg, PhD, a New York-based relationship therapist and professor of psychology at Columbia University, it could certainly lead a man to cheat. However, “it’s important to note that cheating [tends to] exacerbate existing anxiety and depression.” Thus, the circle remains unbroken.

12. Evolution is to blame.

There’s that old adage, where every man wants to sleep with as many women as possible “spread his seed,” so to speak and every woman wants to find one mate “lock him down.” We’re writers, not evolutionary psychologists, and cannot possibly hope to speak about the truth of that thinking, so we’ll let Shirey take it away: “There are some theories out of evolutionary psychology.

The theory is that, because women only have a chance of reproduction once a month, they tend to be much more discriminating in choosing a partner. Whereas men can basically have a chance of reproduction every time they ejaculate.”

13. He has potential psychopathic tendencies.

As Shirey mentioned, most people don’t wake up with the malicious intent to betray or hurt their partner. Well, most. “Maybe it’s a personality disorder, or are deeply anti-social, or have narcissistic tendencies,” says Shirey. Whatever the reason, “they need to address it themselves.” Until that happens, this man will hurt any- and everyone romantically involved with him. Run.

14. He’s addicted to sex.

“In very few instances, there are people who have a legitimate sex addiction,” says Shirey. Sex triggers dopamine receptors the pleasure center of the brain. And like anything else that triggers dopamine see: cocaine, heroin it can be addictive. For some people, dopamine activates more from sex than from other things. “A lot of people try to use it as a cop-out, though,” says Shirey. Fellas, don’t do that. Remember: “very few instances.”

15. Poor judgment and willpower are at fault.

“You’re more likely to put yourself in a situation where infidelity could occur if you’re not happy in your relationship,” says Mark. Whether you’re agreeing to tequila shots at a club with your buddies or, even more dangerous, agreeing to one-on-one happy hour with that cute new associate in accounting people who are committed to and satisfied with their relationship will avoid those scenarios. ‘

If he actively and repeatedly decides to engage in risky situations, something’s up. “People know the consequences of infidelity,” says Mark. “It’s not a secret. It does tear couples apart.”

Where Do We Go from Here?

Interestingly, after working with hundreds of couples attempting to process and overcome a male (or female) partner’s cheating, it is clear to me that it’s not any specific sexual act that does the most damage to a committed relationship. It’s the ongoing pattern of secrets and lies that surrounds the cheating that causes a loving partner the most pain. The profound and repeated betrayal of relationship trust causes the most pain. And most cheated-on partners will agree that their feelings of being betrayed are just as profound when a loved one is giving himself away online as when there is alive, in-vivo affair.

Sadly, most men (and women) who choose to break a vow of monogamy to an intimate partner don’t realize the profound effects their behavior can have on that loved one. One important recent study found that the wives of men who’ve discovered a pattern of infidelity in their partners often experience acute stress symptoms similar to those found in post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Unsurprisingly, the emotional damage caused by infidelity can be difficult to overcome, even with the help of an experienced marriage or couples counselor. That said if both partners are committed to behavior change and healing, most relationships can be saved, even strengthened, after and despite an affair. For some wives and spouses, however, the repeated violation of trust is too much; they are unable to experience the necessary emotional safety required to rebuild a relationship and move on. In such cases, solid, neutral relationship therapy can help to help negotiate a break-up, offering direction for both individuals to move on with their lives.

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Why Do Women Cheat?

Posted on January 22, 2021May 2, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

In the past, there have been more significant differences in the reasons why men cheat and why women cheat, with men cheating more for sexual variety and women cheating more because of relationship dissatisfaction. But nowadays, that gender gap in infidelity is closing: Men and women cheat for many of the same reasons and at similar rates.

Take, for instance, a research study out of The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, which surveyed 918 men and women with an average age of 31 and found that “there were no significant gender differences in the report of infidelity (23% of men vs. 19% of women).” Then there’s the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey (GSS), which found that women between the ages of 18 and 29 were more likely to cheat than men of the same age group (11% vs. 10%). Further data out of the GSS showed that the percentage of women who cheat rose nearly 40% from 1990 to 2010, while men’s adultery rate held steady at 21%.

The reason for the uptick in women who cheat? Some attribute it to the increased responsibilities (and therefore increased needs and wants) of the modern woman, as they shoulder the traditionally female duties of housekeeping and child-rearing along with the added demands of a career.

Empowered by feminist viewpoints and financial freedom, modern women are less likely to compromise and better positioned to seek out the emotional and sexual gratification that’s missing in their relationship. “Women want what they were supposed to get from marriage in the 1950s house, kids, stability, security,” says Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW. “They also want to be loved, respected, and desired, and for their partners to be interested in and to care about their thoughts, feelings, and ideas.”

The question still remains: Why do women cheat? Read on for 10 common reasons why women cheat, plus expert insight that may help explain the motivation behind their behavior. Of course, every situation is unique, but these explanations may help you better understand the mindset of women who cheat.

Here are 15 reasons that may lead a woman to cheat:

1. Dealing With Low Self-Esteem

When a woman is struggling with low self-worth, it may spur them to look to external sources for the attention and validation that they and their partner are unable to create and sustain. A woman who cheats may rely on affairs to provide them with proof of their value or desirability, or to give their life meaning. When one fling ends, it may cause them to feel neglected or worthless, so they pursue a new romantic interest and the cycle continues.

2. Feel Emotionally Starved

While studies suggest that men who cheat are primarily motivated by sex, women who cheat tend to do so to fill an emotional need. And in the case of an emotional affair, sex isn’t part of the equation at all. Whether the affair is physical or emotional in nature, a woman may cheat because they crave conversation, empathy, respect, devotion, adoration, support, or some other connection that’s lacking in their current relationship.

3. Expressing Anger and Retribution

Some women enter into a relationship with an idealized image of how their spouse should behave as a parent, a partner, a professional, or some other role. When the partner falls short of expectations, it can create a divide in the relationship that provides the impetus to stray.

“Some women expect their partner to meet their every need and desire (even when they don’t bother to share what those needs and desires are),” says Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW. “When their partner inevitably fails them, these women will sometimes turn to someone else.” Some women may resent their partner for another reason, such as a partner’s past affair, and use their own infidelity as retaliation.

4. Craving Excitement

You’ve likely heard of the term serial cheaters people who cheat for the thrill of it. Women can be thrill-seekers, too. They may love their S.O. but yearn for those endorphin-fueled interactions that make a new relationship so exciting.

In fact, in a study helmed by Eric Anderson, the chief science officer at the affair dating website AshleyMadison.com, it was found that 67% of heterosexual, married women who cheat sought out “romantic passion,” yet 100% of the women denied any intention of leaving their husbands; some even “stated their overt love for their husbands, painting them in a positive light.”

5. Feel Sexually Deprived

Try as we might to keep the spark alive, the excitement that accompanies a new relationship only lasts so long. “The most predictable thing about a relationship is that, the longer it progresses, the quality and the frequency of sex between the couple will fade,” continues Anderson. “This is because we get used to and bored of the same body.”

It’s not surprising, then, that some women who cheat are missing those thrilling hallmarks of a relationship’s beginning stages when passion and intrigue have yet to give way to routine and familiarity.

6. Lonely

A woman who cheats may have a partner who works long hours, leaving them home with the kids all day. Perhaps they’ve found themselves in a stage in life when it’s harder to make friends, or maybe their S.O. is contending with a chronic illness.

Whatever the reason, loneliness can cause us to “distort our perceptions such that we view ourselves, our lives, and our relationships more negatively which in turn, influences our behavior in damaging ways,” notes Guy Winch Ph.D. This can lead a woman to cheat, as these feelings of isolation and disengagement cause them to look for companionship outside of their primary relationship.

7. Lack a Secure Attachment Style

Attachment theory suggests that early childhood relationships influence how we perceive and behave in our intimate relationships as adults. Depending on the care and nurturing (or lack thereof) that one receives as a child, they’ll fall into one of three attachment styles as adults: secure (having well-adjusted expectations and approaches to relationships), anxious (exhibiting fear of abandonment), or avoidant (preferring to retain their independence from others).

Women who identify with the latter two “insecure” attachment styles are more likely to display characteristics think clinginess and dismissiveness that interfere with a healthy romantic relationship. Moreover, they’re more likely to cheat, as they seek out reassurance from a third-party partner or attempt to avoid the intimacy of the primary relationship.

8. Going Through a Mid-Life Crisis

While mid-life crises generally affect people between the ages of 35 and 60, the event, which often presents as a period of existential self-evaluation, has less to do with age than extenuating circumstances. Major life events, such as the death of a parent or a milestone birthday, may trigger a mid-life crisis in a woman, causing them to wrestle with the burden of greatness; that is, the socio-cultural expectation that women can and should “have it all” a successful career, a loving partner, adoring children, and so on.

“Events that make you change your viewpoint about yourself or life, that exhilarate and expand you or throw you a little off-balance, can lead to seizing a new love or trying another man on for size,” notes Carol Botwin her book Tempted Women: The Passions, Perils, and Agonies of Female Infidelity. A woman may act out of character as they attempt to realize their potential and make up for a lost time. These actions can include infidelity, as a woman who cheats goes outside their primary relationship in search of happiness and personal fulfillment.

9. Contending With an Underlying Condition

According to Joel Block, PhD, assistant clinical professor of psychology at Hofstra Northwell School of Medicine, depression, and infidelity go hand in hand. “An affair is exciting, so much so that the brain can begin to pump out dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin neurotransmitters we produce when we’re attracted to someone, but which, not so coincidentally, are the same chemicals produced when we take antidepressants,” he says.

In other words, a woman who cheats is self-medicating through their infidelity, even if they don’t realize the true reason behind their pleasure.

10. Opportunity Arose

Very few acts of infidelity are premeditated, asserts Isadora Alman, board-certified sex, marriage, and family therapist with more than 35 years’ worth of professional experience. ” Those who cheat do so usually because they weren’t actively looking for it,” she says. “The opportunity was there with a workmate, a classmate, someone in their social circle or at the gym, for instance.”

Similar opportunities exist in the digital realm, too. Social media, dating apps, and texting have revolutionized the ease at which we can connect with others, so it’s no surprise that these platforms often serve as a springboard for affairs even if the interactions start innocently, without the intent of something illicit. What’s more, women are generally more active on social media than men (although men are starting to close the gap).

11. Women cheat for sex

“Women appreciate good sex just like anyone else,” Nelson says. “Women cheat when they find a man or woman that turns them on.” If anyone tells you men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotion, she adds, they’re wrong. A recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that, although men are still more likely to cheat for sexual variety, it’s still among the top three reasons women cheat.

12. Unhappy with their current relationship

The same study found another top reason women cheat is that they’ve fallen out of love with their current primary partner. Even if the love is still there, in general, a woman who’s unhappy in her relationship may be more inclined to cheat. Whether because of anger, home, financial problems, family trouble the list goes on they may feel cheating will offer them what their current relationship isn’t.

“Women cheat because the relationship at home is cooling off,” Nelson says. “If there is tension or boredom at home, excitement on the side can be a distraction, a temptation too great to avoid.”

13. The new person made them feel special

Sometimes people cheat because the new person gave them a new feeling or made them feel like someone else. “Women report that an affair lover makes them feel special, sexy, and adored, and that attention is hard to ignore, no matter what their spouse does at home,” Nelson says.

14. It was just a mistake

The third top reason for women cheating, according to the study? It was just situational. Things like being drunk and “not thinking clearly.”

“Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes, affairs happen because of opportunity,” Nelson adds. “Women can act impulsively and then regret it.” In other words, it’s entirely possible there isn’t much deeper meaning aside from an opportunity that they weren’t able to pass up at the moment.

15. They want a breakup or a change

Sometimes people cheat because they want their relationship to end, and cheating seems like an easier way to break it than to directly confront their partner. But Nelson also points out that sometimes people cheat because they want something in their current relationship to change: “Women cheat to get out of a marriage, or to stay in one,” she says.

Who cheats more men or women?

Research suggests that men are more likely to cheat in committed relationships. One 2016 study suggests that on average, 20% of men have cheated versus 13% of women. Interestingly, women in the 18-29 age group actually cheated slightly more than men. Though as the years go on, fewer women cheat while more men cheat, and the gap gets wider over time.

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Why Married People Cheat and Common Causes of Infidelity in a Marriage

Posted on January 22, 2021May 2, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

Infidelity is one of the most distressing things you can experience in a romantic relationship. Here’s why lovers are motivated to be unfaithful, There are many causes of infidelity in a marriage, but among our modern society of instant gratification, these are the most common.

Is infidelity the chicken or the egg? Is it caused by a loveless marriage or rather by a marriage partner who is unwilling to commit and work through problems?

Infidelity is costly it can lead to tears, break-ups, divorces, and even violence. So why do people do it?

The question haunts lovers and fascinates researchers, with a recent study offering some sobering findings: You could be doing everything right and your partner could still be tempted to cheat for reasons that have nothing to do with you or the quality of feelings you share.

The following are some of my thoughts on the causes of infidelity in marriage:

1. Lack of love

Feeling that your partner is not “The One” for you. No longer feeling passionate love or even falling out of love. Perceiving the relationship to be boring, dull, or stagnant. “Lack of love is a powerful motivation it’s definitely one of the stronger ones,” Selterman noted.

2. Sexual desire

Feeling unsatisfied with the sex life you have in your relationship, perhaps because your partner has lost interest or you want to try something new that your partner can’t give you. “We also found people might be motivated to test the waters with regards to their own orientation or identity,” he said.

3. Neglect

Feeling that your partner is not paying enough attention to you or not spending enough time with you. Not feeling appreciated.

4. Situation

When you’re in a different setting or not quite yourself perhaps when you’re on vacation, drunk, or under a lot of stress you may have a momentary urge to sexually explore that would not necessarily be part of your stable, everyday behavior. “Landmark events,” such as an upcoming 40th birthday, may also lead you to cheat. One study showed “9-enders“ people who are 29, 39, 49, and so on may seek an affair as they approach a new decade to try to find meaning in their life.

5. Variety

You live by the motto “You only live once,” so you want to try lots of sexual experiences with as many partners as possible.

6. The Internet

The Internet is a major facilitator of infidelity. It is much easier to find forbidden fruit online than it is in person. There are so many websites where people can meet with no questions asked. Think of the tag line of Ashley Madison – “Life is Short. Have an Affair.”

7. Running Away from Problems

Running away from problems is a major contributor to infidelity. Making excuses rather than facing the music with your spouse opens the door to infidelity, especially emotional affairs. I have heard many examples where a spouse would tell me that he or she has found a coworker with a shoulder to lean on. It should be no surprise that sympathetic coworkers regularly become participants in illicit affairs.

8. Pornography

Pornography is rampant on the Internet – but does this lead to affairs? Does it lead to emotional affairs and the death of love and trust? Absolutely! Internet and “porn addiction” are significant factors causing the breakdown of marriages today. And you might be surprised to know that this problem is not discriminatory toward men. More and more women suffer from the Internet and porn addiction today just as much as men.

9. Escort Services

Escort services and the like, including “online massages,” etc., are much more attainable in our age of social media than it ever was before. Scrutinizing credit card charges is but one of the contributing factors as to why divorces are expensive.

10. Facebook

Facebook is now a contributing factor to about a third of all divorces. A couple of years ago, that number was 25%. You can meet anyone online. I have had cases where someone reconnected with a high school sweetheart and ran off during the divorce even though the sweetheart lived over 3,000 miles away. An online fantasy that the “grass is greener on the other side” is a significant cause in the breakdown of marriages today.

11. Boredom

Boredom can lead to an affair. Many people fall into routines, including tired routines in the bedroom. What do you do to keep your marriage fresh? Many divorces could be possibly avoided if people took the time and commitment to communicate verbally and physically and keep things exciting. Some people look for excitement to escape boredom. It can be by experimenting with other relationships, trying drugs, fast cars, or hanging out with different people. I once had a case where a husband wanted a ménage à trois for his milestone birthday. His wife agreed to the gift. Over time, the couple experimented with wife-swapping and ultimately his wife ran off with someone else.

12. Growing Apart with Your Partner

People grow apart. Do you and your spouse have the same goals anymore? Do you want to ride off into the sunset together after the children are grown? Is your spouse your best friend?

13. Addiction

Alcohol and drugs often go hand in hand with affairs. I have seen many cases where a spouse will trade one addiction for another. A person’s addiction to drugs or alcohol is chemically no different than an addiction to the Internet, porn, food, or any other unhealthy excess.

14. Not Married for the Right Reasons

Did you marry for the right reason? Or better yet, did you become the “right” person for your spouse? Do you both have enough in common? If not, you will often look for that commonality in the arms of someone else.

15. Lack of Respect at Home

Does your spouse treat you well? Do you treat your spouse well in return? Over the years I have seen many doctors, for example, run off with their nurse or other medical support staff. It’s really not surprising that doctors, in general, are often worshipped by their staff at work, but in contrast at home, they are treated with a lack of respect. Does ego-stroking lead to affairs? Absolutely. Everyone enjoys a compliment; it would go a long way if spouses found ways to complement each other regularly.

16. Feeling Unappreciated

Some people fall into having an affair simply because they feel that they are not appreciated at home or that they are “doing all of the work” in keeping a marriage and home together. Again, questions to ask are these: Am I appreciative of my spouse? Am I being the “right person” for my spouse? If more people harbored a “servant’s” mindset for their spouse, more and more affairs and divorces could be avoided.

17. Issues Involving Body Image and Aging

Issues involving body image and weight gain as well as aging can, unfortunately, lead to an affair and or divorce. Some people will “trade-in” an aging spouse for a “younger” model. Of course, the point of this paragraph has nothing to do with unavoidable medical issues. But let’s face it. Many spouses tend to “let themselves go” over time. During the “romance” period, both spouses typically try to present themselves in the best possible light to “win” the affections and marriage commitment of the other. Once the prize (marriage) is won, many people think that “the chase is over.” Not so. Marriage is only the beginning. If people continued to consciously keep “chasing” their spouse, affairs and divorces could be avoided.

18. Esteem

You feel sleeping with others will improve your sense of self-worth, signal your independence or increase your social status and popularity.

19. Anger

You suspect or know your partner has betrayed you, so you want to get even. “The motivation is revenge,” Selterman said.

20. Insecurity

At the same time, too much insecurity can be one of the causes of infidelity in a marriage. The need for constant reaffirmation can lead to an affair, especially if one spouse becomes “too needy” or “too clingy.” It’s a delicate balance to find, but marriage requires nothing less than true and dedicated commitment.

21. Living Apart for Extended Periods of Time

Travel for work and living apart for extended periods of time invariably lead to affairs. Think of the movie Up in the Air with George Clooney. There, the female character carried on an affair with George Clooney’s character. George fell in love with her only to discover later that she was married and cheating on her husband with him.

22 Low commitment

This is oriented toward people’s definitions of exclusivity, Selterman said. “Some people say they never discussed being exclusive with their partner or ‘I didn’t want to get too close,’ or ‘I don’t envision a future with this person,’” he noted. “They’re in a relationship, but they haven’t specified that the commitment level is high or the exclusivity is there.”Excitement, forbidden fruit, boredom, opportunity, enticement, retaliation as you can see, the reasons why people have affairs are endless.

Men are more likely to have affairs than women and are often seeking more sex or attention. Men express their love in a more physical way they often don’t have the perfect “feeling words” for their wives. So sex becomes an important path to connection and intimacy.

If men aren’t sexually satisfied (for instance, if their spouse declines sex often), they take that rejection to heart, and it can easily translate to feeling “unloved.” In fact, men are more likely than women to cheat due to a feeling of insecurity.

When women cheat, they’re often trying to fill an emotional void. Women frequently complain of disconnection from a spouse, and of the wish to be desired and cherished. Women are more likely to feel unappreciated or ignored, and seek the emotional intimacy of an extramarital relationship.

An affair is more often a “transitional” partner for the woman as a way to end the relationship. She is seriously looking to leave her marriage and this other person helps her do just that.

That’s not to say that sexual satisfaction isn’t a primary driver of affairs for wives as well as husbands. Similarly, boredom with the marital relationship may lead both men and women to cheat.

With or without individual or marital risk factors there are a number of possible reasons for marital infidelity. Underlying many of the reasons, however, lie a few threads. One is the role of unmet needs.

One partner may be incapable of fulfilling their partner’s needs, but far too often, those needs have not been expressed. Marital partners are not mind-readers. Another is the lack of addressing problems directly.

Content courtesy of Today, Very well mind, Divorce Mag & Nairobi fashion hub

What are Multiple orgasms and how do you get them

Posted on December 10, 2020May 2, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

The orgasm is widely regarded as the peak of sexual excitement. It is a powerful feeling of physical pleasure and sensation, which includes a discharge of accumulated erotic tension.

Overall though, not a great deal is known about the orgasm, and over the past century, theories about the orgasm and its nature have shifted dramatically. For instance, healthcare experts have only relatively recently come round to the idea of the female orgasm, with many doctors as recently as the 1970s claiming that it was normal for women not to experience them.

Numerous studies have proven that women get the short end of the stick when it comes to orgasms in heterosexual relationships, with men having nearly double as many orgasms as women do.

Nobody is at fault here, men and women are just built differently, and it seems the evolutionary cards are quite heavily stacked against the female orgasm.

The Orgasm Gap is a real thing, people, and it’s not going to change any time soon.

There is one bright shining light at the end of the tunnel for us women, though. We can have multiple orgasms.

What are multiple orgasms?

Multiple orgasms can be defined as having more than one orgasm in a single session. These can be spaced out over some time, happen one right after the other, or it might feel like you’re having a wave of continuous orgasms during the entire session.

Although some men claim to be able to have multiple orgasms, this is an almost exclusively female ability. During the refractory period (the time between an orgasm and when you feel sexually aroused again), men are unable to get an erection, which is needed to reach orgasm.

Women, on the other hand, don’t need an erection to reach orgasm and therefore have a much shorter refractory period. In short, women were built to have multiple orgasms.

Some more good news

If you have a vagina and a clitoris, there is more than a 70% chance that you are capable of having multiple orgasms, compared to only 10% of men in their early twenties.

Of that 70%, most are be able to come anywhere between 2 and 5 times per session from different types of stimulation, and the fortunate ones get to have up to 30 or 40 orgasms (I suppose you start losing count after about 20).

The unofficial world record for most orgasms in an hour was set when doctors at the Centre for Marital and Sexual Studies in California recorded the case of an anonymous woman having an unbelievable 134 orgasms in an hour. In comparison, the best any male has been able to achieve is a meagre 16.

So you want to have multiple orgasms? I don’t blame you. Orgasms are pretty amazing.

Here are a few things you could try

Foreplay

It’s a well-known fact that women need a lot more foreplay than men to get fully aroused, so make sure you take your time. Apart from sex toys, oral sex is your best bet if you’re looking to have multiple orgasms as most women require clitoral stimulation to push them over the edge.

You don’t necessarily have to reach orgasm during foreplay, just make sure you take it slow, and you will stay aroused for longer.

Your orgasms will also be much more intense.

Switch positions after every orgasm

After your first orgasm, your clitoris will be sensitive, and even though you have a much shorter refractory period, it still needs a little break. You can do this by switching to a position that focuses more on internal stimulation.

Just be sure to keep checking in on your clitoris, you’ll be surprised how swiftly you’ll be ready for that second orgasm.

Strengthen your pelvic floor

Many books have been written about the benefits of Kegel exercises. Stronger pelvic floor muscles have many benefits such as better bladder control and of course increased sensation during sex. Regular Kegel exercises will also further reduce your refractory period, leading to more orgasms. Not a bad trade-off for a couple of minutes of training per day.

Masturbate more

The best way to explore and learn about your body is by doing it yourself. You probably already know how to make yourself come once, now start giving yourself multiple orgasms. Instead of high-fiving yourself or falling asleep after your first orgasm, begin playing again as soon as your first orgasm starts fading away.

You may have to decrease the stimulation a bit or focus on a different area, but don’t stop. Slowly increase the intensity as your arousal builds up again until you reach climax again. The key is to keep the stimulation going; you’ll be riding a wave of continuous orgasms in no time.

Use toys

Almost every woman I have ever spoken to find it easier to come with a sex toy than with a partner. If you have a toy with multiple settings, it’s a great way to switch up the sensations, and if you require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm (like 99% of all women), a trusty rabbit or bullet vibrator is exactly what you need.

Pro tip: They’re also convenient when your partner requires a bit of a break, so please teach them how to use it.

Things the Most Toxic People in Your Life Have in Common

Posted on November 7, 2020May 2, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

Do you know a toxic person?

Even if you don’t now, at some point in your life you’re bound to have come across a person who fits the description. Dealing with such an individual can be difficult and draining, to say the least. In fact, it may challenge what you know about yourself and push you to the limits. Here are some traits to familiarize yourself with, and to help you navigate these trying relationships:

Toxic people are manipulative. Their modus operandi is to get people to do what they want them to do. It’s all about them. They use other people to accomplish whatever their goal happens to be. Forget what you want; this is not about equality in a relationship far from it.
They are judgmental. Keep your eyes and ears open for criticism about you, what you’ve done, and what you didn’t do. It’s never about them, and they will lie if it serves them.
They take no responsibility for their own feelings. Rather, their feelings are projected onto you. If you try to point this out to them, they will likely vehemently defend their perspective, and take no responsibility for almost anything they do.
They don’t apologize. They don’t see any reason to, because things are always someone else’s fault. In many instances, although they try to orchestrate relationships to serve their own ends, they try to gain sympathy and attention by claiming “victim” status.
They are inconsistent. It’s hard to know who you’re with at any given time because they are often not the same person. They may change their perspective, attitude, and behavior depending on what they feel they need to accomplish or what they want to have happen. (And they know how to be kind when they want something from you.
They make you prove yourself to them. Toxic people make you choose them over someone else, or something they want over something you want. Often, this turns into a “divide and conquer” dynamic in which the only choice is them, even to the point of requiring you to cut off other meaningful relationships to satisfy them.
They make you defend yourself. They have difficulty staying on point about certain issues, probably because they’re not interested in your point of view or trying to reach an amicable conclusion. Remember, they are supreme manipulators: Their tactics may include being vague and arbitrary, as well as diverting the focus of the discussion to how you’re discussing an issue your tone, your words, etc. They focus on problems, not solutions.
They are not caring, supportive, or interested in what’s important to you. In fact, the good things that happen to you move the attention away from them and thwart them from focusing on their own goals. Beware of people who find fault with you and make you wrong. Loyalty is foreign to them.

The traits of toxic people can be very hard to identify, particularly with the rise of anonymity on the internet. When is somebody just kind of a bad influence, and when are they truly toxic?

When is somebody just in a bad mood, or not dealing with stress well, or just toxic? Is there any way to truly recognize toxic traits in the people around you? Psychologists have been trying to find the answers to these questions for a long time.

Content courtesy Psychology Today & Learning Mind

Does Size Really Matter, When it comes to Sex?

Posted on September 23, 2020July 29, 2024 by Sex Guru

Men obsess about their bodies just like women. Too fat, too tall, too small… And we all know many are especially obsessed when it comes to their equipment. How does your guy measure up? We talked to everyday women and sexperts…

When it comes to size and aesthetics, it’s a rare guy who wants an honest assessment of his anatomy. But every so often, women hear this question:

“What do you think of my penis?

”That’s sure to jolt you out of a post-coital daze.

Should you lie? Tell the truth?

What’s so surprising about this question is the naked vulnerability it reveals; it’s the male equivalent of “Does this make me look fat?”

Sizing Him Up
I once got “the question” when I was seeing a man who was smaller than I preferred. But I was enormously attracted to him and the electricity we generated could have lit up Times Square. In that unguarded moment, I think I liked him even more for giving me a peek at his anxieties.

And so I said, quite honestly, “Absolutely. It’s amazing.

”For all the reassurances from urologists, sex therapists and girlfriends and wives that it’s not the size of the boat but how they captain it that matters, guys still wonder: Do I measure up?

Yes, size matters. But not the way men might think it does.

When It’s Too Big
“We’ve put such inflated importance on size, and as a result, women’s eyes are bigger than their vaginas,” says Anne Semans, marketing director for the sex toy boutique chain Babeland. Semans knows women’s size preferences, at least when it comes to dildos. Babeland’s most popular model measures 6 inches long and 1-1/4 inches around, though women do seek longer and fatter too.

“The cultural perception is that bigger is going to feel better,” Semans says. But, she adds, that’s not always the case. In fact, women who overreach often end up returning dildos (unopened, of course).“Too big and you’re going to need a lot of lube, there more friction and it might chafe,” Semans says. “Even your orgasmic contractions may be less powerful.”

Logically, the same holds true for penises of the non-silicone variety. Many women may initially enjoy the sight of a big guy.

But their next reaction is often, Ouch! My friend Shari, 38, agrees. She’s dated guys who were too long and too thick. “If it’s too big, it can be overwhelming and painful,” she says. “You have to really be ready to deal with something that large.”

Second Time Is Not a Charm
Here’s something else guys don’t take into account when wishing for more inches: A woman may be reluctant to vault that big pole again.

“You can be sore the next day and not so eager to have intercourse,” Shari says. “There were definitely times I said, ‘Don’t poke me with that thing.

’”My friend Alice, 31, understands that all too well. She confesses she was so saddle-sore after a romp with a bigger-than-usual guy that the next day she made an emergency appointment with her gynecologist. And although they dated for three months, she refused to get back on that bronco again.

“He wanted to, but I diverted him with oral sex or made excuses to avoid having sex with him,” she says.

You Can Really Get Hurt
Anecdotes aside, accommodating an extra-large penis can result in vaginal injury. Extra-long members can bump against a woman’s cervix during intercourse, causing discomfort or pain.

With larger girth, tearing could occur and cause bleeding. Making sex pleasurable with a well-hung honey comes down to three things: lubricant, patience and position experimentation.

So Is Smaller Better?
Although too big can certainly be a big problem, nobody wants a pinkie-sized fellow either.

Take my friend Claudia, who dated a guy with an outsized sense of himself. He stretched the truth about what he did, where he lived, what he owned. In short, he was a showboat.

When Claudia finally got into bed with him, she understood what he was compensating for. “I never realized that they came in petite!” she says. “I slept with him again just to get another look at it.”

I got a similar surprise one night when I was out with a guy that I had a huge crush on one summer.

He was big and burly, and when we kissed, he literally swept me off my feet.After too many drinks, we ended up back at his place. But lo and behold, where I expected a giant redwood was… a sapling. Passion carried the moment, but I learned a valuable lesson about drawing any conclusions based on a man’s hands, feet or stature.

But it’s unfair to claim that a “good fit” is up to the man. Have a couple of children the old-fashioned way, and you may not be as tight down there anymore. That can make a slender penis feel too small.

Help for the Size-Challenged
Toys can help. Rings and penis pumps can (temporarily) add girth for guys with more modest holdings.

Women can do their part by using Kegel exercises to tighten the vaginal walls, leading to a snugger fit.“That gives you more control over your vaginal muscles so that during intercourse, you’re contracting more and harder, so that feels good for both of you,” Semans says.

Before You Write Him Off

Also, before ending things with a guy who doesn’t measure up, consider his ability to compensate for his shortcomings. Can he please you in other ways? Being attentive to your needs is the most important quality in a good lover, regardless of his penis size.

When it comes down to it, it’s not about actual inches, how big he is or how tight you are, but what you both do with the equipment you’ve got and how it all feels when you’re together.

Says Shari: “My husband isn’t the biggest I’ve ever been with or the smallest. But we fit together very well. It’s just right.”

Content courtesy of Every Day Health & Nairobi fashion hub Online Digital Team

Keeping your vagina clean and healthy 5 Odour your vagina shouldn’t smell like

Posted on September 23, 2020May 2, 2024 by Resident Love Doctor

Feminine odor is something all women deal with. And while it’s natural for your vagina to have some kind of smell, certain smells can signal something’s wrong.

Vaginal odor is the smell that your vagina and usually your discharge – gives off. A certain amount of vaginal odor is normal, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (ACOG). Vaginal smell variations are likely a result of your menstrual cycle, your hygiene habits, or just you being you.

Here are a few things that might cause your vagina’s natural scent to go awry:

1. Smelling like fish

A fish smell can indicate bacterial vaginosis. Several bacteria grow in your vagina. They are completely normal and keep the vagina healthy. Bacterial vaginosis is caused by an imbalance of different types of bacteria. It is helped by washing the vagina with soap, vaginal showers or sprays, holding down a tampon too long, antibiotics or an IUD.

Sometimes bacterial vaginosis has no symptoms. Other times it can lead to symptoms such as a thick or foaming discharge that is usually white or grey or yellowish, a strong smelly fish smell (especially after sex or washing with soap) and itching.

Reasons for a dead fish odor

Bacterial vaginosis. “You get bacterial vaginosis when there’s an overgrowth of anaerobic bacteria in the vagina,” says Minkin. “And these anaerobic organisms are odorous.”
Trichomoniasis. Trichomoniasis is the most common curable sexually transmitted infection and easily treatable with a course of antibiotics. It’s known for its pungent fishy odor. “The trichomoniasis infection can be quite smelly,” says Minkin. “It’s a more pronounced fishy odor than bacterial vaginosis.”

2. Yeast infection

This is a very common type of fungal infection and is caused by the overgrowth of a type of yeast known as candida. Shape says the most obvious symptom is the presence of a thick, white discharge that looks like cottage cheese. Other symptoms include redness and itching around the vaginal area, as well as a burning sensation or pain when you urinate or have sex. Even though yeast infections don’t come with a strong odour, there can sometimes also be a mild scent that resembles bread or yeast.

There are over-the-counter medications to treat this but, If it’s your first time getting a yeast infection, see your doctor first before you buy any medications, and if it doesn’t improve or keeps returning, get some advice from your doctor too.

Reasons for a sweet odor

Bacteria. Yep, bacteria again. Your vaginal pH is an ever-changing bacterial ecosystem. And sometimes this means you might smell a little sweet.

3. Your vagina smells like copper or metal

If you’re smelling a coppery smell, it’s could be tied to blood. Blood contains iron, which is responsible for the metallic smell. Teen Vogue says if you’re on your period, that could be the cause of the copper odour. Even if it’s not your period, you could be experiencing light bleeding from sex and that could be the culprit. A copper smell is no cause for alarm, unless you’re also experiencing itching, burning and/or suspicious discharge.

To treat it, try using a lubricant if you’re experiencing light bleeding related to intercourse; the additional moisture can help prevent small cuts or scrapes from forming in the vagina.

Reasons for a coppery odor

Blood. Blood contains iron, which has a metallic smell. The most common reason for blood is menstruation. During your period, blood and tissue shed from your uterine lining and travel through your vaginal canal.
Sex. Light bleeding after sex can be common. This is usually due to vaginal dryness or vigorous sex that can cause small cuts or scrapes. To prevent this, try using lube.

4. Smelling like fermented foods

Speaking to Healthline, Dr Mary Jane Minkin, who has more than 30 years of experience working in women’s health says, it’s very common for vaginas to produce a tangy or sour aroma. Some compare it to the smell of fermented foods. In fact, yoghurt, sourdough bread, and even some sour beer contain the same type of good bacteria that dominate most healthy vaginas: Lactobacilli.

The pH of a healthy vagina is slightly acidic, between 3.8 and 4.5. “The Lactobacilli bacteria keep the vagina acidic,” says Minkin. “This protects against an overgrowth of the bad kinds of bacteria.”

If it smells curiously similar to that sour IPA you had last weekend, don’t freak out.

Reasons for a tangy odor

Acidity. The pH of a healthy vagina is slightly acidic, between 3.8 and 4.5. “The Lactobacilli bacteria keep the vagina acidic,” says Minkin. “This protects against an overgrowth of the bad kinds of bacteria.”

5. Rotten like a decaying organism

You accidentally left a tampon in there, It happens and probably more often than you’d think, Lauren Streicher, a professor of clinical obstetrics and genecology at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, tells SELF. Some people may put in a just-in-case tampon toward the end of their period and forget about it, don’t remember that they have one in before putting in a new one, or forget and have sex with one in and it gets pushed sideways into the back of cervix, she says. “Every gynaecologist has had the experience of a woman coming in with an odor, discovering it was a forgotten tampon, and feeling mortified,” she says.

Reasons for a rotten odor

A forgotten tampon. Inadvertently letting a tampon go days, even weeks, inside a vagina is much more common than you’d think. “I can’t tell you how many tampons I’ve taken out of patients,” says Minkin. “This happens to lots and lots of people. It isn’t something you need to be embarrassed about.”

When you should see a doctor

In general, abnormal odors should be easy to spot. They’re the ones that make your face scrunch up. Rotting fish, dead organism, decay — these are all red flag odors.

If there’s a serious cause, often other symptoms will appear alongside the smell.

See your doctor if an odor is accompanied with:

itching or burning
pain
pain during sex
thick, cottage cheese discharge
vaginal bleeding unrelated to your period

Smells change, and that’s OK

Subtle shifts in your vaginal fragrance is normal. Remember, the way your vagina smells has everything to do with its pH. And there are lots of things that affect your pH.

Take penile vaginal sex, for instance. Semen has a relatively high pH, so it’s super normal to notice a different kind of smell after you’ve had penile vaginal sex. Don’t worry though, this change is only temporary.

Menopause also has an effect on vaginal pH. “Due to a lack of estrogen, women in menopause end up with less vaginal mucosa,” says Minkin. “Vaginal mucosa lines the vagina and nurtures the Lactobacilli bacteria. So, without these cells you can end up with a much higher pH.”

Our advice? Don’t be afraid to really get to know your vagina, in all its fragrant glory. The better you understand the smells your vagina produces day to day, the more prepared you’ll be when something goes amiss. After all, vaginas do so many wonderful things for us. It’s about time we start understanding what they’re really all about.

Content courtesy of Health Line & Nairobi fashion hub

Why Dating Matters

Posted on April 13, 2020 by Linda Wairegi

Nowadays, we live our lives online, and dating doesn’t matter.

Anything can be sorted in a second because we live in a digital world. Alex doesn’t need to wait near a telephone for Cynthia to call him at exactly 3 pm on Friday.

John Doe spotted Jane Doe twerking on Instagram and DMed her for her other social media pages. Then, they flirted on Twitter with cute emoticons, before Skyping their love away and getting engaged on Facebook in front of his close friends and families.

So John can’t understand why Jane wants physical dates now.

His mind keeps wondering: Why hustle so hard? Can’t she ask him instead? Why put himself out there? Will the boys make fun over him because he’s pining over his crush? What if he’s crush says no? Isn’t dating overrated? What if she only wants me for A or B? Why bother if they’ll still break up, anyway? Why do face to face conversations matter so much when I can text her instead? Don’t all words matter.

So here’s a small list looking at why dating still matters.

IT ACTS AS A FILTER

Adam sees the most beautiful women, every day, on his way to work, but he’s never spoken to her. Instead, he fantasizes that she’s probably the muse of his dreams. Adam asks her out on a date to see his emotions are running wild or if there’s something valid there. It’ll also help him separate the wheat from the chaff.

IT SETS A PACE

Lisa likes taking things nice and slow because why rush perfection. She doesn’t like people that try to speed up the whole dating process. It feels like they have something to hide. So during dating, she can set the pace.

IT SETS GROUND RULES

Stacy has pet peeves that she can’t overlook and she’d rather stay on her own. As she goes out on her second, or third date, she’s able to communicate this, freely and it gives the other person, an opportunity to decide if they still want to pursue Stacy or not.

IT HELPS DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Tom isn’t looking for a typical relationship, and he’s not afraid to say it. Instead, he’s looking for something experimental, like ‘She’s Gotta Have It.’ Diana has been meditating and praying, about dating with a purpose. She realises about Tom and instantly understands that they’re incompatible.

IT ACTS A MIRROR

Lulu knows that by going out with James, she’ll learn something new about herself. It’ll feel like she’s staring at her reflection, in a vulnerable way.

IT ACTS AS A BASIS FOR A RELATIONSHIP

Alternatively, James can build a solid foundation through each shared experience with his partners. It lets both of them understand each other, plus build trust and intimacy.

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